But what to do? One cannot simply walk into a bar and announce that you like dominance and submission, foot fucking, or strap-on sex. Happily, the Internet can aid one in finding the Dominatrix of your dreams or perhaps the circle jerk party you’ve been lusting after.

There are dozens of adult chat rooms and message boards on the Internet devoted to almost any fetish you can imagine. Some simple searches will help one find friends-or perhaps even cybersex hookups-who share more of your deviant tastes than one ever dreamed imaginable. Of course, this is just virtual companionship.
What about when one yearns for the real thing?

The first step of course is online adult dating sites. On these sites,– most of which allow you to look around at their ‘wares’ for free – to see what other kind of hot babes, kinky people, doms, subs, slaves or fetish fans you can find. But hesitation will get one nowhere, we should make a profile and list favorites, whether they are dildos or double penetration, as soon as we can. Pretty soon you’ll be finding all kinds of lovers, fuckbuddies, even threesomes and orgies, …but there are just as many people out there like you doing the same thing!

Of course just dipping one’’s toe in the water won’t make a big splash. One can also use the Internet to find real world social gatherings, sometimes called Munches in BDSM slang. There one can meet other masochists, sadists, or kinky people in a non-threatening social situation. From there you’ll hear about all kinds of exciting events from rope bondage classes to crazy sex parties complete with flogging and fisting.

Sluts and the sexually adventurous had to keep themselves hidden once upon a time. While they may still have to worry about jobs or other issues in the modern world, the Internet allows for the best of both worlds… so we can reach out and touch someone, in a multitude of ways.

It’s obvious that sex is a natural part of the human experience, and everyone comes with a different set of fetishes and desires. If we don’t seek out a healthy sex life, it can be as damaging as trying to go without any of our other most basic needs, leading to depression or at least unhappiness. Who knows how many hide their fantasies –for BDSM, threesomes, sex toys, or anything vanilla or twisted – when they could easily find the object of their desires if they just tried, perhaps on an online dating site.

The healthy reality is that sex has countless benefits. It releases endorphins, which give pleasure, cause feelings of euphoria, and even relieve pain. The effect of arousal on the mucous membranes of the body can relieve congestion. Many have heard the old phrase “I have a headache;” in actuality the effect of orgasms can relieve headaches. Some studies have even shown that recreational spanking can aid people with chronic pain conditions like arthritis.

Unlike many animals on earth, we use sex and sexual pleasure for procreation as well as social networking. Today’s hookups may be tomorrow’s business contact (or long term partner!). Who knows – stranger things have happened? Sex can bring friends closer together, and create new bonds in your social circle. Instead of worrying about whether you should sleep with sorts of exciting new possibilities for pleasure.

While most hookups remain just hookups, other things can happen. A threesome can turn into a true triad, or a permanent master/slave relationship, arising from casual playtimes.

So what are you waiting for? Get out there and find someone to spank, kiss, or play out your porn fantasies with! Because dreams do come true.

Another way to turn on a girlfriend is through the written word. Or, more specifically, in reading pornography. What a boyfriend might get off on through watching, a girlfriend might get off on through reading about. There is an abundance of written erotica available on the internet these days. In addition to websites that feature erotic stories, there are e-book sites that specialize in a variety of erotica. It’s easy to find erotica for nearly every taste. Purchase a collection of short stories with themes that are of interest. There are anthologies of bondage stories, spanking tales, novels where threesomes figure into the action and even maintstream books with their share of sex scenes. Some erotica is soft and sexy, while others can be hard core and very kinky indeed.
Couples can tease one another on special reading nights. Instead of going out to a movie or a sex club, they can stay home and read aloud from a favorite porn story. If either the guy or gal is into something slightly kinky partners can blindfold one another, or be tied to the bed while the reader taunts and teases them with words. Chapters can even be made to last with the story read over multiple nights and of course any and all manner of touching can ensue while one person reads to another.
Remember how kids used to beg to have another story read to them at bedtime? Begging can also be sexy. But begging for another chapter, or begging to get off is an adult way to make this nighttime ritual even sexier. One partner might make bargain with the other to be read to, or offer to strip tease while their lover reads slow steady passages, in affect egging them on with words.

Reading a story out loud is verbal foreplay. And it can also give some great ideas as to what to experiment with as sexual exploration grows.