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Safer Sex

Friday, March 18th, 2011

There’s no denying it — everybody who’s tried it enjoys the feel of unprotected fucking — of nothing between one and the body of their lover but their wetness or favorite sex lube. A naked cock and a naked cunt or, perhaps, a naked ass-fucking. One loves to share this kind of intimacy with the right lover, one with whom one is committed and knows to be safe, and one loves to see it in porn.

And yet how often is one in this situation? There are many times — indeed most times — when the best kind of sex is safe sex. Perhaps one picked up that smoking hottie at the local gay bar or the singles meat market. Maybe one has tried to put up a profile on an online adult dating site. One has met that sexy online date and is ready to take it back to the bedroom. Whether you’re gay or straight, a lesbian, a queer. If one is into bondage and domination or a swinger, one can learn to enjoy safer sex. Of course if one already has a latex fetish, lucky you!

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Of course condoms are the safer sex suppliers one encounters most often. One can find all kinds of condoms nowadays. One can find huge condoms for huge dicks and smaller ones for smaller cocks. One can use a condom on one’s favorite dildo or sex toy for sharing it with others. One can find flavored cocks for a tasty sweet blowjob. There are even condoms made from polyisoprene now, which are just as tight as latex condom but safe for those with allergies. They also smell better and don’t leave that condom taste on your cock or cunt — a big help for cunnilingus and fellatio during a long fuck time.

Of course safe sex doesn’t stop there. One can use gloves to protect hands during sexy play. This is great for anal fingering when it keeps things clean and makes one’s fingers extra smooth and slippery when one adds lubricant. There are dental dams for oral sex — great with a little flavored lube and hear her moan.

Don’t let the need for hygiene and protected sex turn one off. Instead look at it as a way to enjoy new kinds of fun with more new people.

Getting Started in Online Chat Rooms

Friday, March 18th, 2011

Practicing our conversation skill in an on-line chat room makes not only for good practice for a date conversation, but a better time in chatrooms as we go about meeting and flirting with singles just like us.
Making up an online name can be as simple as choosing a variation on a real name. But a great way to start flirting is to choose a name that reflects an action or porn desire. It helps set the right mood for the conversation.sex-vs-computer-games01
A way to be noticed in on line chat rooms is to speak up. Even a simple hello can work. But getting the conversation going needs more than a hello, and asking people how everyone is doing. One of the reasons to be in a chat room is to get away from mundane conversations. Before logging in, think of something sexy to say. Open ended conversations or questions are good. Sharing an image of lying in bed and then asking people what might happen next is an invitation to flirt and share some on line sex. Talking about wanting to try something new and then asking for feedback can spark a conversation as well.
There can be a lot of action in on-line chat rooms. Sometimes it can feel overwhelming, especially if the text is moving across the screen very quickly. Other times, it seems like no one is saying anything. This is common in the land of on-line communication. Just like how there are people who dominate conversations in person, there are people who can do that on-line as well. A way to keep that from happening is to keep on-line comments to only one or two sentences at a time. And the reader can just skip over and look for familiar on-line names to chat with, which is like ignoring the loud guy at the party.
Most on-line chat rooms offer a chance to whisper to someone else in the room, allowing for a private conversation to take place. This is a great way to flirt one-on-one, and can lead to a potential online fuck. And the privacy a chat allows is unparrelled. If something happens on-line that is embarrassing, it’s easy to stop. Log off. Change the on-line name and start over, or go to another on-line chat site. The advantage of on-line chatting is that it is anonymous.

Reading Aloud

Wednesday, March 16th, 2011

In a world where computers are very common, and locating erotica on the web is common, the pictures are only one of the types available. It’’s time to think of ways to engage  each other’s senses as part of sexual foreplay.
Many people, – especially women,– are not as interested in looking at dirty pictures or watching porn off of DVD’s or from on-line downloads.

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Another way to turn on a girlfriend is through the written word. Or, more specifically, in reading pornography. What a boyfriend might get off on through watching, a girlfriend might get off on through reading about. There is an abundance of written erotica available on the internet these days. In addition to websites that feature erotic stories, there are e-book sites that specialize in a variety of erotica. It’s easy to find erotica for nearly every taste. Purchase a collection of short stories with themes that are of interest. There are anthologies of bondage stories, spanking tales, novels where threesomes figure into the action and even maintstream books with their share of sex scenes. Some erotica is soft and sexy, while others can be hard core and very kinky indeed.
Couples can tease one another on special reading nights. Instead of going out to a movie or a sex club, they can stay home and read aloud from a favorite porn story. If either the guy or gal is into something slightly kinkyhot-naked-woman-receiving-head-hot-i-love-guys-that-love-eating-pussy partners can blindfold one another, or be tied to the bed while the reader taunts and teases them with words. Chapters can even be made to last with the story read over multiple nights and of course any and all manner of touching can ensue while one person reads to another.
Remember how kids used to beg to have another story read to them at bedtime? Begging can also be sexy. But begging for another chapter, or begging to get off is an adult way to make this nighttime ritual even sexier. One partner might make bargain with the other to be read to, or offer to strip tease while their lover reads slow steady passages, in affect egging them on with words.

Reading a story out loud is verbal foreplay. And it can also give some great ideas as to what to experiment with as sexual exploration grows.

Words that Turn On/Words that Turn Off

Monday, March 14th, 2011

talking-dirty-phrasesThe problem with trying to analyze sexual language and people’’s reactions to it is that it varies so much across regions, cultures, and subcultures. What sounds erotic to one person may sound perfectly vulgar to another. To an absolute prude, none of the naughtier words will ever sound nice, but especially for those who have a little tension between what they think they are supposed to be like and what they really desire, taking the chance and using some porn-ified language can be a major turn-on.
There are a couple of general precepts for sexy singles to remember when attempting to get vocal. It is a good idea to ease into sexy language. If you’’re on a first date and things start to get a little racy, you might want to use a general, suggestive sentence as innocuous as telling someone you want to touch them. Then, as you kiss, you might move your hand a little closer to a breast or inner thigh and sense the reaction. What you don’t want to do is to be totally crass with suggestion of what you might like to stick where and when!
Once one is fully engaged in embraces, feeling up and down, maybe even finally fucking, using sexy words to describe what’’s happening, or commenting on how good it all feels certainly can make the scene hotter. But again, not everyone likes the same words used, or even all that much talk when they are concentrating on moving around to get the best position to engage their pussy or cock with another person! If one is ready to talk dirty for a bit, one should gauge accordingly, how much dirty talk and how dirty it should get. Slow and steady wins the race here. Words that might skirt the boundaries of good taste, certain slang for certain body parts, might not just fly with every person, so one needs to tread carefully. Unless a couple has an explicit understanding that the very filthy words are ok, or even if one person likes humiliation or nasty insults, it’s best to avoid really hardcore slang.

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Language is a powerful thing. The right word at the right time can send someone over the edge to phenomenal orgasmic bliss. The wrong word could send a person right back down to zero. Forgetting someone’’s name and calling them the wrong one is not a good idea either!

Punishment or Foreplay

Friday, March 11th, 2011

In the kinky world of dominance and submission, many an act has gone awry. This is because the deep well of kinky fantasies concerning power exchange, slave and master/mistress and, in general, one person controlling another, touches on true punishment, and has consequences. For many, the very fact that an action has a result, and a comeuppance at that, is what the kink is all about. Others crave correction by their dominant, even if there is no specific direct sexual component to the punishment. Still others only ever want an erotic component to their play, no matter how much bondage, control, denial or pain is used.

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There is certainly a different intent and therefore a different approach to the basics of punishment for a lesson and punishment as foreplay. Any well-seasoned kinky couple or player  or BDSM porn watcher knows how to elongate a potential scene, how the set-up the room, spell out the transgression, make sure all of the specific accoutrements of what is about to happen are detailed. Whereas for an erotic scene, specifics maybe be a bit more hazy.
In a setting of pure punishment, there should be no deviation from the rules. In an erotic setting, the very fact that the domme does deviate is what adds sexual excitement. In a punishment setting, a full answer to one’’s bad behavior must be delivered, in the case of the erotic time, a couple might not even get to the actual punishment.

Both scenes require attention to detail, but one requires a specific cause and effect, a reciting of what is going to happen and then execution of the plan from what has been promised, but in an erotic setting there is more wiggle room. In a punishment setting, wiggle room and dom deviating from his or her course or plan reveals a weak dom.
Lastly, and most importantly, orgasms are not allowed in the punishment setting and if a sub happens to cum during their punishment scene they need to be chastised or punished more for it. In an erotic scene, orgasms can be denied, edge play can be brought in to the play and be used as a punishment as much as anything else, but in the end ,orgasm for both parties is what is usually sought.

Exploring

Thursday, March 10th, 2011

There are people who feel unsure as to how to act when going to sex clubs for the first time. There may feel as if there is a set of rules to follow, and not everyone understands them. Sometimes the rules of a sex club are posted, but there are also other unwritten rules that are hard to figure out.
In all cases, courtesy is always the way to go, followed by common sense. Look at the other people. If there are naked girls, then nudity is okay. If there are people watching a sex scene, then the club welcomes voyeurs. Watching is almost always permissible, whereas touching without permission is usually not. Asking someone else about the unwritten rules in the club will help smooth the way for proper behavior. It’s also a good idea to ask someone who is not having sex or engaging in other forms of kinky play. Interrupting a scene is considered bad behavior. Asking someone standing nearby who is watching the same scene will be far more comfortable for all concerned.

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For exhibitionists, finding an available corner or piece of sex equipment is all that is needed to start showing off. Strip off clothes, or wear something sexy to draw attention. Don’t be afraid of making noise, even laughing is okay. Public fucking can be fun and even funny. There’s no need to take it seriously, if the purpose is to have fun or entertain.

Drawing an audience for the kinky couple or single exhibitionist is not difficult. Just taking over a piece of equipment in a sex club may be enough to have people stop and watch. Fondling a breast or cock will draw an audience quickly.sex-club-girl-tattoosMoans and other porn noises always make people look around to see what is happening. Even a sharp clap or spank will be enough to build an interested crowd.
If going to a sex club sounds like fun, check out locations around the country. On-line lists of sex events exist, and the ongoing sex clubs in larger cities advertise regularly in alternative newspapers and on-line sex news. Swingers groups for married couples are prevalent in every suburb as well as all major cities. Couples and singles both will quickly build a network around themselves once they are out and about in whatever kinky scene they wish to be known in.

Latex is Hot

Thursday, March 10th, 2011

There’s no need to convince some sexy, savvy people that having safer sex is the right thing to do. They already know that it’s downright hot. Latex in general is a big turn on for some people, and for others it’s just the ritual of making sex healthy, fun, and worry-free that is so good.

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One thing that is really hot for a lot of people is making sex a ritual. It is the kissing, and touching tits and ass, the fondling and getting hard. Then it is the taking out of a condom from the night stand next to the bed. Then he rips open the package. He lets her unroll in on his cock. They choose a first position, and go to town. For some couples, the moment of slowing down to put on a condom actually adds to the anticipation. The acclimation of the feeling of latex on the cock can also be enjoyable. It is something he looks forward to, a tight sensation especially around the base of the penis that means he will soon be buried deep inside her pussy.
For finger fucking and fisting, latex gloves are the fashion. Again, the anticipation factor can be intense for someone waiting to be fingered, watching a partner put on a pair of white, powdered latex gloves, snapping the wrists forimagesfinesse before approaching the orifice in question. Anyone who has ever wanted to play doctor already has some hot images of this in their mind. Why not put your legs in the stirrups for the gynecologist, or present yourself submissively for the prostate exam? It’s a hot porn waiting to happen.  One might also try touching the whole body with latex gloves. It may not be just for pussy and ass anymore. The unusual sensation may be just what the back, thighs, or shoulders crave.
One of the sexiest things of all is each partner knowing that the other has his or her best interest in mind, and that safety is being taken care of. Once the parameters are set in the playground, what freedom! There is sucking, fucking, intimate holding, kissing, spanking, and cumming to be done. Knowing that reasonable and agreed-upon care has been taken to ward off any unwanted results, being in the clear feels really very good.

Women Who Do Video

Wednesday, March 9th, 2011

Some women enjoy the portrayals of women in porn, but many others do not. Especially for women who have sex with women in real life, sometimes the porno version of sex can seem pretty artificial.

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Forget about the barely-there plot concepts for most porn video— no one really needs too much of a story anyway. For many women (and feminist-conscious men, for that matter), the interactions just don’t ring true. Women seem rather artificial and tailored to porn images of what a sexy woman should be, silicone tits and all. Some women who endeavor to make lesbian and bisexual porn of their own have found a niche that is sexy and shows some essential truths about women and their erotic lives.

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First of all, women of varying shapes and sizes may be portrayed. Abandoning the bleach blonde bimbo image or the overly skinny with big boobs look, Women-for-Women who make their own porn might like a woman with a little more booty. They may enjoy seeing women of different, non-stereotyped cultural backgrounds getting into it. Exceptionally important is the portrayal of different genders. The gender normative look and behavior for women is far from all that’s really out there. In W4W porn, you could find a femme topping a soft butch, two BBW with short hair getting it on, a butch-femme coupling, an all-female orgy, or even a femme-on-femme scene, but one where the women look and act like real people.

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Women who should video do it for a reason – to add voices and erotic images to the canon that better reflects them. They presumably want to produce erotica that turns them on. In that quest, showing scenes that are genuinely hot is an important part of the enterprises. The level of arousal in the women is usually palpable. Sounds of sex, the way bodies react to touch, the portrayal of cunnilingus all look and feel like those women want to be with each other, producing happy, powerful orgasms together. There is pussy licking and sex toys, used in a way that as the vibrator enters the well-lubed pussy, it is obvious that is feels good. Sounds of approval are resonant and abundant. Women who do women know how to show it to the rest of us.

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Sexual Fantasies Made Real

Wednesday, March 9th, 2011

tumblr_leld1vHQ5e1qdgd5bo1_500There are some who do not realize that some fantasies are meant to be just that, fantasies. Not everything you see while watching free porn is something you are meant to do yourself.

Some of these sexual fantasies are not supposed to be fulfilled and when you figure that out you will live a much happier life.

For instance it may be one of your premier fantasies to fuck the bosses wife or daughter, but upon reflection one can clearly see where this might not be the best course of action even should said wife or daughter want it.

One has to think things through and figure that although the wife or daughter might want it, it is a situation that easily turn ugly and disastrous to say the least, very quickly.

What if the woman suddenly decides that you can do things for them, what if something goes bad and they become an enemy rather than a friend. These are all very realistic possibilities and you could coerced, or exploited, blackmailed or worse. These are all just as possible as your actually getting that piece of ass from them. There is no piece of ass regardless of how good it might be that is worth all the trouble and disaster that could ensue from such an encounter. There are many reasons why such a thing would be a bad idea. So when you simply realize and accept the truth of a thing you will be much better off.

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Besides, that leaves room for a great deal of other fantasies you can make happen. A threesome with the right partner is always a possibility as is perhaps making your own porn movie with your partner. There are a lot of things you can do to really spice things up without crossing a line you may well regret. Not all our thoughts will lead to good kink magic, or any magic at all! It is simply a good sound plan to always evaluate and consider things well before you dive in and try to make them happen.

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If you play smart, you will have a much greater reward than if you simply did things with little consideration beyond getting your rocks off and giving in to greed. Greed will be your undoing every single time.

Deserving a Spanking

Tuesday, March 1st, 2011

phap3699The art of corporal punishment more commonly known as spanking is one that many couples enjoy, to varying degree. For some there’s nothing sexier than a red hot ass where the nerves have opened up and blood has rushed to the area, others like the idea, patter, clothes and cause-and-effect a good spanking gives.

The ass is mostly muscle, so it’s harder to hurt than other body parts. It’s also one of the strongest muscles in the human body. It’s also one of the most talked about features of the human body. No man or woman can resist a hot, well-muscled or tight ass on the partner of their choosing. With all the nerve endings in the ass and around the anus in particular, it’s no wonder spanking fetishes are popular in sexual culture.

The fetish itself is versatile. It can be involved in role play: The priest and naughty nun, the school marm and student, principal and teacher, even babysitter and her charge. What’s taboo to one person is often highly sexualized to another and there is no denying that a power exchange, even something as subtle as a man ordering his lover’s meal on a date as his lover acquiesces to the this attention, is sexy.

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Some psychiatrists suggest that love of spanking stems from childhood issues and for many that may be true. Others simply find the fetish to be an extreme turn-on. It’s gender neutral, which means both men and women can get something out of it. For women, the feeling of helplessness and submission makes her wet, because it stimulates those nerve endings. The anticipation of sexual intercourse from contact of one of her erogenous zones heightens the sensation for her. If a woman takes on the dom role, she might be playing in a way she usually doesn’t in life, being aggressive or demanding in ways she would never dream of.

For men, turning a sweet, hot bottom pink is more about control and dominance in addition to maybe getting laid…if the guy plays dom. A man giving up control, allowing himself to be bare-bottomed and swatted is a good release to, as many men have to play a more dominate role in their everyday lives.

Overall, all this attention on the bottom truly uses this most erogenous zone to its fullest.  Watch some spanking porn to get the idea of what sort of possibilities are out there.  Unlike other zones such as the breasts and back of the neck, the sexual arousal nerves in the bottom are buried in a layer of fat and require harder stimulation to trigger and this is why spanking is an obvious choice.

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