Posts Tagged ‘Sex’

Sex and Female Pirates

Friday, August 19th, 2011

Not many people know that there were in fact female pirates. Two of the more famous were Mary Reade and Ann Bonny who sailed with captain Jack Rackham, otherwise known as calico jack because of his penchant for being a dandy and wearing the rare and expensive calico clothing. Calico was imported from India and so a very expensive thing to get a hold of in the far west.

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By all accounts it seems that the three pirates had something of a Sex and business partnership going between them. Apparently neither girl minded sharing captain jacks cock nor their pussy with each other. For several years they were among the most affluent and successful pirates in the Caribbean until they came to grief amid much scandal as well as confusion. The official story is that captain Jack and his male crew were all sleeping off the drink down below when the Royal Navy came calling and only the brave and erstwhile women were left to defend the ship, calling the men cowards even as they were surrounded and captured by the British authorities. They were sentenced to hang but both pleaded they were with child, both pregnant with Captain Jacks baby, and thus their sentences were commuted to short terms in prison before they were released to the custody of family.

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While the history books do not report it there were probably quite a few women involved with piracy that didn’t get much press. This could be for a number of reasons such as those books that they were reported in never got press or never made it this far down the time line and were thus lost to history. It could be that there were enough women involved that it simply didn’t rate as news and Captain Jacks story is only known because of the unusual love triangle. Whatever the reason it’s as certain now as it was then that Sex appeal definitely followed those women who plied their pirates trade.

Modern Bisexuality

Friday, August 19th, 2011

Bisexuals often have trouble being accepted. It wasn’t so long ago that any sexuality about from heterosexual missionary position sex designed to procreate was considered an aberration. Though put against the whole of human history, it is obvious that open sexual behaviors were common before modern repressive civilizations, we still think of the modern marriage as the normal way of relating. Is this really the most normal and natural human arrangement?

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Bisexuality has been popular at various times in the past. In some societies with less rigid definitions and therefore more free sex behaviors, bisexuality was the norm, or sex roles were defined in completely other ways such as the Native American two spirit or the Romans who defined it based on who received penetration and who gave it, regardless of the gender of the people practicing the actions — though a woman in a strap on would certainly have raised some eyebrows. In modern times it saw a brief popularity among the glam rock world, infamous for mythic liaisons between the likes of David Bowie and Iggy Pop. Perhaps human sexuality is more fluid than we thought.

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In modern times the confusing behavior of celebrities like Tila Tequila could be argued to back this up. She became infamous for having a reality television relationship show except that she was having both men and women compete for her affections. This went for two seasons of this behavior before she declared in 2009 that she was completely lesbian. Does this mean that she was lying all along? Instead it may suggest that human sexuality is fluid and may change over a person’s life, though the degree to which gender affects the expression of these kinds of queerness is still open for debate in some circles.

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Whatever the case it is clear we cannot simply define sexual behavior as a binary either or, with people clearly being straight or completely gay and remaining so all their lives. For many the truth is somewhere in between.

The New Porn Renaissance

Monday, August 15th, 2011

In the 1970s one was able to enjoy a special kind of porn. For the first time ever, porn films reached a kind of acceptance so that it was acceptable for couples to attend and watch adult videos together. Some of the films of these times had big budgets, complicated plots, and ornate sets and costumes. There is even an infamous soft core porn film that is a remake of Alice in Wonderland done as a musical with fucking and blow jobs. Needless to say this golden age of adult film did not last forever and soon one had all kinds of mechanical sex films with the rise of the video and the videocassette playback machine. These films are designed for playback where a person can quickly fast forward, or choose a particular scene on a DVD and get directly to the fucking they want. There is very little or no plot what so ever in modern x-rated film.

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The rise of sex video on the Internet coincided with the modern era of broad bandwidth in the United States of America. Now that computer technology along with the fat pipes provided by cable modems allow people to watch streaming or even live video with ease from the comfort of their homes, a renaissance in free porn has occurred. No matted what ones tastes or fetishes for fucking, whether one is into vanilla sex in amateur video or hardcore fucking and BDSM porn there is something out there for everyone.

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Never before have so many options been available. One can even watch live events on many websites or get solo sessions with web cam porn stars who are happy to act out whatever fetish one desires and will give real orgasms on command for the sex hungry horny viewer. Never before have the options been so varied for the masturbater or the couple who shares porn together in their bedrooms.

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Surviving the Dry Spell

Sunday, August 14th, 2011

Life is long and has many phases. Some of them are full of love and sex and good things with other people in them. During others it becomes harder — life can seem far more barren, with no one around for dating and the attempts to find them on personals sites coming up empty. At other times we realize that we just aren’t capable of connecting with other people healthfully, because of a recent break up or other painful periods of personal growth. Whatever the case, dry spells happen and need to be weathered. How does one do this and maintain sanity until the next good thing comes along?

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First off, avoid stagnant living. It can be easy to let ourselves go, gaining lots of weight, letting hygiene worsen, or one’s house becoming unbearably messy. After all we are just waiting for the right person to come along, right? Until then it doesn’t matter what we do.

Unfortunately, this kind of attitude has the effect of driving people off, both friends and potential lovers alike. One may even find one’s self turning down offers from hot people on their favorite dating site simply because it seems like so much trouble to shave, clean up, and throw out the trash in the bedroom or do all those dishes piling up. Make it worth while to do these things for you and in the end you will be far more attractive to the people you are looking for when they finally come back into one’s life after so long. Focus instead on becoming an even better person in the interim. Take classes or learn new skills; not only will this make one a better candidate for a relationship later but it is a great opportunity to meet people with similar interests as well.

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Find ways to pamper yourself and avoid negative self talk. Avoid the people that drag one down and avoid fuck buddy relationships with exes whenever possible.

Sex and Priest Kings

Wednesday, August 10th, 2011

With the creation of the luxury class came privileges. Some of these were the ability to pick and choose among the population the most desirable Sex partner. This usually came with the ruling class and to some lesser extent the warrior class. The first ruling classes were the Priest kings of Mesopotamia who it was believed had a regular line to the gods and could bring down blessings or curses from them.

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With this sort of power it was no wonder that they could have Sex with whomever they chose. If the priest king wanted to fuck your wife or daughter you pretty much let him, to some extent. Even the fear of the gods did not always deter vengeance from a jealous husband, father or boyfriend. Of course this could also extend to the woman in the case that the priest king was gay and wanted the male. While most simply submitted to this practice there were others who were against it and secretly conspired against it. Most of the time they simply deposed the one and replaced him with themselves to continue the practice. It was not truly until the beginnings of democracy in the west that this practice of dictatorship combined with religious trappings found a rival. Then the idea of freedom began to spread and this began the process of unraveling the dictatorships.

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This however has been a sticky process because it has always been and will always be in a mans nature to rule one over the other when possible and even in the modern democracy this is true. The truth of this bears out in the penchant for democracies to enter into a police state stage when so much power is concentrated into the hands of the few. The darker truth then would probably be that true democracy has rarely if ever actually been practiced among men and then only short lived.

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The All Too Common Marital Dilemma And What To Do About It

Tuesday, August 9th, 2011

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Married couples might indeed have less sex, but it isn’t from lack of desire; simply put, other shit takes priority. Sex is still important but raising kids, dealing with the laundry, in-laws, any number of factors keeping a household together makes the cold hard facts of reality seep into a couple’s life and sometimes throws up a barrier for sex. Exhaustion reigns most of the time, or bad timing when one partner is ready and the other is not, or just the our just the rigors of the day can leave people, people who love one another and are attracted to one another still, simply not up for fucking.

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In these instances, which can be many, it sometimes does a couple good to introduce some sex videos. Not so much to ignite some desire between the two partners-though sex videos are certainly good for that-but maybe to simply help each person get the job done for themselves, masturbate and move on, or help them sleep. If two people can acknowledge that life is keeping them apart and not a lack of desire, then masturbating to sex videos is a great way to release some sexual tension and get back on track of getting on track.

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What a married couple or any long–term affair runs the risk over though is letting sex videos replace intimacy. It is all well and good to have a dirty movie be the safe harbor you run to on occasion or even in place of regular bed time with your significant other, but to have it replace your time with your wife our hubby, to make sex videos the only way you ever want to be sexual, that’s when they run the risk of becoming too important in our lives. That’s when we need to temper how often we rely on sex videos to get aroused and that’s when we might indeed have to reexamine why we are not having sex with our partner.

The Fantasy

Saturday, August 6th, 2011

Reality can sometimes be a bit harsh for all of us. Whether we do it consciously or not, we all need to indulge in a little bit of fantasy from time to time to keep from going bonkers in this crazy world that we live in. Some of us enjoy the free Porn on the Internet, some of us sit and meditate, and some of us just daydream away from our office desks.

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Plain, stark reality served cold can be an unappetizing dish for most of us. We all face tremendous pressures and expectations in our work lives and our home lives to make ends meet, to be productive, to be efficient, to be competent, to be dependable, to be reliable, to be financial secure, to be kind, to be loving, to be sensitive, to be available, and to be morally upstanding. No wonder we are all exhausted and ready to run off screaming into the night a lot of the time. How can we possibly keep up with all of these things and fulfill all of these requirements on a daily basis? Most of us just do the best we can and maybe throw in a little bit of fantasy to take the edge off of things every now and again.

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Some of us enjoy surfing the various sex and adult entertainment websites that are available to us in abundance on the Internet for a bit of fantasy and escape of the sexual kind. Others of us may venture off into a pleasant daydream about that hot electrician wandering around in our office, and still others of us may seek out the mountains or the ocean to try to clear our heads and disconnect from all the pressures of life for a bit.

Whatever your fantasy happens to be, it is perfectly ok to disconnect every once in a while and indulge in it, your secret is safe.

What Porn Teaches Us

Wednesday, August 3rd, 2011

Sure porn teaches us some useful sex techniques or at least can introduce us to positions we have yet to try, but there is more to learn from porn then just the obvious. Beyond seeing what a bleached asshole looks like we also get to see how the other half lives, how porn stars act-or don’t act so well-when getting drilled or doing the drilling, how a plot does or does not play into the action and maybe what we might, in the end, not really be turned-on to.

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That’s the good thing of what porn teaches us, sometimes more of what we don’t want then what we do. As any sane adult realizes quick when they watch dirty movies porn is first and foremost entertainment, and fantasy entertainment at that. Guys and girls acting in a porn film are doing just that…acting…they can be and are being paid good money to be as raunchy as they can. We all know this kind of acting and talk seems sexy but imagine this attitude from your lover 24/7?

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Then too are the fetishes and kinks we see in porn. This is another great example of the fine line between reality and what we might want to try and the fantasy of what looks great but we know we will never have the courage, strength and in the end care to even try to attempt.

Once again porn teaches us.

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By the time a couple has come to porn they pretty much know what they do and don’t like in bed. They might get an idea or two to spark their imagination, a bee in their bonnet to try something they see in the porn movie, but for the most part there’s nothing really new under the sun for a couple enjoying a good intimacy. Those men and women watching porn alone might indeed get a skewed view of what sex with someone is like, but then again, if this is the only real contact with sex they have, it could be worse than watching an entertaining dirty movie.

Bondage Sex is Fun Sex

Thursday, July 28th, 2011

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We need to have variety to fully enjoy our sex lives. With too much of the same old thing it can easy to grow bored with a partner or even fucking itself. Well, maybe not fucking, but one reason that people’s attentions start to stray is when the sexual spark starts to wane amongst people who are dating. Adding new kinds of sexual fun to the mix will revive this spark for many people and may lead to new kinds of intimacy that have never been felt before. Bondage is one kind of sexual play that many lovers enjoy adding to their repertoire of bedroom games.

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Since we’ve all presumably enjoyed free sex where we could move our bodies as we pleased, it may seem odd that it would also be possible to enjoy being tied up like Taylor Rain in this video. However many people find a great deal of pleasure in this act and finding themselves unable to move can be a huge turn on. This can be for many reasons. For one thing, we feel vulnerable when we cannot freely move and this kind of vulnerability can be exciting when shared with a lover or fuck friend. We are open to them yet cannot perhaps touch them back. This creates a new focus on the person who is tied down, letting them enjoy the sensations and not worry about reciprocating for now, while the one who is free can enjoy whatever access to one’s body they desire.

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Many couples experiment with simple bondage using silk ties or scarves, but sometimes rope provides a fun and even sometimes safer option. Also used are chains or even a special vinyl plastic which sticks to itself but does not stick to skin in the manner of duct tape. It can be wrapped around and around a person’s limbs or even around both wrists and ankles for a simple hogtie.

The Person-to-Person

Monday, July 25th, 2011

Any one of us who has ever taken the time to watch a porn movie, even a snippet of one, would understand the fascination about them. Even if watching a visual representation of sex is not your cup-of-tea it’s not a stretch to imagine it is for so many people. But there are very few adults who watch porn on a regular basis who would ever say they prefer it to real face-to-face intimacy with another person. They might opine that there is less work to be had sitting in front of one’s P.C. screen and jacking or jilling-off to a ten second clip, or that an entire cornucopia of fantasies can attend one when alone watching a dirty movie, fantasies that could just as easily get ripped out of one’s play possibilities when with a partner who does not want to entertain fantasies. But the actual sensations, anticipations and wonder we have when in the embrace and care of another person can never be matched by porn.

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But we need to be up for being intimate. What is true about porn and how it is better than face-to-face sex is when we are not up for or interested in intimacy. Then porn could very well replace all the great sensations we get rubbing up against another human being. When all we want is quiet, to stay within our own heads, to imagine those fantasies we might never make reality to their fullest extreme…this is when porn might very well beat real-life humping hands-down.

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It’s really where our minds are at, more than our bodies, that makes porn good, better and best. As with everything else, desire is the key and have we a desire to be close, to open our hearts and imaginations to another, to let someone see our vulnerable side then being with someone is what we will gravitate towards. Have we a desire to stay within ourselves, safe and completely immersed in fantasy, then porn works fine.

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