While we’re obviously fans of video porn, a recent “lifestyle porn” book has been taking the world by storm. E.L. James’ Fifty Shades of Grey has hit the New York Times’ Bestseller list and is being talked about by everyone from Ellen DeGeneres to your next door neighbor. Seriously, Gladys won’t shut up about it.
Uh oh. The morality police have been at it again. The War on Illegal Pornography (WOIP) group have apparently gotten their panties all in a twist about the discount website Groupon. You see, Groupon recently offered discounted tour coupons for the San Francisco Armory.
By now we’ve all seen bondage. Hell, BDSM is practically mainstream at this point! Maybe we caught ourselves watching Secretary. Maybe we fell down the rabbit hole of watching videos from Fucking Machines. However it happened, bondage is here and we’re interested.
One in every three porn viewers is female, which means chances are, a woman is reading my blog post right now (sorry for having such a fucking potty mouth, ladies).
What kind of adult films are women watching these days? Glad you asked! Today, on orgasm.com we’ll be taking a look at the free porn that girls love to watch.
Bondage isn’t something you want to just spring on someone. If you’ve been hanging out at the dungeons by yourself for the past few months and you want to enslave that new blonde your banging, we can help.
Today, your favorite free porn blog is going to show you how to introduce your BDSM fetish to someone new.
Watching porn is usually a solo endeavor. It’s just you, your computer (or TV if you’re stuck in the 1980′s), your fleshlight or lubriderm and a hand full of kleenex. Normally another person doesn’t enter the equation.
So what do you do if the girl you’re dating expresses a curiosity in watching porn with you? Tread very fucking lightly, that’s what you do.
We need to have variety to fully enjoy our sex lives. With too much of the same old thing it can easy to grow bored with a partner or even fucking itself. Well, maybe not fucking, but one reason that people’s attentions start to stray is when the sexual spark starts to wane amongst people who are dating. Adding new kinds of sexual fun to the mix will revive this spark for many people and may lead to new kinds of intimacy that have never been felt before. Bondage is one kind of sexual play that many lovers enjoy adding to their repertoire of bedroom games.
Since we’ve all presumably enjoyed free sex where we could move our bodies as we pleased, it may seem odd that it would also be possible to enjoy being tied up like Taylor Rain in this video. However many people find a great deal of pleasure in this act and finding themselves unable to move can be a huge turn on. This can be for many reasons. For one thing, we feel vulnerable when we cannot freely move and this kind of vulnerability can be exciting when shared with a lover or fuck friend. We are open to them yet cannot perhaps touch them back. This creates a new focus on the person who is tied down, letting them enjoy the sensations and not worry about reciprocating for now, while the one who is free can enjoy whatever access to one’s body they desire.
Many couples experiment with simple bondage using silk ties or scarves, but sometimes rope provides a fun and even sometimes safer option. Also used are chains or even a special vinyl plastic which sticks to itself but does not stick to skin in the manner of duct tape. It can be wrapped around and around a person’s limbs or even around both wrists and ankles for a simple hogtie.
Bondage, to put it simply, is the sex and erotic play and pleasure that can come from someone either being restrained or by restraining someone else. But while bondage is a simple concept there are a lot of things that everyone needs to know in order to do it safely and without putting either person at risk. Anytime we restrict or tie down someone or ask to be ourselves, we better be damn sure we are playing with someone we trust!
One of the most important things to remember about bondage is that it is something that should not be done without some research, classes, reading or hands-on instruction. While there are way of doing bondage that are simple all it takes to seriously hurt someone is for a rope to be tied too tight or have a mouth or nose blocked. Because of this you should never have anything covering the mouth or nose the person being restrained, part of this is to allow the person being restrained to breathe without hindrance but also because it will allow the person being restrained to be able to communicate at all times, which is extremely important. While some people do role playing while they are in bondage for beginner kink lovers it is better not to do such and instead keep communication simple and direct so the person being restrained can simply say if something is too tight or if they are hurting or simply uncomfortable.
Bondage, too, while it can be done with simple things really does require the use of specially designed equipment as homemade or crude or too-simple equipment can lead to injuries and accidents. Cheap handcuffs, for example, should never be used as they can seriously harm wrists and ankles. Scarves also should never be used as they can knot up and cut off circulation and then be hard to get off. Rope is okay but never tied too tightly. The bottom line, however, is always play safe and cautiously and never take unnecessary risks especially around something that is supposed to be sexy and playful and fun. So if you want to play with bondage read a few books and take a lot of classes and play safe so you can play for a long, long time.
Temperature play as a form of erotic stimulation is a dangerous yet exceptionally fun fetish for a number of kinky players. Temperature play involves using substances and objects to stimulate the body’s neuroreceptors for heat and cold for sensual effect.
Substances include oil, water, alcohol, molten wax and chocolate syrup. The last one is a favorite among novice players and those who are kinky but not fetish oriented. It’s widely available and relatively tasty compared to some of the flavored oils, carries none of the dangers of alcohol or molten wax and can be easily cleaned up.
Objects for temperature play include metal sharps, such as knives, dildos, chains, necklaces and other things that can be submerged in water or frozen with rapid results.
Light bondage and blindfolds-aka sensory deprivation-can enhance the experience as the body shuts down those resources and diverts energy into the direct stimuli.
Typical fire play involves setting something with 50-70% rubbing alcohol on fire, than applying it on or over the skin. Scarring can occur if negotiated and allowed by both parties. Skill here is imperative so ensure the safety of both parties.
Wax is often used as a tool in temperature play because it’s easy to vary the level of pain or intensity of heat involved. Simply by holding dripping wax farther up from the skin, or closer to the body can one induce longer sensations.
Proper precautions for this type of sexual stimulation include water, cotton swabs, bandages and band aids, gauze, as any typical first aid kit should include. If bondage of any sort is involved, then sharp scissors should be included in the event that something goes wrong.
Several well-written articles have been published at various sites online such as The Frugal Domme, Wikipedia and there are a number of BDSM resources for those looking to explore temperature play.
Ice play is the opposite extreme from fire play. Using ice cubes, ice shaped dildos and other methods of freezing water into hardened substances; the body is exposed to cold temperatures. This form of stimulation often produces arousal in women when rubbing ice cubes across or around their nipples. Dangers include frostbite if the objects are too cold or left in place for too long. The danger point is way before what seems like a real problem, so monitoring a partner’s body and observing closely are good ideas.
Kinky people love to learn new things, from free porn or real life, and they also usually love to show off their own skills and share ideas. Its not unusual to find a few Doms collaborating in a dungeon to make a scene even more
interesting. Watching scenes is a great way to learn some new things or get suggestions on how to improve one’s technique or skill set. If a person sees someone doing something interesting in the dungeon, its totally okay to talk to that person and ask them for some tips. Don’t interrupt a scene when people are playing, but once the scene and the aftercare is completed, go talk to the person. A good rule of thumb is when the people in the scene start mingling again, its safe to talk to them. Starting off with a compliment will nearly always get a favorable response, as long as its not an obvious ass-kissing kind of compliment. Sincerity goes a long way though, and a sincere compliment and honest desire to learn will usually be met with a willingness to share. Kinky people do love showing off their skills and most don’t mind teaching a little bit when the opportunity arises.
Another great way to learn some new things is to go to a fetish convention for a weekend. There are always a lot of classes, demonstrations and presentations on a wide variety of topics. Usually, there are classes for many different experience levels to provide something for everyone. There are usually a pretty wide number of topics to choose from as well. Most weekends have classes in things like rope bondage, flogging, caning, tit torture, CBT, fisting, and violet wand play. Some will also have classes in relationship development, how to live in a D/s relationship 24/7, self-help classes, and even some options that lean a little more toward the metaphysical, such as sex magick, tantra, meditation and orgasmic breathing. There are usually so many interesting classes available that most people find that they can’t possibly get to every class that they would have liked to. Taking classes at the fetish conventions is a lot of fun and then one can go right into the dungeon to keep practicing, and there are usually people around in the dungeon that would be happy to offer their own knowledge.
