So what is Fifty Shades of Grey? Well, for starters, it’s a book. Yes, with words. We know, we know…reading is so hard. However, that hasn’t stopped women from jumping all over it like a fat kid on smarties. In fact, some people are even referring to it as “mommy porn” because it’s been so popular with women.

What is this crazy book about? In a word: sex. It describes the BDSM relationship between Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey. She’s a young college graduate and he’s a billionaire. They have sex. Lots and lots of sex. The sex is described in great detail and housewives are eating it up.

Why do we care about this? More importantly: why should you care about Fifty Shades of Grey? Well, because if this book is any indication, your wife/girlfriend/friendly neighborhood fuck buddy (Hi Gladys!) may just have some naughty fantasies up her sleeve that she’s not telling you about. Yup, just think about it: she could be fantasizing about you taking her roughly from behind and you don’t even know about it.

Uh oh. The morality police have been at it again. The War on Illegal Pornography (WOIP) group have apparently gotten their panties all in a twist about the discount website Groupon. You see, Groupon recently offered discounted tour coupons for the San Francisco Armory.

What’s the San Francisco Armory got to do with porn? Everything. In 2006 the Armory was purchased by the owners of Kink.com (the same people who brought us the lovely Fucking Machines studio) and is the headquarters for all things kinky, bondage, BDSM and porn related.

Of course, the Armory is also a historical building and the good people at Kink.com have been offering historic tours of both the building and the company’s porn sets. In fact, twice this year they’ve offered those tour tickets at a discounted price via Groupon. While WOIP is running a ridiculous boycott, Groupon has wisely chosen to side with the porn world, arguing that “this business has proven to be a responsible member of their community and the tour offered in this deal is historical and informational in nature”. In fact, plenty of people have been coming out in support of Kink.com and BDSM porn and we’d like to join them.

]]> 0 http://www.orgasm.com/free-porn-blog/2012/04/25/convince-her-to-let-you-tie-her-up/ http://www.orgasm.com/free-porn-blog/2012/04/25/convince-her-to-let-you-tie-her-up/#comments Wed, 25 Apr 2012 18:28:27 +0000 Gordon McCord http://www.orgasm.com/free-porn-blog/?p=7421 By now we’ve all seen bondage. Hell, BDSM is practically mainstream at this point! Maybe we caught ourselves watching Secretary. Maybe we fell down the rabbit hole of watching videos from Fucking Machines. However it happened, bondage is here and we’re interested.

So how do we convince women to let us do it to them? Well, first of all, don’t start with Japanese-style rope bondage suspensions. A) You don’t know how to do them. B) You’re going to scare your girl shitless. If you really want to get your kink on, you’re going to have to start small. Start with introducing silk scarves and blindfolds into the bedroom.

Once you’ve got her interested, it’s time to up the ante. Feel free to introduce some rougher sex. Bare handed spanking can be a great way to introduce her to things like floggers, paddles, and canes down the road. Again, you have to start small.

Before you know it you’ll have her calling you sir and begging for more.

What kind of adult films are women watching these days? Glad you asked! Today, on orgasm.com we’ll be taking a look at the free porn that girls love to watch.

The age old question has finally floated to the top of the pickle barrel at our fun free porn site. What do women want to look at in adult films?

Apparently this is what the average porno maker thinks women want to see.

I get the feeling that if adult film makers could shove a kitten and chocolate up a woman’s vagina without getting sued, they would try that as well.

The girls around the office (yes we have girls here) say that the stuff that is put out “for women” is completely insulting.

Women are making porn nowadays too, most of that porn looks like this.

That looks a little too “art house” for my tastes. So, like any good researcher, I’ve taken an anonymous survey around the office.

After a few coy discussions and some dirty looks, I got this.

REAL lesbians. Not the fake finger nailed girl on girl stuff that happens on most porn sites.

Apparently authenticity is a big turn on when it comes to porn for women. That brings me to another popular type of porn according to my female colleagues.

No, not gang bangs necessarily. However, amateur porn made the top of the porn list for most lady viewers. My coworkers say they like it because usually the women have more realistic body types and it’s easier to imagine themselves in the sex videos. Click here to see some of the amateur porn we have on Orgasm.com.

Surprisingly, another beloved style of porn for the feminine viewer is this.

Bondage porn. Psychologists online say it’s because if a woman is tied up and a man “forces” himself upon her, then she’s not really a slut.

Funny, they say slut like it’s a bad thing. We at orgasm.com are very slut positive. Ladies, feel free to be slutty!

Another female favorite in porn is coming right up…

Oh yeah, everyone likes it when a porn star is happy. The girls care if the girls on screen are having a good time. Aren’t women lovely? Hell yeah!

Here is a short visual list of porn that women commonly bitch to me about.

The money shot cum facial is apparently not appreciated by the ladies.

Super fake porn stars are a turn off. Makes sense I guess. Sometimes seeing some bad bolt-ons even throws me out of a porn watching moment.

This kind of porn also makes the no unzipping fly zone for most female adult film fans.

Really? A barely legal school girl doesn’t do it for the ladies? I’m shocked! Still, here at orgasm.com we strive to be as inclusive as possible.

That’s why we work hard at having porn for all of our viewers. If you have any suggestions for new and exciting porn on our best free porn video blog, please, let us know!

In the mean time, we’ll try and keep up the big variety of free porn.

Today, your favorite free porn blog is going to show you how to introduce your BDSM fetish to someone new.

So you’re a fan of the whip. Good for you! Now, how the hell are you going to bring it up to that new girl you’re dating?The best way is to start is with the light stuff. No, you don’t have to get feather or silk, you want her in a collar before next year for crying out loud.

Go with some fur covered hand cuffs to start. The next time you’re going at it in the bedroom whisper in her ear that you want to tie her to the bed. In the beginning always ask when it comes to restraining her. This is pretty tame so she should say yes.

If she takes that in stride then you can move onto smacking her ass while you’re fucking her in cuffs. Make sure to smack a little harder than just a love tap, this will test how she’ll handle heavier stuff.

If she complains, ask her if she wants you to stop, if she says yes, stop. That will re-enforce that she always has the control to stop things when she’s not feeling it. If she says to keep going, you might have a winner on your hands.

Sex toys are next on the menu. Tell her you’ve got a special treat for her. Then, with her permission, handcuff her to a chair and start teasing her with a vibrator. Put some clothespins on her nipples, if she balks, take the vibrator away.

Wait a beat, then try again and if she lets you this time, tease the vibrator on her pussy till she cums. This is great training. Most people who are getting off without having to do anything but endure a tiny bit of pain are going to become more open to a little bit of S&M.

Now that you’ve got her being spanked, clothes pinned, vibrator tortured and handcuffed on a regular basis, you can go ahead and bring out the dog collar and whip. By this point she should know what you’re into and it will now just be a matter of setting the boundaries of your bondage and BDSM play.

Creating the boundaries are important. If you don’t want a policeman knocking at your door, never cross her line. If you follow these simple steps you’ll be dragging your new slave down to the dungeon in no time!

Happy hog tying!

So what do you do if the girl you’re dating expresses a curiosity in watching porn with you? Tread very fucking lightly, that’s what you do.

So you’ve got a girlfriend, or a fuck buddy who wants to watch porn with you. Congratulations buddy, you might have a winning lottery ticket on your hands. To make sure things go smoothly, let’s keep a few things in mind.

First off, be very careful. If she says she just wants to watch whatever you usually watch, this could end badly, especially if she isn’t a big adult video. Of course it depends on what kind of clips you usually watch. If it’s pretty easy going stuff, like lesbian or standard girl on guy stuff, you should be ok.

If you’re like a lot of the viewers online today, you like your porn nasty and kinky. That’s cool, in fact, good for fucking you. If you get a boner by seeing some girl get three dicks shoved into her ass, that is a-ok at orgasm.com. Sadly though, some girls just don’t understand the appeal of that.

What you have to do is test the waters. First, ask what kind of sex videos she likes, if she says she never watches it, then bring out the lipstick lesbian stuff. If she says she’s just into “the normal porn” then bring out the girl on guy stand-by porn that you can still get off to.

If she say she likes bondage, or hardcore, you’ve got yourself a winner. Why not ask her to show you the type of porn she likes best. Just be careful you don’t end up with a girl who’s into this.

If she is, bare your teeth and back slowly out of the room. Unless, of course that interests you. In that case, congratulations! Happy porn watching!

We need to have variety to fully enjoy our sex lives. With too much of the same old thing it can easy to grow bored with a partner or even fucking itself. Well, maybe not fucking, but one reason that people’s attentions start to stray is when the sexual spark starts to wane amongst people who are dating. Adding new kinds of sexual fun to the mix will revive this spark for many people and may lead to new kinds of intimacy that have never been felt before. Bondage is one kind of sexual play that many lovers enjoy adding to their repertoire of bedroom games.

Since we’ve all presumably enjoyed free sex where we could move our bodies as we pleased, it may seem odd that it would also be possible to enjoy being tied up like Taylor Rain in this video. However many people find a great deal of pleasure in this act and finding themselves unable to move can be a huge turn on. This can be for many reasons. For one thing, we feel vulnerable when we cannot freely move and this kind of vulnerability can be exciting when shared with a lover or fuck friend. We are open to them yet cannot perhaps touch them back. This creates a new focus on the person who is tied down, letting them enjoy the sensations and not worry about reciprocating for now, while the one who is free can enjoy whatever access to one’s body they desire.

Many couples experiment with simple bondage using silk ties or scarves, but sometimes rope provides a fun and even sometimes safer option. Also used are chains or even a special vinyl plastic which sticks to itself but does not stick to skin in the manner of duct tape. It can be wrapped around and around a person’s limbs or even around both wrists and ankles for a simple hogtie.

One of the most important things to remember about bondage is that it is something that should not be done without some research, classes, reading or hands-on instruction. While there are way of doing bondage that are simple all it takes to seriously hurt someone is for a rope to be tied too tight or have a mouth or nose blocked. Because of this you should never have anything covering the mouth or nose the person being restrained, part of this is to allow the person being restrained to breathe without hindrance but also because it will allow the person being restrained to be able to communicate at all times, which is extremely important. While some people do role playing while they are in bondage for beginner kink lovers it is better not to do such and instead keep communication simple and direct so the person being restrained can simply say if something is too tight or if they are hurting or simply uncomfortable.

Bondage, too, while it can be done with simple things really does require the use of specially designed equipment as homemade or crude or too-simple equipment can lead to injuries and accidents. Cheap handcuffs, for example, should never be used as they can seriously harm wrists and ankles. Scarves also should never be used as they can knot up and cut off circulation and then be hard to get off. Rope is okay but never tied too tightly. The bottom line, however, is always play safe and cautiously and never take unnecessary risks especially around something that is supposed to be sexy and playful and fun. So if you want to play with bondage read a few books and take a lot of classes and play safe so you can play for a long, long time.

Substances include oil, water, alcohol, molten wax and chocolate syrup. The last one is a favorite among novice players and those who are kinky but not fetish oriented. It’s widely available and relatively tasty compared to some of the flavored oils, carries none of the dangers of alcohol or molten wax and can be easily cleaned up.

Objects for temperature play include metal sharps, such as knives, dildos, chains, necklaces and other things that can be submerged in water or frozen with rapid results.

Light bondage and blindfolds-aka sensory deprivation-can enhance the experience as the body shuts down those resources and diverts energy into the direct stimuli.

Typical fire play involves setting something with 50-70% rubbing alcohol on fire, than applying it on or over the skin. Scarring can occur if negotiated and allowed by both parties. Skill here is imperative so ensure the safety of both parties.

Wax is often used as a tool in temperature play because it’s easy to vary the level of pain or intensity of heat involved. Simply by holding dripping wax farther up from the skin, or closer to the body can one induce longer sensations.

Proper precautions for this type of sexual stimulation include water, cotton swabs, bandages and band aids, gauze, as any typical first aid kit should include. If bondage of any sort is involved, then sharp scissors should be included in the event that something goes wrong.

Several well-written articles have been published at various sites online such as The Frugal Domme, Wikipedia and there are a number of BDSM resources for those looking to explore temperature play.

Ice play is the opposite extreme from fire play. Using ice cubes, ice shaped dildos and other methods of freezing water into hardened substances; the body is exposed to cold temperatures. This form of stimulation often produces arousal in women when rubbing ice cubes across or around their nipples. Dangers include frostbite if the objects are too cold or left in place for too long. The danger point is way before what seems like a real problem, so monitoring a partner’s body and observing closely are good ideas.

Another great way to learn some new things is to go to a fetish convention for a weekend. There are always a lot of classes, demonstrations and presentations on a wide variety of topics. Usually, there are classes for many different experience levels to provide something for everyone. There are usually a pretty wide number of topics to choose from as well. Most weekends have classes in things like rope bondage, flogging, caning, tit torture, CBT, fisting, and violet wand play. Some will also have classes in relationship development, how to live in a D/s relationship 24/7, self-help classes, and even some options that lean a little more toward the metaphysical, such as sex magick, tantra, meditation and orgasmic breathing. There are usually so many interesting classes available that most people find that they can’’t possibly get to every class that they would have liked to. Taking classes at the fetish conventions is a lot of fun and then one can go right into the dungeon to keep practicing, and there are usually people around in the dungeon that would be happy to offer their own knowledge.