What makes a person want to cum is as individual as the foods they like and don’t like. What about power? Power is sexy in many ways. The tamest lover can feel a rush of triumph when their partner explodes in to Orgasm. Power mixed with tenderness others take it a little further.
Using rope to restrain the hands and so that self pleasuring is not and option. simulating and teasing to make sure that when the tied partner had a release there is no doubt who gave it. That is the power in giving pleasure and for many it is way better the receiving. This is a more common form of sex play then is widely thought. Step beyond this into orgasm torture and there is no avoiding that power is the turn on for both people involved. The pure cross over into bondage and dominance has arrived.
Orgasm torture is the act of over loading or denying orgasmic pleasure until the recipient is moved to tears and evasion tactics that are thwarted. The top puts themselves in the control position and gets joy from keeping them wanting. The bottom gets the gift of being able to let go and have no choice but to take it. The high is the same for both. Power both the having of it and the surrendering of it. Not all people take love play to such extremes but it is true that on some level all people play with power during sex.
Some partners get off on having there yes won in bed. If they say not until I tell you yes and then hang on to that yes until you are about to explode that’s a very common form of play. In a milder form then even that is when your partner asks you to tell them that you want them. Power again. Why not the power in your partner is what makes the sparks fly.
