The relationships of New Zealander’s are thriving, and according to a survey, it is because they have satisfying sex lives.
67% of people said they were satisfied with the sexual aspects of their relationship, while 83% said they were satisfied with their relationship overall.
The survey was conducted by Relationship Services which is the largest counseling and relationship education agency in the country. Its looks at the way couples in long term relationships talk about and deal with issues relating to sex and intimacy.
“We found it really interesting that we asked people about sex, and they told us about relationships,” said the Chief Executive.
“When the sexual aspect of a relationship is going well, it can help build intimacy and satisfaction in a relationship. When it’s not going well it can be a difficult issue to broach. Either way, it can be a major contributor to the level of satisfaction people feel,” he said.
One clear message from the survey is that talking and listening to your partner are two of the best sex aids available; not resorting to free porn to get your jollies guys! People satisfied with their sexual relationship talk ad listen to their partner, they discuss sexual problems, and they focus more on understanding than blame.
When it comes to the most common issues found between couples, these included one partner wanting to fuck more than the other, and then life problems like work, family, stress. Sex outside the relationship was reported by only 19% of people. “People often think affairs are much more common because they get so much attention in the media,”
The survey also asked where people turn for information and help about sexual problems and most looked to books and website. But, for help with sexual problems, they turned to people who they knew and trusted.
So, what can we learn from this? Sex is more important in creating a strong relationship than anything else. And, if your girlfriends don’t believe you, have them read this.