MILF legend Deauxma played a little word association with us at Orgasm.com. The busty porn star didn’t disappoint as we found out from a recent interview: “Well what can I say, I just happen to fall in that MILF category, to be honest I now qualify as a GILF, but who wants to get with a GILF? Actually I am glad about the MILF thing, us older experienced women can do the same things the younger girls can and better. We know what we want and like.” (more…)
There are people who feel unsure as to how to act when going to sex clubs for the first time. There may feel as if there is a set of rules to follow, and not everyone understands them. Sometimes the rules of a sex club are posted, but there are also other unwritten rules that are hard to figure out.
In all cases, courtesy is always the way to go, followed by common sense. Look at the other people. If there are naked girls, then nudity is okay. If there are people watching a sex scene, then the club welcomes voyeurs. Watching is almost always permissible, whereas touching without permission is usually not. Asking someone else about the unwritten rules in the club will help smooth the way for proper behavior. Its also a good idea to ask someone who is not having sex or engaging in other forms of kinky play. Interrupting a scene is considered bad behavior. Asking someone standing nearby who is watching the same scene will be far more comfortable for all concerned.
For exhibitionists, finding an available corner or piece of sex equipment is all that is needed to start showing off. Strip off clothes, or wear something sexy to draw attention. Dont be afraid of making noise, even laughing is okay. Public fucking can be fun and even funny. Theres no need to take it seriously, if the purpose is to have fun or entertain.
Drawing an audience for the kinky couple or single exhibitionist is not difficult. Just taking over a piece of equipment in a sex club may be enough to have people stop and watch. Fondling a breast or cock will draw an audience quickly.
Moans and other porn noises always make people look around to see what is happening. Even a sharp clap or spank will be enough to build an interested crowd.
If going to a sex club sounds like fun, check out locations around the country. On-line lists of sex events exist, and the ongoing sex clubs in larger cities advertise regularly in alternative newspapers and on-line sex news. Swingers groups for married couples are prevalent in every suburb as well as all major cities. Couples and singles both will quickly build a network around themselves once they are out and about in whatever kinky scene they wish to be known in.
Most single people who have profiles on dating websites are looking for sex, at least eventually. It would be unusual to find someone that truly isnt hoping to get into a relationship that eventually leads to sex.
The problem is that sometimes people want to put the cart before the horse and the subject of sex comes up far too early.
Men, when corresponding with a woman on a dating website, especially at the very beginning of the process, dont ask her about sex or what shes into sexually or how many times a day she likes to fuck or if she likes to give blow jobs. In most cases, the lady will find that to be an instant turn off.
Women want to know that guys are interested in them for more than just sexual interaction. Even on websites that are geared toward people who are into BDSM and fetish, the ladies still want to have some vanilla conversation before they are asked to spill their deepest, darkest fantasies.
It comes across as though the man is only interested in sex, and that will turn a lot of ladies off even if they are only interested in sex. It seems disrespectful, and most women do want to be treated with respect and treated like a lady until the time becomes appropriate to treat her otherwise.
Of course, internet dating can be complicated, and it can be rather confusing for the guys because some women respond really favorably to instant sex conversation. They expect to be asked questions right away, especially if they are on BDSM or fetish free porn sites. So how does a guy know what to do? Sometimes its possible to tell by reading the persons profile carefully and really paying attention to what it says. That will often show quite clearly what type of woman she is and what her expectations are. A man can simply do whatever he wants, figuring that the right woman will understand him and it wont matter. Another option is to wait discuss vanilla topics and get to know her as a person, and let the lady introduce the subject of sex whenever shes ready. That will make her feel respected and well-treated and most women will really appreciate that.
Finding new horizons in your sex life can be a fun and exciting experience but it can also be one you can easily get carried away with when you don’t do it responsibly. Whether you are in a committed relationship with a love interest or whether you are fucking strangers, you must always take care not to allow yourself to go too far or get carried away. When you are feeling jaded and looking for a new sex experience you have to be careful you don’t allow yourself to become too seduced by the pleasure. Everyone has limits on how far they will go and while it is always healthy to challenge those limits from time to time it is also very healthy to remember why those limits are there in the first place.
Just because you decide you have found your limit does not mean you have refused to grow or that you are small or close minded. It means you have standards and you stick to them. And one might be amazed at how wonderful and vibrant ones fucking might become when a couple sticks to some of the same things, but discover a new level to their tried-and true standards they did not know existed before. Oral sex can be aided and improved by the addition of foods, syrups or sweet things to go with a little pussy licking or some cock sucking. And many people realize they in fact might be a little kinkier then they first imagined and by wearing some clothes they might already have in their closet their entire mood might change to what they want sexually! A simple change the location when one has sex can do wonders to a staid sex life, as well as simply ideas of what to say and maybe how to act.
There are all sorts of ways you can vary the things you already enjoy without having to do entirely different things. Watching free porn vids can give you some ideas. You just have to be able to see the same things with a brand new perspective and discover that something has layers and levels you have never experienced before. You have gone to entirely new territory and yet still retained your standards of conduct. You have gotten the best of all worlds involved and are satisfied in ways you never imagined before. The orgasms you experience now can be greater than ever before.
A leopard cannot change it spots –
neither can young adult males decrease their testosterone flow. Whether gay, bi or straight, guys are all over the net not only downloading porn but looking for someone to hook-up with. Whether joining on-line dating sites, social networking hubs or simply trolling the groups section of Myspace guys are just as horny as ever, but now have the net to temper their pursuits in what seems a socially acceptable and respectable approach.
The net is as much a portal for sex these days as it is for anything else in fact the Internet is the perfect place to exercise our dirtier interests. One undeniable fact is true, adults want to be fucking, rubbing and sucking as much as they can or are comfortable with a partner they find to fuck, rub and suck with.
Male humans, especially young guys, are ruled by their nescient libido more then they are often their good commons sense and finding another avenue in which to pursue conquests, namely, on-line, they have made the net their personal procurement playground.
How men go about attempting to find a date, than seduce that date doesn’t matter. Terms used for sex, on the net or off, change with ridiculous regularity, but it comes down to the same specifics of seduction it always has: men using their wit and wiles to secure a date. Whether they are emailing, posting a profile picture, chatting in a local chatroom or even joining a fetish site, these ways of strutting on-line are no different then being available every Tuesday night for a bookstore run with a buddy or scoping out the local supermarket for the weeknight that attracts the most single shoppers.
It might seem that the game of sex, flirting, seduction, even hooking-up and the tales told afterward are more private, or at least more likely to be anonymous these days, but methodology is the only thing that may have changed. Euphemisms morph generation to generation but the game is still played and the game is sex for the red-blooded male. Shy or a playboy, teen or middle age, single and even married, men are still out there on the prowl and are using the Internet in ways that even the most adept hacker would be proud of.
The art of seduction runs silent and deep because of our on-line hook-ups, but seduction is just as effective as ever. Single men and women looking for dates or married people looking to cheat or swing know the rules of the field they are playing their game in, can cull through on-line pictures or videos, determine what they will or will not say on their own profile even before they think of meeting someone they are interested in. Chemistry can be well established long even before a potential couple speaks on the phone.
The usual date dance of getting to know somebody has been danced on-line. All anybody needs to know is what one person will tell another anyway, so it has usually all been told-or at least what is going to be told-over chat and emails well before a man and woman, man and man, women and women meet. Most single people realize that they are getting some subterfuge from on-line profiles and chatting anyway so they throw up some of their own just in case. Those with kinks share them on single sites for fetishes, allowing just as much as they have to so then there is no surprise when a whip makes an appearance on a first date. There is never a question of someones sexuality if they are trolling around a gay, bi or straight site, so there to gay men and gay women are seeing much clearer intentions and the better possibility for sex on their initial meeting.
The net provides short hand for simply passing go and doing what one will.
Of course there might be a lot of initial quick sexual meetings-of-the-minds, libido and body parts but are there many that are lasting? When a couple circumvents the usual social interaction for the blistering speed of getting to know one another the Internet single world allows, there isnt so much depth of field to build anything-even a conversation-that might be worth having. The truly successful daters, the ones who might meet and do hook-up for sex fast but somehow survive past on-line dating sites, through their green lit sexual relations and build further lasting connections, are the ones who realize just what the net offers and can weather its seductions.
There are many men and women who see sex as an adventure and they strive for as many intimate experiences then can manage, many of which lie outside a conventional monogamous relationship. Like everything else sexual, there are no two people with the same level of libido, who share the exact same needs, kinks or thoughts. But there are some couples who like to fuck, fondle and suck as much as they can with as many different partners as they can; these people often times call themselves swingers.
Swingers many times define themselves as having a regular partner while also engaging in sex play with others. Some swingers seek out sex with strangers, while still other couples have regular play partners they are intimate with. Swingers meet at parties just for swinging or play spaces they pay to join. And though far too often men and women who swing are regarded by the vanilla traditional sex crowd as being somehow sleazy, too horny or sexually predatory, there are many swingers who have healthy, happy and emotionally stable lives, enjoying their liberal lifestyle of non monogamous sex successfully for many years.
Entering into the swinging lifestyle can be tricky as many clubs or events do not allow single men to join, as far too many single men believe that swinging is just free sex. Many of these groups and events require that entrants either be single women or male/female couples so that there would be an equal match of all participants. Couples entering into swinging need be completely sure they both want to step into this world, must communicate their needs and fears and trust one another completely; its not just every couple who can stay emotionally connected to their partners while fucking other people. Many swingers have rules in their relationships to remind emotionally-bonded partners that they are the primary couple and that lovers and play partners are just that and not a threat to a relationship, but it all can be very tricky as intimacy often gets mixed with sex, for better or worse. Where our pink parts are engaged so often goes our hearts and walking the balance beam of propriety is a swingers most delicate act as well as their most important step to execute.
It’s no secret that we’re going through a recession people! So what if I said that you could receive a free hotel room in exchange for the right to broadcast you and your partner getting frisky on camera in the hotel room to paying customers over the internet. Would you be down?
For Berth Milton that is exactly what he is trying to do. He is currently fighting to maintain control of his company in order to roll out a franchise of as many 100 sex-themed five-star hotels around the world!
“The numbers are astonishing,” Milton said, calculating that a single hotel could generate $43.8 million a year in subscription fees from viewers that sick and tired of the quality of free porn and want to see something real.
In the 90′s, Milton had a porn visionary and shed out millions of dollars to stage xxx rated versions of popular movies like “Cleopatra” and “Gladiator” and travelled to exotic places to shoot them. However, the fortune’s he made has since faded as free porn has taken over and sapped the demand for DVDs.
Milton borrowed about $10 million from a company called Private Media and still hasn’t paid it back.
To try and make the money back he is pushing to licensed merchandise like sex toys, condoms, lube and energy drinks.
He also sees the potential for porn to tap into more of a mainstream outlet as societies strictures are loosening as a whole.
As for the hotels, he said he’s reached a few conclusions after doing his research at more than a dozen swingers’ clubs around Barcelona.
“It has to be a hotel for non swingers as well-not super explicit where everybody’s running around naked,” he said, “That takes the style and class out of it.”
Not to burst your bubble, but there is nothing stylish or classy about people having sex on camera in exchange for a free hotel room. They might as well be prostitutes and there is nothing classy about that!
It’s safe to say that the economy is in shambles. Unemployment is through the roof and banks have been stricter than ever when it comes to foreclosures. What you probably didn’t know however, is that even swingers‘ groups have started to feel the pain. It seems that even despite their penchant for wild group sex and disregard for money, they are still getting hit by the impact of today’s financial crisis.
This recent discovery stems from the lackluster attendance in some of the most popular swingers clubs in the country. One of them being DDeviousDelights, who claim that attendance at their swingers’ parties have gone down between 30 to 40% in the past year. Despite the fact that most clubs are resorting to providing newcomers with a 50% discount, cover charges and strict ‘couples only’ rules still stand strong.
As an example how sex and today’s ill economy are crossing paths, take this heartwarming story: An intoxicated 56 year-old woman from Illinois decided it would be a good idea to dine and dash while at a Joe’s Crab Shack. After making a run for it, she was apprehended by authorities but promised she would pay them back once she got home. Upon arriving at her apartment, she entered her room and proceeded to come out holding a rubber dildo – which she used as a weapon while approaching the officers in a threatening manner. Once they managed to knock the ding-dong out her hand, she was apprehended and placed under arrest.
The End.
While this doesn’t necessarily apply to swingers’ clubs, it just goes to show that if you can’t use sex for a good cause, use it as a weapon. After all, not even free sex is exempt from these arduous financial times.
Being a swinger is a lot more than just having sex with multiple partners. It’s a lifestyle. For those curious to try it, know that it involves a lot more than just heading over to your local swingers club, condoms in hand.
For starters, know that you can’t just simply stroll into a swinger’s club without a partner. However, that only applies if you are of the male variety. Single females are more than welcome to stroll in at any given time. If you don’t have a partner, your best best is to go on “single men” nights. However, expect a sausage fest. The best way to go about swinging still lies in finding a partner who is willing and able.
Despite the vast amount of swinger’s clubs, sex mostly happens in people’s houses and occasionally in the great outdoors (eg. camping grounds). Also keep in mind that many ‘high class’ clubs are “invitation only”, though many still welcome periodic walk-ins.
Before getting down and dirty, keep in mind that swingers are not just a bunch of horny animals that will hump anything with a pulse. Men will often find a hooker or crackhead to use as a “ticket” in order to get through the door, and that is the ultimate swinger faux pas. Most swingers have a zero-tolerance policy on dubious partners. So stick to a female companion that you know and trust.
Perhaps the hardest aspect of swinging is getting your partner to agree to it in the first place. When faced with a hesitant girlfriend, here a few convincing points:
- You don’t necessarily need to have sex with anybody else (but you will be watched, it’s a bit like free porn)
- You will have a newfound appreciation towards each other once you realize how desirable you are to others
- If she is concerned about showcasing her body, assure her that swingers come in all shapes and sizes and that they most definitely don’t discriminate
- It will provide you with a good opportunity to socialize and learn more about sex
Once you’ve gotten your partner willing and ready to go, make sure that you are both in agreement over how it will go down. While some partners are ok with ‘sharing’, others just like to observe. Alternately, some like to ‘play around’ with other couples but not have sex. Whatever your swinging style, know what you are in for before walking through those doors. You don’t want to end up causing a scene when you touch another woman’s tits and your girlfriend throws a fit.
Now that you know what to expect, and what you are willing to do, it’s time to do some prep work. Start off by ensuring that you have reservations (most parties have a guest list) and that you are given guidelines into the do’s and dont’s of your club of choice. Once that’s settled, make sure to arrive with your date in hand. Having her meet you inside might not be the best idea (or they could just simply not let you in). As for the dress code, dressing sexy is appropriate, being mistaken for a prostitute is not. Some swingers also chose to bring a robe for added convenience. Whatever your choice of attire, the most important thing to remember is to clean yourself up. Brush your teeth, take care of any grooming needs and ensure that your nails are clean. If only out of respect for others.
If you’ve finally managed to get inside and you and your partner are ready to go, know that there are additional factors to keep in mind. For starters, try not to offend anybody. If approached by an overweight man you would rather die than touch, a simple “no thank you” will suffice. Staring is also not exactly a good idea. If you come across a closed bedroom, leave it that way. The best approach for newbie swingers is to make friends with an experienced couple and have them show you around. Use protection, wash your hands in between sessions and you’ll have a jolly good time.