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Expanding Yours Sexual Horizons With Role Play

Tuesday, June 14th, 2011

Even though there’s various techniques for men and women to expand their sexual horizons, from experimenting with new types of erotic stimulation or playing with new and unique sex toys, one of the simplest and most powerful technique is called role playing. Role play, basically, is where a person, or a couple, put on a new personality to become a whole new and totally different kind of sexual person. It’s basically like the game kids play: let’s pretend. But instead of cowboys and Indians or cops and crooks these games can be a lot more adult and explicit. One mistake that people make, though, is to make the games too complicated. Instead of thinking elaborate or dark with role play a better idea is to keep the games and the roles being used as simple and almost funny as possible. Instead of something like serial killer and cop, which can bring up a lot of dangerous possibilities, it is much better to do something like housewife and pool boy, businessman and call girl, student and teacher, or similar.

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For a lot of men and women who role play open huge doors of erotic possibility: chances for couples to put on simple or even eventually complicated scenes that can also lead to play such as dominance and submission: where one partner will be a slave or servant to the other ; though that is a whole new world of exploration that has its own rules and difficulties as well as new possible benefits.

Role-play doesn’t necessarily lead one to kink nor kink needs role-play it is just that possibilities exist for all the great things we might get into

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Role playing also has plenty of opportunities for expanded play by doing things like buying whole outfits and costumes so the people who are pretending to be other people for sexual play can have not just a new personality but also a whole new wardrobe that can help with the play in all kinds of new and fun ways. Some couples also go as far as to take their new personalities out for a date or even on vacation: pretending to be other people in hotels, restaurants and so forth.

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So think about role playing if you are interested in expanding your sexual horizons in new and possibly stimulating ways.

Dominant versus Alpha

Saturday, June 11th, 2011

One of the biggest discussions among those who read sexy novels is the difference between alpha males and Dominant men. For those who do not read kinky romance novels, the difference is often misunderstood and confused. Some women see the overbearing dominant male as sexists, crude and downright useless.

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Others crave his powerful sexual appeal. It’s raw, it’s exciting and it’s arousing when the man comes in swinging his cock as though it were the biggest dick his mate or partner has ever seen. The thrill can be exhilarating for a woman who loves the ultra-dominant act. But for many women, that action stops at the bedroom and in the real world she is his equal.

Both men have to take charge of situations. Both men feel the need to control and the underlying reasons behind this need for control is generally the same. A belief that his way can guide his heroine into safety feeds his need to be a leader.

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Often times both men will be in powerful positions either as corporate CEOs or highly trained military experts, these men are used to getting their way. The alpha male will continue that power trip at home while the Dominant male will use it as a role in the bedroom for sexual arousal that has been negotiated upon beforehand.

In the real life bedroom similarities exist too. Whether he’s using ropes and handcuffs, spankings and scarves, or just good old fashion strength to make his point, he’s still on top. His goal is pretty much the same, drag something from the woman that she wants to give but doesn’t know how. She’s generally afraid to ask and that fear is often masked as stubbornness or anger. Sometimes it’s blatant fear. In erotic romance novels, sex is used as a weapon to uncover the key issue and develop the plot as well as draw out the conflict.

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His ability to see past her defenses as an alpha male or Dominant is what spurs him on to guiding her. It’s not until he’s learned to grow through the plot that he realizes he’s guiding her as she’s guiding him, but that’s another article. In the end, the two types of men are really one and the same. Labels are just for publisher and reader convenience as they help readers define the characters for the appropriate markets.

Caring For A Domme

Thursday, June 9th, 2011

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A dominant lady who is looking for a full time submissive is usually looking for a lot more than just sex or someone to torture. She’s looking for someone who is going to make her life easier, who is going to care for her and take care of her, and someone that in some ways might even be a bit like a personal assistant sometimes because of their level of involvement with their dominant lady. A dominant lady, often referred to as a Domme, is sometimes looking for a live-in sex slave. It does sound like it would be a great way to live, having a live-in person who would be dedicated to providing sexual pleasure. There are a lot of other services that a person like would provide.

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It probably sounds like a dream but there are men and women out there looking for exactly that kind of existence behind closed doors. They want to live in and be at their Lady’s beck and call twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week. Many want to serve their Mistress in many ways, not just sexually. For a lot of submissives who have these slave tendencies, they believe that their job is to serve and make life easier and more convenient in every possible way for their Mistress. Domestic service is often provided, so some submissives will also clean, do laundry, cook, help with the household expenses, provide massages and pedicures, iron clothes, deal with finances, take garbage out and support their Mistress mentally, emotionally and physically. These things should be negotiated carefully and thoughtfully with any potential new sub and again before anyone gets into a full-blown relationship. A lot of times these men are very masculine and quite often have had a lot of career success in their own lives. They simply want to come home and hand over the reins to someone else and be submissive. There are a lot of alpha females who are also submissives at home, and they too have high powered jobs and just want to stop being in charge of everything when they come home at the end of the day. Being a submissive sometimes feels like a little brain vacation. That’s not to say that a submissive doesn’t think; they do, but it means that they are relieved of the stress of being in charge.

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Better For Whom?

Sunday, June 5th, 2011

Popular with giggling dorm-room friends who’ve had too much to drink, or a couple looking to add a little spice into their marriage, the suburban mink go-to is the threesome. A common porn-born fantasy for a hetero man-getting double of what he wants and none of what he doesn’t-and the truly adventurous sex-capade for a gay couple-especially if they invite a hetero man or woman into their bed-three people having sex with one another is mathematically difficult and often times leads to a lot more questions than simply answering the itch of curiosity.

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For casual daters the threesome won’t usually blip on their radar of possibilities, beyond the night it happens, or the desire it might show for one or the other for some sort of same sex liaison, depending who is introduced into the sex melee. A committed couple, married partners, anyone in a long term romance invites a opening for much larger questions about their relationship in the need they express for someone else to join their sex life. These questions partners might not want to address might very soon be if they continue even with simply talking about a threesome.

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It’s not just the partner one invites to one’s bed that is the wild card, it is also the desire and passion partners might be witness to once they have another next to them in bed. There are a whole host of reactions we might have to a new lover, or hear our lover experience which could run the gambit from unnerving to arousing; and no one is ever ready for either. Even the most secure lover will notice their partners reactions, good or bad.

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While the ménage is quite the divergent angle on the more traditional romance, the variances that are possible are simply too much for some couples, even couples who fantasize about swinging or bringing a best friend into their bed. No matter what our pasts might have allowed, every new relationship has its own rules and a threesome might not fit well with the one’s implied by a couple. Will the introduction of a new person be something that lasts, will it be strictly sexual? Could this situation turn into a polyamorous lifestyle?

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The addition of a third person into a couple’s sex life can add excitement or just too any dam questions.

Something I Like to Watch

Thursday, June 2nd, 2011

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In the age of the point and click D.V.R. people have never been in a better position to be picky. Yet so many times even in a sea of hundreds of channels the two thumbs down low budget film about killer lung fish gets picked. Mostly because it can be a daunting task just looking for what you like and want with so much to choose from. This seems to go double for porn. Even if the search key that is used is very specific it can seem that every thing is getting thrown at you including farm animals. Anything that is made to entertain has a review site some where go there first and take a look then go back to the search window with a title.

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At that point it is relatively safe to go back into the cyber sea. More time is spent enjoying and less time is spent looking. And a good time can be had. Porn does have critics and their own version of the academy awards. Find out who won best picture and look at the top films. Being picky imposes the quality of what is out there to be had that is true of anything. Some say why take the time it is just porn. Why not if it matters enough to watch the film in the first place and give time to doing it what is fifteen more minutes out of the week to pick some thing fun and worthy of having. There are also entire web sites devoted to listing the best films on the ratings boarder that can be hot and fun to watch with a partner that is not really into x-rated films. And it is good to remember that other countries have a more open attitude about sex. They are made well and shot artfully with involved plots a good choice for the romantic that is feeling like a nice turn on.

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You Must Be Joking

Wednesday, June 1st, 2011

There are many folks among us who were born in the very beginning of the 20th century. I am sure when they were growing up as little children and later as young adults, they never could have imagined all the technological advances that our society would make, much less the ability to find Free porn and sex sites on the Internet without any effort at all.

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Many people whom we know were born before the invention of the telephone, the use of air travel as a normal and every day means of travel, the wonder of television, and of course the age of the eight track, the cassette, the compact disc and the Internet. We have become so used to the idea and convenience of the Internet, that we tend to forget that it really was only a relatively short time ago when no one had ever heard of the world wide web or the idea of a telephone that did not have to be plugged into a wall.

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If we had told a people born around 1900 or so that someday people would get onto airplanes and fly through the sky on a regular basis, hold their telephones in their hands as they walk down the street, and converse with people all over the world by using a computer and logging onto a common entity, they would have called the men in the white coats to take us away at the very worst, or simply dismissed us as complete pranksters and concluded that we were joking. We won’t even get into the concept of space exploration.

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Technology has certainly come a long way since 1900, and these advances have opened up new and exciting vistas for our entertainment that many of our younger generation seem to take for granted. But I guess that is always the way, the old makes way for the new, and on and on we go.

Breaking Down the Walls

Monday, May 30th, 2011

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It used to be that any type of Porn was harshly and severely looked down upon in polite society, was spoken about only in the softest of judgmental whispers, and took place in only the most questionable and seedy locales. Welcome to 2011 where soft core and hard core porn alike have taken their valued, and not so maligned, places in our societal entertainment options.

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No longer is someone who enjoys indulging in surfing for porn on the Internet, or reading a copy of a magazine dedicated almost exclusively to sex, or searching for hot horny people to hookup with online, considered a pervert who should hide themselves until after dark, and of course only go about wearing a creepy tan raincoat made out of some cheap and inferior fabric. Today, these people may be your local grocer, your mailman, your check-out person at the supermarket, your local crossing guard or even your local elected official. Gasp.

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These days, not only is pornography enjoyed by a wide variety of people from all walks of life, but our celebrities and television personalities seem to enjoy it too. Look at the number of celebrity sex tapes that end up floating around freely on the world wide web. Whether they are released intentionally for publicity, or leaked by distrustful people close to the stars themselves, it seems very rare that having a sex tape actually harms someones career. The result is usually quite the opposite. Many people teetering on the brink of becoming stars have been pushed over the edge to fame and fortune by a hot sex tape, and our society, for the most part, is perfectly fine with this. We have become, as a society, much more open minded and accepting when it comes to viewing sex, talking about sex, and just behaving as sexual and sensuous beings in general.

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Queen Victoria would most definitely not have approved, darling, but everyone else seems just fine.

A Matter Of Perspective

Monday, May 30th, 2011

A friend’s mother used to use the term Free sex to refer to sex between people who were not married. While she was obviously using the term in a detrimental fashion, and as a not even slightly concealed dig at both of the parties involved whom she believed were immoral, it’s all in the perspective that you choose to adopt. Free sex certainly has its’ rightful and valuable place in our lives. It can be exciting, fun and super easy to come by on the web.

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It seems as though everything in our lives comes along with complication, cost, sacrifice, hard work, blood, sweat, tears, and difficulty. Sex in general, and free sex in particular, can be found easily, for free by definition, with little thought, and no work, on our fantastic and ever ready world wide web. Not only is the sex free, but it is plentiful, varied and available to anyone and everyone, the pious and the perverted alike. All you need is computer access, a comfy chair, a little privacy and a reasonably dirty mind.

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These days anyone can hop right onto the world-wide-web and have a fantastic time window shopping around for great sex. Even if contact is never made, the experience of bouncing around in all the various sex websites can be exciting,  erotic, and loads of fun. Each website is completely different than the one before and many specialize in various erotic genres. Of course if you want to find someone you can actually make contact with and hook-up, the Internet is a perfect place to find that person as long as you exercise a little bit of caution and common sense. There will be no harsh words or disdainful glances coming your way, wherever you choose to go on the net.

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All the free sex you want with no judgment; what could be nicer than that?

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Sex And Promises and Video Tape

Thursday, May 26th, 2011

We live in the technologically advanced age of air brushing, re-touching, re-shooting, re-adjusting and of course special effects. It is no wonder then, that some of our most popular Free sex videos to be found on the Internet are of the slick, professional looking variety.

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Gone are the days of the raw and grainy porno movies that used to be viewed with a cumbersome projector in dingy, low ceilinged, panelled basements all across America. Today’s sex videos are well executed and evolved, and most have a very professional look and feel to them.

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In the porn and sex industries, many producers of XXX movies have formed large corporations which encompass many different websites of many different kinky varieties. There is something to be found by every pervert seeking entertainment in 2011, and there is no need to scuttle off to a friends basement hoping that the latest reel to reel film will at least have a few somewhat attractive naked people rolling around in it. Today it is easy to find one or two websites that act as a sort of umbrella for so many related sites that those one or two may be all that you need to use as a springboard for your viewing choices. Or it may be that the one or two will become your favorites, and sometimes you will venture out to see what else you can come across out there in the world of cyber sex.

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However you choose to manage your sex video experience, you will find more than enough superior quality material to keep you happy, horny and interested. Many of the stars in these flicks look just about perfect thanks to plastic surgery, good lighting, careful editing and the actors best friend, the old re-touch.

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But, hey, if you want to keep it real, you can always just veer off to one of the amateur sites for a bit of variety.

The Devil You Know

Friday, May 20th, 2011

Dirty movie makers are in a quandary, and have been for years. As the web grew they saw a perfect opportunity to present their wares on-line, and they did all they could to be on the forefront of the tsunami that was net pornography The studios could download samples, stream video to their audiences, even sell content over the net for a minimal price and even membership fees to their fan base who would pay to view content streaming.

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Pornographers were reaping the rich benefit of using the web just as escorts were advertising on it, cam girls were doing their daily shows and just about anybody else who was working in the business was enjoying the access the web allowed, without realizing there might be a price to pay.

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It suddenly became too apparent to the studios that there were free porn movies being shown. That their wares, the stuff they worked so hard to produce and paid porn stars lots of money to appear in, was suddenly appearing on-line in pirated form. They had to begin to hire teams just to search the web on a regular basis and the monster that they had hoped would march across the landscape felling competitors in its path was now coming to stomp on their livelihood. People could now get free porn on line and they were getting it on a regular basis.

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The only way for porn makers to retaliate-beyond the exhausting process of policing content-was to spend more money. They made bigger and better websites to attract their audience to their streaming videos and only their streaming videos and they began to produce DVD’s that saw amazing budgets and high production values, hoping to lure viewers off line, away from the very medium they so championed and still pretty much do champion as it continues to bite them on the ass!

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The future of the business unclear, but certainly somebody is watching all that free porn…and watching it right now!