A fag hag is a delightful term used to describe a woman who is with a closeted gay man so that he is not seen as the homosexual that he is. There are several instances for which the term can be used. They are described in the following.
A fag hag can be fully aware that she is with a gay man. They may have an arrangement so that they can both benefit from the relationship. She may enjoy the company or the lifestyle, and he can introduce her as his girlfriend to his right-winged religious boss. The couple may even marry and live in a domestic partnership, sharing assets and a home life. Yet the two are still free to explore any sexual desires they may have with other people. Friends with benefits, but the benefits definitely aren’t sex.
Fag hags may also believe themselves to be in fully-functional heterosexual relationships. They may deny their friends’ accusations that their boyfriend has been hitting on the UPS man. They may make up odd or lame excuses why they aren’t having sex with their “hetero” boyfriend – “he’s been working late a lot”, “he is in a bad place in his life and doesn’t feel like fucking”, or my personal favorite – “he just doesn’t like sex”. This is seen as an extreme case of fag hag denial. Or, the only sexual act between a fag hag and her boyfriend is in the form of blowjobs, or doggystyle without any eye contact or kissing. This is rare but can still happen with a fag hag, furthering her belief that her man is, in fact, into dick.
1. Mary was a fag hag for Ben for 8 months. She got $12,000 in jewelry out of the deal so I don’t blame her!
2. Derek sought a proper fag hag for his upcoming theatre date with his boss and his boss’ wife Glenda.
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