Facesitting is the act of sitting on a person’s face for sexual pleasure. It is usually done as part of BDSM or dom/sub play, but is different than smothering, in which the person is deprived of air. In facesitting, the person on the bottom always can breathe, but still has the darkness, smells, and confines of the straddling to contend with. It is an activity that can be done in combination with bondage, so that the person on the bottom has very little freedom of motion. The more extreme the facesitting, obviously, the more precautions should be taken to avoid injury.

If the woman is doing the facesitting, she can position herself in a variety of different configurations to achieve different results. If she wants to have the sub’s face at her pussy, than she should sit facing the sub’s head. If she wants her anus to be the focus, then she should sit facing the sub’s feet. If she wants both to get some attention, then she can find a position that that works in.

Facesitting is all about power. The person who is doing the facesitting is literally putting their asshole on the other person’s face. The person to whom the facesitting is being done receives feelings of submission which can be really erotic to some people, especially men. Giving up the power for some men is something rare in their lives, and as we all know, novelty is hot.

There is also specialty furniture such as a “smotherbox” or “queening chair” that aficionados can buy for facesitting. They look a little like a small outhouse, so if company asks what it is, you can lie and say it’s a midget’s outdoor toilet from the olden days.

A little tip for any prospective facesitters: take a shower first. Unless, of course, you want the stink to be part of the dominance. And remember to stay safe!

1. Mark was a little worried when he got an e-mail from his wife saying that she wanted to try some facesitting when he got home. Apparently she had been watching porn all afternoon, and was really horny. She got particularly randy when she watched some facesitting videos, and was looking forward to trying it on Mark. Mark’s wife was a little chubby, so he was worried about possible suffocation problems. When he got home, she assured him that he would be able to breathe, and if at any point he couldn’t, then he should tap her thigh three times. Unfortunately, Mark never learned to count past two, so he died.

2. Jim and John had been gay lovers for about a year before they started to play with dom/sub roles during sex. John said he thought he’d enjoy being the sub, so he asked Jim to do some facesitting. Jim asked John how clean he wanted his anus and taint to be, and since it was their first time, John requested Jim take a shower and really get clean. After the facesitting, they tried some light spanking and nipple clamps. A fun night for them both!

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