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The Smell of Sex

Thursday, April 14th, 2011

Human beings are immensely responsive to the sense of smell. Other animals of course are immensely responsive to smell and special chemicals known as sexual pheromones. They have special ways of smelling using something called a vomeronasal gland which allows them to detect these pheromonal scents. Modern science has not determined for sure to what degree humans have pheromones or are able to respond to them. Some chemicals have been identified — in sexual juices like semen and female ejaculate, as well as sweat especially from places like the armpits — if one has enjoyed the smell of a special lover’s sweat than this may very well be the reason. However scientists cannot agree on whether or not the human vomeronasal gland — also known as the Jacobson’s organ — is active. Even so many products are now available which purport to claim pheromones, from perfumes and colognes to soaps and scented candles all designed with scents designed to get cunts slippery, to make a penis erect or otherwise get one in the mood for some deep hard fucking or some romantic love-making.

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What is strange is the love/hate relationship that humanity has with its own sex scents. On the one hand many worry endlessly about how they smell, bathing more than necessary or covering up with perfumes or douche. Yet many of these same perfumes contain musk and even animal pheromones which suggest the idea of arousal. Our attraction to the odor of another person may have much to do with the way one selects a potential mate at a genetic level. Pregnant women and those on some kinds of birth control may crave a different kind of sexual partner, perhaps one that is more stable and compassionate than the raunchy, virile fuck-buddy they seek on online dating sertvices during the rest of the time.

Smell and taste are two senses that are intimately linked, even crossed together in many cases in human brains. Perhaps that is why scent is so intimately linked with oral sex, especially cunnilingus. We want our lovers to be clean but even a freshly showered cunt smells like the unique smell of our fuck friend. The same is true of the delicate musky odor of a freshly washed cock, ready for fellatio. Often when one prepares to go down on one’s lover, one finds the first thing one does is take a sniff, enjoying the smell, than reaching out one’s tongue to get a taste of lubricating girl come or salty pearly pre-come.

Skills

Wednesday, April 13th, 2011

If you can develop a skill that others find interesting you will have already set yourself up with an instant conversation starter. The only warning in this case is that you must let a intended lover stumble upon that skill or in some way let that skill advertise itself. If you approach someone and hit them up directly it will seem too much like you are bragging and this will be extremely counter-productive to your efforts. You must simply let that skill advertise itself or let them come upon it and you must never come off as arrogant about it. You must always remain humble or in some way feel that it is not noteworthy. Then you must counter this and act interested in the other person, ask them about skills they might possess.

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With this smooth and simple move you will almost guarantee yourself a fuck buddy to play with. This is because in just this one procedure you have told them an immensely seductive tale. You have communicated that you are friendly, intelligent, talented, humble, interesting and most importantly interested in them. This will instantly give you a massive amount of sex appeal right out of the gate. It can very quickly overwhelm any potential defenses they had and render them helpless and at your mercy. You can then take that cock or pussy at your leisure. All you have to do from this point is simply ride herd and gently and lightly guide the conversation and relation wherever you wish. You must let that person feel like they are in charge and let them come to the conclusions you want them to which is namely that they want to get fuck you. You will have shown yourself a master of skills if you can repeatedly pull this off with little trouble and therein lies your key.
If you can plainly see that there was little trouble but much smoothness in your actions then you are doing it easily. Too much struggle with anything will reveal no true skills at all, only hard study which sometimes might mean you have been trying too hard. You will have made yourself a master in the eyes of those who you wanted to have see you and can then move on to bigger and better prizes.

Not Alone In Your Kink

Wednesday, April 13th, 2011

Once one comes to the conclusion that their pubescent sexual lift-off might lead their rocket on a slightly skewed trajectory, either because of one’s sexual preference or because of some rather naughty fantasies, one pretty much feels alone on their flight. To have a penchant for spanking before even trying it with a lover, or an idea one might like to cross-dress every so often, these needs can stain one a pariah unless one suddenly sees a whole bunch of other people with the same interests.
We’ll all pretty much feel we are the only person with a particular fetish until we are proved otherwise.

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Everyday common variety sex is not a subject friends are so comfortable talking about with one another, add a little spice into the soup, a little perversion here and there or some modicum of kink and we’ll turn-off a lot more people-even close friends and maybe even dates-then we’re ever going to hope to turn-on. Our friends and family simply do not want to be led onto the highways and byways of what’s on our minds, especially if it’s a bit kinky.

But secrets can only stay hidden for so long. Sooner or later as we come to grow in confidence with a lover or spend enough time stewing in our own stew, our desires will will-out. One can try twisting one’s self in knots avoiding homosexuality, or try and not grow aroused by leather or the snap-crackle of a whip, but after a time all men-and women-have to face who they are and what they need to make them complete.

One can find all manner of downloadable porn, about a kink but once we meet people-on-line or off-that might share our fetish, the relief we enjoy is almost as palatable as the arousal we feel. When we can find or even join a community where we can connect with the link-minded, where we can find understanding, where we might even be able to indulge a desire or two then we find a home. We can indulge ourselves completely, protected and safe, and begin to see that what we might need might not be so very abhorrent at all and maybe just this side of normal if there is so many people doing it.

Spanking Implements

Tuesday, April 12th, 2011

imagesPeople that enjoy spanking, whether giving or receiving, usually have a lot of knowledge about spanking implements. There are many different types of spanking implements and nearly every type of spanking implement is available in a variety of materials. Each material provides a different feeling, a different sting or thud, and people who enjoy being spanked can often tell what they’re being hit with by how it feels when it smacks their skin.

Everyone has their favorite implement or sometimes a few implements that they enjoy. Spankers usually have implements that they love to spank with. These are most likely implements that feel good in their hand because they are perfectly constructed and balanced. These implements always give the perfect smack without a lot of planning and effort by the user. They make a really pleasing sound when they come in contact with skin of the receiver. It’s easy to cause just the right level of pain with the favorite implements, and they’re usually very well broken in from being used so often. Spankers like using their own implements, the items that they’re used to, and the ones that feel completely natural to them almost like an extension of their hand. They are confident that they can wield these implements with complete accuracy and with total control, and spankers like to know that they have that level of control with their implements because then they can spank in total confidence that they won’t cause any unwanted damage or pain because they are so familiar with the implement in their hand.

People who enjoy being spanked also have their favorite implements. They usually enjoy certain materials over others, like wood over leather or leather over Lucite for instance. As much as someone may enjoy spanking, they usually enjoy specific implements and may dread others. Some people may love being paddled with wood paddles, but hate leather paddles or leather belts. This is how dominant people can sometimes punish a submissive who enjoys being spanked; they punish with an implement that they know the submissive doesn’t enjoy. The implements that a images-1submissive enjoys will usually cause sexual arousal, because the implements cause a type of pain that is enjoyable in some ways. Some submissives prefer a stingy smack and some prefer a thuddy smack.

The Exhibitionist’s Dilemma

Tuesday, April 12th, 2011

An exhibitionist has the desire to show off sexually in front of others. A male exhibitionist may get off on whipping out his cock for an unsuspecting person to see, and a female exhibitionist may enjoy going out wearing no underwear so when she spreads her legs, she shows her snatch. Some exhibitionists just want to get their jollies in front of other consenting adults, and that satisfies their show-off needs. For others, the turn-on is in surprising or even shocking someone unsuspecting. In this case, he or she would do well to spend a little time figuring out what level of risk is acceptable in order to pursue this unusual hobby.

One semi-safe way to be an exhibitionist is to take part in sexual acts within one’s own home. The other piece of this mode is common to some other methods as well; acting unsuspecting. This way, the official storyline is that the exhibitionist isn’t aware that anyone could see in. A couple having sex on their couch while the drapes just happen to be open toward the street is a good example of this mode. Someone may walk by and happen to see them, which would be extra exciting. Still, they haven’t targeted anyone in particular to be their viewers. There is some risk of a complaint, but it is probably relatively low.

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The next step would be to take it outside. Again, the exhibitionist could pretend that no one is meant to see. Sitting in a beach chair in one’s semi-secluded backyard and deciding to masturbate, perhaps in semi-darkness, would be a higher level of risk. Still, the sexy adventurer would be on his or her own property, just squeezing one out in ‘private. The excitement might be heightened, but so is the risk of a neighbor’s complaint.

Taking it clearly into the public arena is what some exhibitionists crave. A guy who jacks his dick on a train is there to let someone see what he’s got. The great likelihood is that someone will get a view. This behavior is illegal. Some people would decide that the risk of legal action is not worth it. For others, doing it and getting away with it could be the thrill of a lifetime.

Kinky Community

Monday, April 11th, 2011

Those of us who are kinky or have a number of fetishes often yearn for the community of others like us. Perhaps you are non-monogamous or practice polyamory or are a closet BDSM enthusiast. One may have met someone else to share sexual thrills with, but one might be also be all alone. It’s no fun being in a dark closet with just one’s sexual fantasies for company, or just masturbation and porno to keep one warm at night. Even the most perverted amongst us yearns for the community of like-minded people.

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But what to do? One cannot simply walk into a bar and announce that you like dominance and submission, foot fucking, or strap-on sex. Happily, the Internet can aid one in finding the Dominatrix of your dreams or perhaps the circle jerk party you’ve been lusting after.

There are dozens of adult chat rooms and message boards on the Internet devoted to almost any fetish you can imagine. Some simple searches will help one find friends-or perhaps even cybersex hookups-who share more of your deviant tastes than one ever dreamed imaginable. Of course, this is just virtual companionship.
What about when one yearns for the real thing?

The first step of course is online adult dating sites. On these sites,– most of which allow you to look around at their ‘wares’ for free – to see what other kind of hot babes, kinky people, doms, subs, slaves or fetish fans you can find. But hesitation will get one nowhere, we should make a profile and list favorites, whether they are dildos or double penetration, as soon as we can. Pretty soon you’ll be finding all kinds of lovers, fuckbuddies, even threesomes and orgies, …but there are just as many people out there like you doing the same thing!

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Of course just dipping one’’s toe in the water won’t make a big splash. One can also use the Internet to find real world social gatherings, sometimes called Munches in BDSM slang. There one can meet other masochists, sadists, or kinky people in a non-threatening social situation. From there you’ll hear about all kinds of exciting events from rope bondage classes to crazy sex parties complete with flogging and fisting.

Sluts and the sexually adventurous had to keep themselves hidden once upon a time. While they may still have to worry about jobs or other issues in the modern world, the Internet allows for the best of both worlds… so we can reach out and touch someone, in a multitude of ways.

For God Or Cunt-try

Sunday, April 10th, 2011

A man will always rationalize his reasons for wanting some strange. The male biological imperative to shoot sperm into as many unfertilized eggs one can supersedes good common sense, rends families in two, stifles a romance. With facilities now available in this current dating digital age men can find sex partners infinitum, and will have to make-up excuses for doing so as they continue to cheat on their significant others or endeavor to remain free.

The reasons are bountiful but they all center round the cheating guy simply not being able to keep his cock in his pants. For a man to be monogamous he must fight his very nature and when he loses that fight he will do the only thing available to him post the extra-curricular screwing; he will find a reason other than his pumping libido to blame for his infidelity.
But whether he blames God, country, to help save his marriage or his sanity the one irrefutable fact is man will forever look for reasons and believe them when he latches on to a good one.

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The reality is, that in a marriage two people are responsibility for the intimacy, the monogamy and if and when either fail, fray or decline. A man can no more look at his biological need as an excuse then he can ignore where his partner is in the entire proceedings. Both people are responsible for making or making a commitment. Both people contribute to the romance and either ever forward trying to keep alive or stagnate and kill it. When a man, or women for that matter, cheats they do so in reaction to their mate or not in reaction to them. Passivity is just as bad sometimes as nagging and mocking. Certainly one person goes out and beds another partner, steps out on their mate, makes the beast with two backs with someone not their lover, but both partners in a love affair are duplicitous, responsible to what they bring to the marriage and what they take out. We can’t push someone from our bed into another’s unless they are willing to go, but we can create a home atmosphere that makes it easier to leave, biological imperative or not. A man might find his excuse but sometimes they are born from circumstance ore then rationalizations.

Anal Massage Intimacy

Saturday, April 9th, 2011

The prostate gland, or P-spot as it is sometimes called, can be found in a way similar to how the G-spot is found on a woman. A simple method is to have the man lie on his back and a finger inserted into the rectum can probe and tap, especially on the upper wall, until the find a spot that is intensely pleasurable. Everyone is built a little differently, so the moment of impact will be different depending on the guy.

It can take a lot of trust to comfortably explore the P-spot or anal play in general, and doing so provides the opportunity for deepened intimacy among the partners. Often people are squeamish about anal play because feces is generally something to be avoided. Also, there are legitimate safety concerns about what kind of things can be inserted into the anus. Learning to feel comfortable about the body in general begins to lessen cleanliness concerns. Learning and keeping to good safety protocol can take care of all the worries. For the record, a latex-gloved finger insertion is a safer sex practice and can give wonderful pleasure to both parties.

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A first-time . Sometimes for a man, receiving penetration can be a bit of a psychological trip. A straight man having a woman penetrate him may harbor fears that anal play could turn him gay. A man who has sex with men or who has long been interested may still have a heavy experience being in a traditionally submissive role. With intimate communication and patience, those worries can even be turned into an extra hot and exciting part of the journey.
A full-fledged anal massage can still begin with a gloved hand inserting one finger. A simple in and out motion can expand into a circular motion. The massager should watch for body signs indicating the intensity of the pressure on the P-spot and when more or less is needed. The man can remain on his back, or may assume other positions depending on what feels better overall. Oh his hands and knees can provide great access to the butt, and can feel incredibly good. He may be brought to orgasm with the assistance of cock stimulation, if desired.

Edge Play Can Be Disturbing

Friday, April 8th, 2011

Fetish conventions can be very educational in a lot of ways. There are always classes during the day providing instruction on a variety of topics. While there are a lot of classes on fetish and BDSM activities, there are also classes designed to improve sexual techniques and classes on self-help, spiritual and metaphysical topics. The variety provides well-rounded educational opportunities for people to work on creating a better balance in their lives and improving themselves in every aspect. One of the most important things that these conventions provide is the opportunity to see things that they may have only heard about or seen in movies, and this can be from going to classes on these subjects during the day or by watching scenes in the dungeon at night.

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The problem for some people is that sometimes what they witness can be a little disturbing to them. There are kinky activities that are extremely edgy and sometimes a little dangerous, and some conventions will allow these activities to happen in the dungeon or will provide classes on the subject with live demonstrations. The good thing about this is that it is probably much safer for people to participate in these activities in a dungeon or a classroom, especially at a convention because there are safety procedures in place and most of the time there is a first aid team working at the convention in case of an emergency. There are also dungeon monitors around who are keeping an eye on everyone in the dungeon, and they are there to ensure the safety of the attendees. Quite often is a really edgy scene has been approved for the dungeon, there will be dungeon monitors assigned specifically to monitor that particular scene carefully, so it ends up being an extremely safe situation for the people involved.

Anyone who finds a scene disturbing needs to remember that these scenes are totally consensual. While something like waterboarding may seem really extreme, the people involved are very turned on by what they’re doing. The best attitude to have in these situations is to understand that everyone has different kinks and different doesn’t mean wrong, weird or bad. People should be entitled to experience the activities they enjoy, and if something seems disturbing or extremely uncomfortable to someone watching, that person should simply walk away and go watch another scene that doesn’t bother them as much.

Forced Oral

Thursday, April 7th, 2011

Face-sitting and smothering are two similar fetishes that are seen as a bit edgy because of the dangers involved. Face-sitting isn’t actually dangerous if done properly, because face sitting doesn’t actually cut of the partner’s air supply, but smothering actually does involve cutting of the air supply for short periods of time (hence the name smothering). In both cases, it involves a person who is usually dominant lowering their genital area onto a submissive person’s face for forced oral to genital or oral to anal contact, but smothering involves placing more weight on the person’s face quite literally covering the other person’s face with their body.

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Smothering, quite obviously, can be a little bit dangerous and should be practiced by people with some experience or else they should be mentored or supervised by someone who has experience in order to keep the submissive safe.

Most of the time this fetish is practiced with a female top or dominant and a male bottom or submissive. Men who love to be on the receiving end of this fetish find it to be very erotic. The people that love it truly love eating pussy. They enjoy the female juices and want them on their skin and in their mouth. They love having their head surrounded by flesh and they tend to really enjoy the natural body scent of another person’s body. They enjoy the slightly sweaty scent and they love the natural moisture of that area of the body that tends to get sweaty and will get develop more moisture as she becomes more and more aroused.

Sometimes the submissive is put into some sort of bondage to hold them still during face-sitting, but it’s not a necessity. It just adds to the scene and the submissiveness of the scenario to feel forced by using restraints and making the situation unavoidable with the feeling of it being slightly against the submissive’s will. It’s a mind game that many submissives enjoy in a scene. Some people enjoy the use of a piece of BDSM furniture called a smotherbox. The smotherbox fits over the submissive’s head almost like stocks. It’s fits over the neck and restrains the person’s head so that they cannot move their head. There is a hole on the top of the box for the dominant party to position themselves for receiving oral pleasure.