click to enlargeFemdom is a combination of the two shortened words “Female” and “Domination”, and describes a Bondage/S&M relationship in which the woman is the dominant party.
Think of a wicked woman warden with nipple clamps and butt plugs and whips, all administered with emotionless discipline, and you’ve got the idea.
Turning the tables on the traditional sexual dynamic in which the man is the one in control, Femdom gives both parties the opportunity to explore a new role during carnal intimacy. The man gives up power, and is governed by the dominant woman.
Finally, equality I can get behind.
Speaking of behind, Femdom is interesting because the power roles can slide up and down like a rubber fist inside your asshole. She can be in complete control, or the man can have a little power. In any circumstances, she is the boss, though.
The visualization most people have when they think of a Femdom is the tall, powerful blonde woman dressed up in her leather outfit with high heels and a whip. The porn films that began with “Ilsa, She-Wolf of the S.S.” portrayed such a woman, and were very successful. In them, Ilsa would take men from the camp and use them as sexual slaves, much to their pleasure, as well as hers. Highly recommended.
Nowadays, most cities have ads for Femdom in the classified sections of the newspaper. Offering a quality Femdom service is a very specialized, lucrative business for some women. It might seem like an easy thing to do, but a thorough Femdom experience is one which takes time to learn. A professional Femdom will be well-versed in bondage, orgasm denial, teasing, humiliation, and psychological control. Plus, the leather outfits and sex/torture instruments that a good Femdom has in her dungeon will often be extensive.
They will also know the limits of activities such as gagging, face-sitting, strap-on penetration (pegging), whipping, and caning. These activities can cause considerable damage if someone is not used to employing them, and things go too far. Novice Femdoms should always use a safe-word until their skills are honed to avoid serious injury.
My favorite safe word has always been “fartface”. Feel free to use it too.
Women who incorporate Femdom into their sexual dynamic express great pleasure in the exploration of a new sexual role. It is always helpful to talk about the limits you and your partner want to maintain during the power exchange, so that the sex play never goes too far. You don’t want her to get too enthusiastic and end up with a size ten poop shoot!
Or, maybe you do!
1. Andrea was always a little on the butch side, so when I found out that she was a professional Femdom on the side, it made perfect sense. Plus, it explains her dungeon, and testicle-clamp collection.
2. Charles loves having sex in the basement with his Femdom wife. He wears a diaper and she bosses him around like a mommy. Afterwards, they go to evening mass.
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