Discipline is the administration of training which results in the participant becoming more physically, mentally, and/or spiritually adept. In terms of BDSM, it involves any activity in which one person trains another person to act or behave in a specific way, often by enforcing rigid codes of conduct or by inflicting punishment for failure to behave in the prescribed way. Discipline refers to dolling out discipline in a sadomasochistic relationship. There is, of course, many ways to do this. There’s the usual flogging, spanking, slapping, biting, clawing and various other typical BDSM ways.
The best part about being disciplined is that it can come when you’re least expecting it. It can come when you’re making dinner and maybe you left the roast in the oven just a little too long and it comes out a little overdone and your lover takes one bite of that beef and demands that you bend over immediately, you know it’s going to be something good. This particular discipline session might take hours. It might mean a slow pulling up of a skirt and pulling down of a pair of panties. The spankings might start out slow with just a little light smacking with the back of the hand. It could easily grow to hard smacks with hands and the riding crop you used back when you used to ride horses. It could eventually result in your tied up with your hands behind your back in restraints and your ankles roped together and a gag in your mouth and a blindfold on getting a series of spankings.
Whether you’re the one giving it or the one receiving it, incorporating some form of discipline can be something that can bring you and your lover closer together. There has to be a great deal of trust in a relationship in order to establish a dom/sub situation. Both individuals have to figure out the rules of there sexual dynamic and both have to be comfortable with it. The one being disciplined needs to want that pain mixed with pleasure, that training for submission. The one who does the discipline must be very astute when it comes to their lovers body cues and language so that even while their lover is begging them to stop, they know him/her so well that they can tell when the begging is fake or real. Also, always have a safe word. Don’t leave home without it.
1. My wife and I both like to be disciplined. It’s been hard on our relationship because neither of us want to be the one to do the disciplining. We’ve had to come to a compromise, but it’s been great. We hire someone to come in and spank both of us. That way we both get to be bottoms and get humiliated on our hands and knees and then as soon as the dominatrix goes home we can fuck like bunnies.
2. When I get disciplined, I like it when my lover leaves bite marks all over my body.
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