Many people today are interested in sharing spanking as a kind of fun erotic play on its own or as a spicy addition to sex with their lovers. The ass has many nerves and is very sensitive to touch or to slapping with bare hands or deliciously painful paddles. In addition to the pleasure pain connection found in other parts of the body, which can release powerful endorphins in the brain, the proximity to the genitals of both men and women is not to be ignored. When someone is spanked, blood naturally flows to the point of impact, but blood flowing to the area is also a major factor in sexual arousal, leading to a woman’s flush and lubrication and a man’s throbbing erections. It is natural perhaps that the nerves cross over when we play.

Of course many people have experimented with adding spanking to their more fun and free sex encounters, but many people enjoy it as a foreplay to the main fucking as well. For many people, over the knee spankings, also known as OTK spanking, are an extremely popular position because of the vulnerability they lend people like in this video where a 19 year old gets spanked with a spatula and wooden spoon. They are also enjoyable for the spanker, because their consensual victim is laid across their lap, squirming and moving in a most pleasurable way with each impact.

Many spankees will enjoy positions for spanking similar to doggy style sex, on all fours on the bed or with head down and their ass up in the air while one works their posterior over with hands or toys. Another position is simply to bend the one getting spanked over the edge of a bed or mattress. Other people greatly enjoy doing this anywhere one is, for example bending the sub over the couch, making them lean over with their arms on a chair, or even over the hood of a car for adding an exciting public element to the game.

Most people who bottom for spanking scenes have a definite preference for either smacks that feel either stingy or thuddy, although some people do like both for different reasons and at different times. Maybe they like stingy at the beginning of the spanking to get their skin warmed up a bit and then prefer more thuddy for the second half of the spanking or more toward the end when they’re skin starts getting really sore. The thuddy sensation gives the smack a deeper feeling that resonates deeper in the muscle while the stingy sensation gives more of a surface sensation right on the skin.

Many people who top during the spanking have a long list of things that they enjoy. Some love the feeling of having that much power over another person and love having them over-the-knee or having the opportunity to hold them down as they bend over something. Some love the sounds that their willing victims make as they receive each smack, sounds that get more primal as the heat and soreness begins to grow and take hold. Some love the sound of the implement or hand hitting the skin of the other person. The sounds can differ quite a bit depending on the implement used and the type of material the implement is made out of. Leather and wood make distinctively different sounds as the strike the skin, and even that sound can vary depending on the style of the implement. A leather belt can sound almost like a gunshot in a quiet room, but a paddle will sound very different to an experienced ear. A top that enjoys the sounds that the implements make can often tell just by the sound what the material is and sometimes even what type of implement it is. Someone who can do that is a true connoisseur of spanking sounds – they know and understand exactly what they’re doing and why, and they’re enjoying every minute detail of the spanking.

Everyone has their favorite implement or sometimes a few implements that they enjoy. Spankers usually have implements that they love to spank with. These are most likely implements that feel good in their hand because they are perfectly constructed and balanced. These implements always give the perfect smack without a lot of planning and effort by the user. They make a really pleasing sound when they come in contact with skin of the receiver. It’s easy to cause just the right level of pain with the favorite implements, and they’re usually very well broken in from being used so often. Spankers like using their own implements, the items that they’re used to, and the ones that feel completely natural to them almost like an extension of their hand. They are confident that they can wield these implements with complete accuracy and with total control, and spankers like to know that they have that level of control with their implements because then they can spank in total confidence that they won’t cause any unwanted damage or pain because they are so familiar with the implement in their hand.

People who enjoy being spanked also have their favorite implements. They usually enjoy certain materials over others, like wood over leather or leather over Lucite for instance. As much as someone may enjoy spanking, they usually enjoy specific implements and may dread others. Some people may love being paddled with wood paddles, but hate leather paddles or leather belts. This is how dominant people can sometimes punish a submissive who enjoys being spanked; they punish with an implement that they know the submissive doesn’t enjoy. The implements that a submissive enjoys will usually cause sexual arousal, because the implements cause a type of pain that is enjoyable in some ways. Some submissives prefer a stingy smack and some prefer a thuddy smack.

Even people with so much to lose, but who have great money in which to insulate themselves, can leave a text message on their phone or an open email. Double-checking, protocols in place, separate accounts, the anonymous nature of the net – still, there is something we might forget to hide.

For men and women courting a fetish they keep secret, the way is precarious at best. Not only are they engaging, or want to engage in something slightly unusual to the common person, but they are opening themselves up to scrutiny, derision and judgment from lovers if and when they reveal their ache for a spanking, or the desire to pee on a lover. This is why so many people simply hide their fetish.

But the manner in which one hides their kink can vary. For many, they simply only ever play on-line, engaging their desires over chat emails, watching free porn, or camming with like-minded kinksters. The Internet allows great freedom with its built-in anonymity.

For others who need to feel the sting of the lash across their flanks for real, or have an all consuming need to cross-dress in a room full of their peers, they search out the closed ranks of private play parties or well known safe play spaces. To keep one’’s fetish close to one’’s leather vest and not have to worry about the embarrassment of a kink being detected by some unsuspecting lover or family member, one must either stay within the confines of on-line social sites specific to a specific sexual desire or make sure the group one runs with have as much to lose by detection as they do.

One thing that is really hot for a lot of people is making sex a ritual. It is the kissing, and touching tits and ass, the fondling and getting hard. Then it is the taking out of a condom from the night stand next to the bed. Then he rips open the package. He lets her unroll in on his cock. They choose a first position, and go to town. For some couples, the moment of slowing down to put on a condom actually adds to the anticipation. The acclimation of the feeling of latex on the cock can also be enjoyable. It is something he looks forward to, a tight sensation especially around the base of the penis that means he will soon be buried deep inside her pussy.
For finger fucking and fisting, latex gloves are the fashion. Again, the anticipation factor can be intense for someone waiting to be fingered, watching a partner put on a pair of white, powdered latex gloves, snapping the wrists forfinesse before approaching the orifice in question. Anyone who has ever wanted to play doctor already has some hot images of this in their mind. Why not put your legs in the stirrups for the gynecologist, or present yourself submissively for the prostate exam? It’s a hot porn waiting to happen.  One might also try touching the whole body with latex gloves. It may not be just for pussy and ass anymore. The unusual sensation may be just what the back, thighs, or shoulders crave.
One of the sexiest things of all is each partner knowing that the other has his or her best interest in mind, and that safety is being taken care of. Once the parameters are set in the playground, what freedom! There is sucking, fucking, intimate holding, kissing, spanking, and cumming to be done. Knowing that reasonable and agreed-upon care has been taken to ward off any unwanted results, being in the clear feels really very good.

The ass is mostly muscle, so it’s harder to hurt than other body parts. It’s also one of the strongest muscles in the human body. It’s also one of the most talked about features of the human body. No man or woman can resist a hot, well-muscled or tight ass on the partner of their choosing. With all the nerve endings in the ass and around the anus in particular, it’s no wonder spanking fetishes are popular in sexual culture.

The fetish itself is versatile. It can be involved in role play: The priest and naughty nun, the school marm and student, principal and teacher, even babysitter and her charge. What’s taboo to one person is often highly sexualized to another and there is no denying that a power exchange, even something as subtle as a man ordering his lover’s meal on a date as his lover acquiesces to the this attention, is sexy.

Some psychiatrists suggest that love of spanking stems from childhood issues and for many that may be true. Others simply find the fetish to be an extreme turn-on. It’s gender neutral, which means both men and women can get something out of it. For women, the feeling of helplessness and submission makes her wet, because it stimulates those nerve endings. The anticipation of sexual intercourse from contact of one of her erogenous zones heightens the sensation for her. If a woman takes on the dom role, she might be playing in a way she usually doesn’t in life, being aggressive or demanding in ways she would never dream of.

For men, turning a sweet, hot bottom pink is more about control and dominance in addition to maybe getting laid…if the guy plays dom. A man giving up control, allowing himself to be bare-bottomed and swatted is a good release to, as many men have to play a more dominate role in their everyday lives.

Overall, all this attention on the bottom truly uses this most erogenous zone to its fullest.  Watch some spanking porn to get the idea of what sort of possibilities are out there.  Unlike other zones such as the breasts and back of the neck, the sexual arousal nerves in the bottom are buried in a layer of fat and require harder stimulation to trigger and this is why spanking is an obvious choice.

Remember the saying, “if you can’t take the heat, then get out of the kitchen”? Well, the kitchen is about to be on fire, so put your game face on and play along.

You can try playing with food in wild ways that you’ve never dreamed of. Have fun with honey, chocolate syrup, whipped cream, or even marshmallow fluff. Carrots and cucumbers can make great penis substitutes. Have your girl use them on herself, or you take control. Remember, put a condom on it!

There’s also a lot of other things in the kitchen that can be used as sex toys, besides food.

Roll up a towel and place a plastic bag in the “tube” that the towel created. Fill the plastic bag with lube, then place it somewhere you can thrust away into.

Line a plastic cup with two thick kitchen sponges. Wet the sponges with warm water and then lube up the space between the sponges. Once again, place it somewhere and thrust away.

Check out the freezer because ice can be amazing for sexual thrills and chills for the both of you. Tease your chick by rubbing a piece of ice, or maybe even some frozen peas along her nipples, face, arms, thighs, ass, and clit. If you have some popsicles in there, you can use one as a dildo. I know you’ve probably watched this on porn somewhere, but you have to remember to not leave it inside your chick for too long because she could get a bad case of freezer burn! They don’t tell you that in porn.

Saran Wrap can also be a kinky substitute. Wrap some around your girls body, and your own if you really want to be frisky. It’s a fun and easy way to create your own lingerie; it’s see through, and easy to strip off.

Instead of using the spatula to make cupcakes, bend your girl over your leg and spank her ass with it. If she’s not really into the spanking, then flip it over and use it as a homemade dildo. Make sure there are no sharp edges on the surface that could cut into skin.

Use anything that is electrical as a vibrator. Place it on your girls pussy and she will completely enjoy herself. Once again, remember to use your common sense and play safe.

After you’ve broken in your kitchen and used it as the sexual haven that it is intended for, have your girl make you dinner. Skip dessert, and move into another room in the house and use everything in it for your sexual pleasure.