When collars are seen in most sex videos we can assume they are probably being used for the duration of the movie and nothing more. They are a way to restrain a submissive or keep her in place, and they are also a simple symbol of the role that one of the porn stars is playing. By contrast, in the real world these accessories can take on a far more significant meaning, sometimes representing as much as a wedding ring does to more vanilla couples.

For some people a permanent collar, often called a slave collar, is given as a sign of a highly significant Dominant and submissive style relationship. The slave who wears this collar has entered into a significant amount of training with the Master of their choice, and it shows their devotion to each other on a very high level. Collars worn like this should not be touched by outsiders without permission. Even if one is fucking the wearer of such a collar it is best to avoid touching it whenever possible unless one is explicitly allowed to do so.

Collars of course can also be worn as a fashion accessory or a play thing. For some people attending a sex party together it might be a sign of a temporary relationship between the two, or just that one of them is looking to submit to someone there.

A dominant lady who is looking for a full time submissive is usually looking for a lot more than just sex or someone to torture. She’s looking for someone who is going to make her life easier, who is going to care for her and take care of her, and someone that in some ways might even be a bit like a personal assistant sometimes because of their level of involvement with their dominant lady. A dominant lady, often referred to as a Domme, is sometimes looking for a live-in sex slave. It does sound like it would be a great way to live, having a live-in person who would be dedicated to providing sexual pleasure. There are a lot of other services that a person like would provide.

It probably sounds like a dream but there are men and women out there looking for exactly that kind of existence behind closed doors. They want to live in and be at their Lady’s beck and call twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week. Many want to serve their Mistress in many ways, not just sexually. For a lot of submissives who have these slave tendencies, they believe that their job is to serve and make life easier and more convenient in every possible way for their Mistress. Domestic service is often provided, so some submissives will also clean, do laundry, cook, help with the household expenses, provide massages and pedicures, iron clothes, deal with finances, take garbage out and support their Mistress mentally, emotionally and physically. These things should be negotiated carefully and thoughtfully with any potential new sub and again before anyone gets into a full-blown relationship. A lot of times these men are very masculine and quite often have had a lot of career success in their own lives. They simply want to come home and hand over the reins to someone else and be submissive. There are a lot of alpha females who are also submissives at home, and they too have high powered jobs and just want to stop being in charge of everything when they come home at the end of the day. Being a submissive sometimes feels like a little brain vacation. That’s not to say that a submissive doesn’t think; they do, but it means that they are relieved of the stress of being in charge.

They are designed to allow men to urinate and wash without removing them. Most often they are locked and the dominant has control of the key. While a male chastity device is effective in preventing men from masturbating and having sex, most dominant females would agree that a good submissive shouldn’t require such measures and should willingly abide by the orders of his Domme when it comes to masturbation, sex and orgasms. They can be very useful items for training purposes with an inexperienced submissive though, and they are wonderful for use as a means of prolonged play because they will constantly remind the submissive that he is owned and that even his most natural and uncontrollable urges can be controlled by the woman who owns him.

Some male submissives enjoy being denied the ability and opportunity to orgasm, and they really enjoy the idea that their orgasms are a gift from their Domme and given only when she sees fit. They crave the denial and the discomfort that the chastity device provides. They enjoy being made to beg for release. The Dommes usually enjoy being able to tease the submissive by getting them aroused and they enjoy the discomfort that their sub experiences when his cock begins to get hard inside the device. Even when the sub isn’t in their physical presence, the Domme can tease from afar with a phone call, e-mail or text message. It’s a great way to remind the sub of their role in the relationship. For men who enjoy this type of play, being able to experience this for days, or even weeks, is very enjoyable to them even when it is extremely uncomfortable.