Somehow the sex tape we always seem to get treated to only ever shows the celebrity couple or the senator and the call girl engaging in normal everyday sex. Surely the stuff that makes it to the net or gets reported about in the news is embarrassing to the couple at large, not to mention usually bolsters their career in the public view, yet it is never anything that even hints of kink. Is it that the truly kinky are never celebrities or politicians, that if one is kinky one never tapes one being so or that if a kink tape were to be found even the most despicable black mailer would have the decency to never show that particular tape to anyone?

Certainly revelations of a kink from our brightest and best is unnerving, from anyone actually. We all have regular everyday sex lives full of normal copulation-even if it’s of a gay variety-but God knows entertaining one of our sitcom stars coddling a foot fetish or suddenly being aware that a congresswoman likes to have her nipples tortured in clamps is simply too bizarre for many of us to consider. We can contemplate sex in the abstract but not sex in the here-and-now and nothing is more here and now basic then the deep gut-level desires we need to get off.

It is enough though for the sex tape to show what it has shown in its history; it really some of our most unique modern-day porn. It makes an impact, ruins and bolsters careers, sometimes at the exact same instance. It invests infamy to a couple, becomes more popular in some instances then anything a celebrity or politician ever accomplish. But for the most part, by the luck of the draw or simply by good common sense of when we turn on the video camera, the truly kinky stuff is never captured on a sex tape…and we’re probably all the better for it.

But is all this access, all this free porn really any hotter than porn we pay for?

As porn companies try to battle to rising tide of their movies being watched for free, they compete in various ways, the least of which is to produce higher quality content that you can only ever buy on DVD. Protected in the same way downloading information from CD’s is protected, porn companies know that they are presenting the very best they can on these discs and even though audiences must pay, they hope that viewers will to take to wanting the superior product.

Some people do, some people don’t.

It seems that convenience to some people is really what’s hot, not so much quality or uniqueness of the porn. In fact as more stuff becomes readily available or easy to produce it could be argued we are being exposed to material of such a lesser quality that after time our sensibilities erode. That over the years we don’t notice when free porn is not really good porn and that we will simply think all porn is hot when it’s free because…it is.

It used to be the cream floated to the top, but these days there is no top, really. The net has subverted models of doing business as well as ways to get product and services-not just dirty movies-and there really is no saying where the business of porn is heading and if free porn might end the business of porn after a time.

Whenever a beautiful spring day dawns on the weekend, many of us get the urge to have a road trip and do a little exploration. Many of us polish up our trusty cars and take them out for a spin on the highway with no particular destination in mind. We go where the open road and our expansive whims take us and we spend the day having an adventure with no limits, no schedule and certainly no predetermined outcome. We often come across many little special places that we never would have known about or planned to visit had we been sticking to a previously planned out itinerary.

Hopping on the world wide web to search for sex sites can be a very similar and exciting whirlwind of an experience. We can fire up our computers and hop onto the vast and wide open highway of the world wide web and just follow the road to wherever our desires happen to lead us. There is literally something for everyone on the web and we may end up somewhere that we never even knew we wanted to visit until we got there. Whether we are searching for kink, for fetish, or just for sex in general, we will easily find what we seek along our drive on the Internet and we need never worry that we may run out of gas and have to stop.

Time to fire up the engine and hit the road to enjoy the scenery for a bit.

Part of the way this can happen is through what are called safe-words: a code that the submissive can say that will be a signal to the dominant that they want the play to change. The words, ideally, should be ones that won’t be used commonly to avoid confusion and it’s best to have a specific few words at the ready to indicate levels ;darker colors for instance to indicate the play is growing ever more intense or painful This is also why communication must be there are all times, so that the submissive can talk to the dominant and vice versa. The dominant, too, must be able to say at any time that they are uncomfortable or do not want to proceed.

So, while power exchange can be an effective erotic component of kink play, it’s best to always learn as much about it before you try it out with anyone else so you can play safely for a very long time. There are so many levels to what we might seek sexually that it is best we keep open to all possibilities.

For the layman to assume certain polarization assumptions is expected, but even those people involved in BDSM make assumptions that are wildly off the mark. It is as much wishful thinking by those people who see someone across a crowded dungeon and wish they to be what they want them to be, as much as it is the heightened sexuality of a fetish and kink meeting. The reason why people of specific sexual orientations congregate is to hopefully facilitate some sort of sexual activity. They might truly be friends, they might not play together nor ever want to, but all people who log-on to fetish websites or meet at kink munches or play-space scene parties do so less to be social and more because they want to engage at their kink.

The rule of thumb though for the experienced kinkster is simply not to assume anything by how someone is dressed or even how he or she act. Maybe a kinky guy or girl are switches anyway, so at any given time they might be wanting to act dom as they might want to act sub. As with every other aspect of life, if we label someone even before we truly get to know him or her, we won’t learn all of the many facets of our companion’s personality. Even in the specifics of kinky role-play we do well to quell our assumptions until we are bent over or bending someone over.

Most times a person’s true intention or their headspace becomes quickly known in a kinky scene, even if all that person is doing is watching other’s play, but it’s best for all people who might want to even think of hooking-up to forgo assumptions and simply get to know one another.

That isn’t to say that Mickey Mouse will be getting a dick any time soon (not that we’d be opposed to such a thing). A realtor who talked to the SF Chronicle speculated that Disney would be interested in this particular location for a far simpler reason. They’re quoted as saying that the “hip, cool, artistic vibe of the mission” probably appealed to the animation giant. Yeah, because those are the first adjectives that come to mind when someone mentions the Jonas brothers.

Hip, artistic and cool might apply to Disney spoofs such as “Poke her hot ass” however, and you can only hope that’s where Disney is going with this. After all, who wouldn’t pay for some Disney animated porn? Sounds like the perfect modern update on the free sex videos that are swimming in cyberspace at the moment. Either way, the idea of Disney getting naked is too hard to resist.