Some single people are just more naturally assertive, sexual and flirty then others. These folks can sometimes use this naughty style to their advantage; more often than not they are dating more than anyone else and enjoying the fruits of their seductions. But reputation more than any real attractiveness sees us through many a situation and there will come a time we need to remain cool to get hot.

None of us are porn stars so we should not truly think we need to act like one to get close to someone we adore. There is a fine line between seduction and desperation and once one crosses over into the other one has a hard time getting back! What we should employ more often than not, whether talking to an intended paramour or emailing someone across a dating site is our style as it fits us but does not put off anyone else. We can be sexy without being sexual, flirting and fun without being creepy and most of all let someone know we are interested in them without coming across so horny that we simply can’t wait until we get them into bed.

No one wants to be perused to the exclusion of all other interactions but at the same time we all want to feel wanted. The petard we often swing from is giving too much too soon or not enough over a long period of time, either exhausting our lover with our need or boring them with inattention. It is hard indeed lying in wait as much as it is pouncing, finding the right balance between being on and turning off, revealing our need and seeming indifference. Being passive is just as much effort as being aggressive.

It used to be that any type of Porn was harshly and severely looked down upon in polite society, was spoken about only in the softest of judgmental whispers, and took place in only the most questionable and seedy locales. Welcome to 2011 where soft core and hard core porn alike have taken their valued, and not so maligned, places in our societal entertainment options.

No longer is someone who enjoys indulging in surfing for porn on the Internet, or reading a copy of a magazine dedicated almost exclusively to sex, or searching for hot horny people to hookup with online, considered a pervert who should hide themselves until after dark, and of course only go about wearing a creepy tan raincoat made out of some cheap and inferior fabric. Today, these people may be your local grocer, your mailman, your check-out person at the supermarket, your local crossing guard or even your local elected official. Gasp.

These days, not only is pornography enjoyed by a wide variety of people from all walks of life, but our celebrities and television personalities seem to enjoy it too. Look at the number of celebrity sex tapes that end up floating around freely on the world wide web. Whether they are released intentionally for publicity, or leaked by distrustful people close to the stars themselves, it seems very rare that having a sex tape actually harms someones career. The result is usually quite the opposite. Many people teetering on the brink of becoming stars have been pushed over the edge to fame and fortune by a hot sex tape, and our society, for the most part, is perfectly fine with this. We have become, as a society, much more open minded and accepting when it comes to viewing sex, talking about sex, and just behaving as sexual and sensuous beings in general.

Queen Victoria would most definitely not have approved, darling, but everyone else seems just fine.

It’s hard to imagine or remember what our lives were like before there was Free sex on the Internet, or before there was even an Internet for that matter.

And it really wasn’t all that long ago either. When we think back to those fabulous, celebrated, big haired, badly dressed in leather 1980’s, we seem to forget the fact that the decade we remember with such wistful fondness included neither cell phones, nor Internet access, nor DVRs nor even CDs. Gasp! On a normal day in say, 1983, we might hop into our cars and throw a cassette into the cassette player if we were lucky enough to even have a working cassette player, we might have a thought or even two thoughts as we were driving along but we would have to wait to share them until we either got to another human that we knew or we found a pay phone into which we could drop a dime and then call someone to share our plentiful wisdom.

As far as porn went we had only a few options. We could suck it up and head down to our local video shop and skulk into the Adult video section, make our selection and then face the horror of taking it to the counter to check it out, all the while hoping and praying that we would not run into anyone that we knew. Today’s eager and horny porn seeking surfers have it so much easier. Today all that is necessary is a computer with a decent browser and a little bit of privacy, and our happy sex surfer can spend hours and hours checking out fabulous free porn on the Internet with no looks askance and judgement.

The 1980’s were for sure over the top and amazing, but as far as surfing for porn goes, our current times are certainly a bit less nerve wracking.

In the U.K. recently horny birdwatchers were caught by park rangers using secluded bird watching huts for their late night love-making. The hunt and chase of the supposed civilized fix hunt brings men’s cocks round to erection as they ride their horses, and many a woman is both repelled by animal blood on her man’s hunting jacket as grows aroused when she prepares the meat of animal he has killed.

Ironically almost all bird species are monogamous, in fact many animals exhibit mating behavior that would do well on a dating site but we, as the most intelligent animal-arguably-retain the right to root and scurry in our basest basements for debasement of our lovers.

We might not be following our feathered friends or scurry brothers, we might indeed by leading the charge in our animalist sense when it comes to sex.

Then there are the aberrations to heterosexual sex we indulge in that seem to be seen in other mammal’s behaviors to; black swans have been known for some homosexual pairings and almost all species have been seen masturbating. We do though seem to have kinks and fetishes pretty much sown up as far as truly non vanilla sexual practices are concerned!

The truth is that no animal is above the other in how refined their sexual practices might be. When it comes to these incredibly complicated yet base urges we all pretty much are taken over by a blood fever, want to get off, with our without a partner.

It a thing lives it pretty much poops and eats and if that thing wants to continue to propagate its own species it pretty much, for the most part, most procreate with another of its species to do so. The urge to spawn, to rub up against, to feel pleasure is as strong for the salmon as it is for a homosexual teenager looking for his first blowjob.

The net is as much a portal for sex these days as it is for anything else… in fact the Internet is the perfect place to exercise our dirtier interests.  One undeniable fact is true, adults want to be fucking, rubbing and sucking as much as they can or are comfortable with a partner they find to fuck, rub and suck with.

Male humans, especially young guys, are ruled by their nescient libido more then they are often their good commons sense and finding another avenue in which to pursue conquests, namely, on-line, they have made the net their personal procurement playground.

How men go about attempting to find a date, than seduce that date doesn’t matter. Terms used for sex, on the net or off, change with ridiculous regularity, but it comes down to the same specifics of seduction it always has: men using their wit and wiles to secure a date. Whether they are emailing, posting a profile picture, chatting in a local chatroom or even joining a fetish site, these ways of strutting on-line are no different then being available every Tuesday night for a bookstore run with a buddy or scoping out the local supermarket for the weeknight that attracts the most single shoppers.

It might seem that the game of sex, flirting, seduction, even hooking-up and the tales told afterward are more private, or at least more likely to be anonymous these days, but methodology is the only thing that may have changed. Euphemisms morph generation to generation but the game is still played and the game is sex for the red-blooded male. Shy or a playboy, teen or middle age, single and even married, men are still out there on the prowl and are using the Internet in ways that even the most adept hacker would be proud of.

This got me thinking, there must be a better way to stay warm in this frigid winter besides cranking up the furnace and plugging in an electric blanket.

SEX! Sex always gets the heart pumping, the sweat dripping and the body hot, especially when you fuck like porn stars, so it’s the best remedy for the Winter blues in my opinion.

Sharing body heat is the best way to conserve energy, and you’ll even save some cash in the process. Nothing beats staying in and having hot sex on a cold night, all the while saving some money and getting your jollies off.

Here are a few tips to make your sex life hot, hot, hot:

• Go from water to land; take a scolding hot shower together to warm up. While you lather each other up and rinse each other off, you will do more than just steam up the bathroom mirrors. Then dry each other off and hit the sheets.
• When your in bed with your partner, get complete dressed. I know that it is the opposite of what people usually do, but shedding the layers as you guy will turn up the body heat and make you a lot more horny. Once your both naked, the skin on skin will feel so hot.
• Take advantage of those sex toys because adding that extra stimulation into the mix with really heat you up.
• If you have a fireplace, fuck her right in front of it. Pull a chair in front and have her straddle you while you feel the heat.

Even though Spring is on it’s way, take advantage of these last few days of cold to really heat things up at home.

Swingers many times define themselves as having a regular partner while also engaging in sex play with others. Some swingers seek out sex with strangers, while still other couples have regular play partners they are intimate with. Swingers meet at parties just for swinging or play spaces they pay to join. And though far too often men and women who swing are regarded by the vanilla traditional sex crowd as being somehow sleazy, too horny or sexually predatory, there are many swingers who have healthy, happy and emotionally stable lives, enjoying their liberal lifestyle of non monogamous sex successfully for many years.

Entering into the swinging lifestyle can be tricky as many clubs or events do not allow single men to join, as far too many single men believe that swinging is just free sex. Many of these groups and events require that entrants either be single women or male/female couples so that there would be an equal match of all participants. Couples entering into swinging need be completely sure they both want to step into this world, must communicate their needs and fears and trust one another completely; it’s not just every couple who can stay emotionally connected to their partners while fucking other people. Many swingers have rules in their relationships to remind emotionally-bonded partners that they are the primary couple and that lovers and play partners are just that and not a threat to a relationship, but it all can be very tricky as intimacy often gets mixed with sex, for better or worse. Where our pink parts are engaged so often goes our hearts and walking the balance beam of propriety is a swinger’s most delicate act as well as their most important step to execute.

“Club Paradise” is three storeys high, has flashing neon lights, two bars, a VIP zone and about 180 sex workers, dressed up in everything from nightgowns to g-strings to some very brief shorts-whatever your fetish may be.

So guys, if your in Spain and feeling horny, disregard a night in watching some free porn because business is booming at this place and apparently “the place is heaving every weekend.”

And I suggest that you do try and make a trip over the Atlantic because Prostitution is so popular and socially accepted that 30 percent of all Spanish men have used a prostitute service at least once. A Spanish Health Ministry survey in 2009 put the percentage of one time prostitute users at 32 percent, and it is far higher than the liberal minded Holland, which is only 14 percent.

To meet the demand of the horny Spaniards and their North American tourists, there is an estimated 300,000 prostitutes that are working everywhere from clubs to lonely country roads and roadside bars, to huge clubs that are recognizable by gigantic flashing signs.

Prostitution is so much less taboo than it is in the conservative and high strung North America society. In Spain, having sex with a hooker isn’t just seen as a way for men go about losing their virginity; it is actually seen as cool.

It makes you wonder why it’s so socially acceptable compared to here to hook up with a prostitute. Apparently it has to do a lot with the laws in Spain, and maybe they are just better at accepting the fact that no matter what, women are going to do sexual acts in exchange for money.

The prostitutes in North America often get themselves involved in some pretty bad situations because of the fact that it is illegal and they could be punished, where as in Spain, they would rather keep them safe and promote condom use and road side safety, instead of trying to pretend like nothing bad is going on.