Those of us who are kinky or have a number of fetishes often yearn for the community of others like us. Perhaps you are non-monogamous or practice polyamory or are a closet BDSM enthusiast. One may have met someone else to share sexual thrills with, but one might be also be all alone. It’s no fun being in a dark closet with just one’s sexual fantasies for company, or just masturbation and porno to keep one warm at night. Even the most perverted amongst us yearns for the community of like-minded people.

But what to do? One cannot simply walk into a bar and announce that you like dominance and submission, foot fucking, or strap-on sex. Happily, the Internet can aid one in finding the Dominatrix of your dreams or perhaps the circle jerk party you’ve been lusting after.

There are dozens of adult chat rooms and message boards on the Internet devoted to almost any fetish you can imagine. Some simple searches will help one find friends-or perhaps even cybersex hookups-who share more of your deviant tastes than one ever dreamed imaginable. Of course, this is just virtual companionship.
What about when one yearns for the real thing?

The first step of course is online adult dating sites. On these sites,– most of which allow you to look around at their ‘wares’ for free – to see what other kind of hot babes, kinky people, doms, subs, slaves or fetish fans you can find. But hesitation will get one nowhere, we should make a profile and list favorites, whether they are dildos or double penetration, as soon as we can. Pretty soon you’ll be finding all kinds of lovers, fuckbuddies, even threesomes and orgies, …but there are just as many people out there like you doing the same thing!

Of course just dipping one’’s toe in the water won’t make a big splash. One can also use the Internet to find real world social gatherings, sometimes called Munches in BDSM slang. There one can meet other masochists, sadists, or kinky people in a non-threatening social situation. From there you’ll hear about all kinds of exciting events from rope bondage classes to crazy sex parties complete with flogging and fisting.

Sluts and the sexually adventurous had to keep themselves hidden once upon a time. While they may still have to worry about jobs or other issues in the modern world, the Internet allows for the best of both worlds… so we can reach out and touch someone, in a multitude of ways.