The mental connection between dressing sexy and feeling sexy has been established by psychologists and doctors in the study of human sexuality.

Many a cross-dresser will spend the time to throw on thigh highs, favorite g-string or boyshort panties and a cute top all just for the sake of fantasy and pleasing myself. Sure it takes a few more moments to get ready for something that normally happens in the nude.

From a mental perspective, the feel of those clothes serves as a reminder that we’re doing something special, often for someone else. But why not do something special for ourselves? Why not take the time to treat our bodies as the loving temples of sex we are?

For many, normal masturbation can quickly grow into a routine. This is why erotic fantasies phone sex and other trends in sexual entertainment are so popular. Yet they tend to be expensive and near addiction status for many which can be a danger. Instead of starting immediately with the mundane and routine, we can now engage in our secret, sacred sexuality without fear of being caught. If a partner is inclined to join in the fun, all the better. The various types of clothing worn for lingerie serve a purpose and that sole purpose is to remind humanity of its sexuality.

Masturbation is healthy for us and if we’ve dedicated the entire month of May to it, why not spice things up by putting on our sexy lingerie that we spent good money on while we play just for ourselves? There is even an entire month dedicated to Masturbation! Why not spice it up with lingerie?

The clothes are great inspiration for writing too! And as an erotic romance author they’re a tax write off for research purposes.

If clothes make the man, then lingerie can be the icing on the cake of a great sexual experience starting from the inside out; even if that experience only involves the solo explorations of those insides and outs.

Women don’t even have to purchase pre-made clothing for fetishwear. They can usually put together interesting outfits from the things they already have in their closets. A suit jacket with beautiful bra and panties, a garter belt and stockings and high heels makes a perfect outfit. A leather belt over the jacket can make her look a little more authoritative if she’s a Domme. Thigh high or crotch high boots are always sexy with anything short; a suit jacket, a long camisole top, a satin and lace chemise. Sometimes mixing the satin and lace of mainstream lingerie with stark leather pieces from the BDSM world can be a really great contrast that looks really hot and will have male submissives coming out of the woodwork to try and get the lady’s attention. For women who tend toward very classic and vintage styles, vintage girdles and slips can be a very hot look. Vintage fashion – lingerie, clothing and shoes – is actually a very popular fetish. There are always shoe vendors at the conventions that carry vintage style shoes to wear with all the great vintage looks that are found easily on the internet. Women who love the leather look can look at leather corsets, bras, thongs, skirts and even garter belts. Leather is always a great choice for fetishwear, and one can never go wrong with black anything, especially leather.

Starting from the feet upward, high heels lend a sense of class to the woman while accentuating her ass. Depending on the height of the heel, they push the ass outward, giving it the come fuck me look. Typically, there isn’t a need for stockings or other types of hose, just a good razor blade and careful shaving will do the trick to accentuate the slenderness of legs.

Depending on the dress and the occasion, panties may be ignored, or a thong could be worn if covering is necessary. The thong itself will cover a bare minimum and leave no visible panty lines while reaffirming the sexual feel and emotions a woman may feel wearing her perfect black dress.

If the dress is strapless, no bra may be needed either. Many dress makers make dresses with built in bras for extra support. Check with a tailor for appropriate bra measuring to figure out cup sizes.

Skin care and makeup choice are important parts but if makeup is applied lightly, it can add to the look. Many women choose to use a light hand in application of makeup and hairstyle, preferring to keep hair off the neck to expose more feminine curves.

Lastly, the dress itself will be the main thing to consider. Is strapless an option? Glitter? Plain with a low cut? The variety is astounding as designers come up with new designs to match the latest in fashion trends. The truth is simple though, the elegance of a black dress cannot be stated enough. A cocktail dress with a short hem shows off just enough thigh when bending over to make a man’s mouth water with his mind wondering what’s beneath the dress. The black dress is a way for the sexually empowered woman to revel in her sensual feelings.

The style of dress can be flirty or conservative, revealing or comfortable but ultimately it’ll provide a look that says the wearer is sexy and in tune with adventure.

“What am I going to do?” she said knowing she was wanted back in the judge’s chamber in twenty minutes.

She made J-street in five, flicked her cell on vibrate and managed into the big Macy’s on the corner.

Running (as best she could considering all the bouncing she was doing) Stella ran into the woman’s lingerie department where she met a smiling salesman thankfully as old as her forty-two years.

“Mishap at work?” the pretty black lady asked, obviously noticing Stella’s big right boob free and bouncing under her blouse while her left was high and supported.

“42dd?” lady asked and the woman turned from Stella for all of a minute then returned with a pretty white bra.

“Would you?” Stella tried rushing with the lady back to the tiny fitting rooms as her cell buzzed and nipple rubbed against her blouse.

“Do you find that at the end of the day your breasts are just dying to relax a little,” the lady asked when they entered the tiny room and closed the slatted door.

She helped Stella remove her blouse and extricated her from the broken big bra.

“Mmmmm, yes,” Stella replied. “My breasts always feel like they’re in prison until I can get my bra off.”

“Well they are quite magnificent,” the sales lady said facing her now topless customer.

What happen next stunned Stella so much that she just stood there like a statue.

“I’m big myself, 36 double dees, but yours really…” the lady said, reached out, took Stella’s breasts in her dark hands and began massaging them.

“I just love to do my nipples at the end of the day, don’t you?”

Stella’s head began to spin, as the twisting of her nipples sent an electric shock straight to her clit and she tried to stay standing.

When was she needed back in the judge’s chambers?.

“You should go back braless, you are firm enough,” the lady said. She then dipped her smiling face and licked Stella’s right nipple, the one that had been so hard and suffering, and then her left.

“Oh, God suck…suck,” Stella moaned as the woman did just that in the tiny room.

“You want to return the favor?” the lady asked coming off Stella.

She unbuttoned the front of her shirt, unhooked her front clasp bra and presented rosy nipples on her chocolate melons to her new customer.

Stella lean forward and began to suckle the woman against the mirror of the changing room.

“I got to…I got to get back,” she said lifting her mouth off the pretty saleslady. “Can I…?”

“This will fit you, maybe a little tight but no fear of it snapping,” the saleslady said, removed her bra and helped put it around Stella.

“Oh God it’s so tight, I…”

“Yes you can,” the black woman said. “It will remind you to come back here at five-thirty and get me.”

“My pussy is on fire, ya know?” Stella said as they walked out of the dressing room and the salesgirl buttoned up completely.

“So is mine,” she said. “Imagine if I lick your tits that good what I will do to your pussy?”

Stella left the store red faced but somewhat calmer then when she he had come in.

Damn she hadn’t even asked the salesgirl her name. Then again, she was wearing the woman’s bra, they were close now!