For men, each time they have sex is like a new time. Sex, and for that matter porn, are less quantitative then qualitative for men and their responses. The male mind can simply go back to the well over and over countless times, to view something that arouses it. A man might simply love his wife’s nipples and though having seen them too many times to be able to count, will still be transfixed by the sight, feel and texture of her nipple and areola every single time he sees them. Being a man he will never tire of that which fascinates and arouses him. Much like a child that needs to reinforce learning by repetition, a man needs to feed his sense-and his sense of sight most of all-by gazing at that that he is attracted to over and over again.
This is why men are often tagged with the pejorative of objectifying women when in fact what is happening most times – or even on a first date – is that a man is locking into what he finds so alluring and enjoying in his partner, their lips, tits, ass, even another cock to the exclusion of all else. He immerses his sight and attention and enjoys the piece of pieces for what they are and not how they relate to their lover as a whole.
Whether he is gay, bi or straight a man will never of his stimulants, and if they are visual they will end up being even more arresting.
This is why pleasing a man in bed really is so very easy. First of all, a mans genitals exist outside his body, they are easier to stimulate by touch then a womans. But ad into the mix the way a mans sight so easily leads him to spin his wheels over the same object or body part any mans lover knows all they have to do is satisfy a mans sense of obsessive sight, touch a mans dick a time or two and hell be soon in orgasmic nirvana.
Its not so much that the male mind is simpler then the feminine one. Its not so much that women rely more on their emotions to fuel their libido, while a man can stick his cock into any warm hole. Men certainly can be less emotionally attached then women and their intimacy building often takes a different course, but for a man, being led by visual stimuli he has seen over and over again is a form of intimacy and the very best way for a man to be aroused.
Ladies, men need to hunt and compete and win in order to feel like something is worth their effort. We women may want to be available when we like someone, but that takes away the conquest aspect for men, and then they lose interest quickly. Making a guy work for it a little will intrigue him, and his willingness to put in the effort makes it clear that hes really interested (and not just interested in a porn fantasy). Theres a fine line to walk between playing hard to get and pushing a guy away though, so this must be handled carefully.
