Collars: They have begun to appear more and more in porn and on even mainstream television shows at least one actress is known to wear a collar as a sign of her real life D and S relationship with her Master. They show up in our lives more and more, especially for those of us who are part of or interested in the fetish sex scene. What do they mean, how can we use them, and what is the etiquette for being around another person wearing a collar?
When collars are seen in most sex videos we can assume they are probably being used for the duration of the movie and nothing more. They are a way to restrain a submissive or keep her in place, and they are also a simple symbol of the role that one of the porn stars is playing. By contrast, in the real world these accessories can take on a far more significant meaning, sometimes representing as much as a wedding ring does to more vanilla couples.
For some people a permanent collar, often called a slave collar, is given as a sign of a highly significant Dominant and submissive style relationship. The slave who wears this collar has entered into a significant amount of training with the Master of their choice, and it shows their devotion to each other on a very high level. Collars worn like this should not be touched by outsiders without permission. Even if one is fucking the wearer of such a collar it is best to avoid touching it whenever possible unless one is explicitly allowed to do so.
Collars of course can also be worn as a fashion accessory or a play thing. For some people attending a sex party together it might be a sign of a temporary relationship between the two, or just that one of them is looking to submit to someone there.