Archive for the ‘Porn’ Category

Shopping In The Olden Days

Tuesday, August 9th, 2011

As unnerving as it was for a young guy to try and cajole the pharmacist to sell him a pack of condoms, so to was it slightly off-putting for any of us-man or woman or any age-to go to through the swinging doors at the back of the video store, try to avoid the glance of the video store owner and peruse those specific porn titles. Though surely a rite of passage for any adult doing so, looking for tapes this way was always embarrassing.

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Delivery methods for our dirty fare have changed greatly because of the net. Now we can sit at home and just about stream anything we want with no one watching. We can choose from a list of titles that weren’t even available years ago, let alone one’s we would ever even think about bringing up to the local video store proprietor less he or she think you a real perv for wanting a tape on nuns who spank!

These days we can download to our PDA’s and have a little private jack off session at work if we can find the time. We can shoot over a clip to a guy or girl we are trying to seduce or go online with a partner to enjoy something in tandem. It might have been fun trying to get porn in the old days and we might have had to screw-up our courage as well as ingenuity but these days things are infinitely easier. And we certainly don’t have to pay for all this stuff the way we used to, let alone worry about getting a tape back in time or not wearing it out from two much rewinding!

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As the porn industry struggles to adapt to the changes the net has brought to viewing, one thing is for certain…we never have to worry about anyone ever knowing about our porn choices or frequency of viewing ever again. Porn will never leave the cultural landscape but we have to leave our houses less and less to view it.

To Talk The Talk

Monday, August 8th, 2011

Sure we all want to look like, fuck, be cool like porn stars, but we all also know it’s not so realistic a wish. What is good about porn is that it is fantasy, we might strive to recreate what we see but for the most part none of us can even get close. From the clothes worn-or not worn-the sets, the multiple characters and the stamina,to dirty talk, we know we can’t match the goings-on of our favorite porn guy or girl.

We also can’t really speak like our favorite porn stars do.

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What comes across wild, hot and oh-so-raunchy in a film will sound stunted and forced with a partner, especially one we know real well. We’re better off just keeping to what we feel, how we say what we say. Yes, if it’s a new lover we are with we might get by with a naughty suggestion or two that we happened to hear from our favorite download or a recent DVD we viewed, but generally talking the talk and walking the walk should be left to professionals.

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And really, remember, porn stars are acting. They don’t really feel or at least feel to the extreme what they say in a film most of the time. You don’t want to act in bed nor do you want the person you are with acting their pleasure with you. Our sex lives should not be scripted, they should just flow naturally and what we say can as much impede and influence action as what we do in bed. We are not, none of us, porn stars, nor should we really ever act or talk like one.

Only trained professionals should try such arduous feats.

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We all want to be a little more skilled, a little more suave, a little more breast-y and better hung, but in the end we all know the good sex we have is good because it involved us and our partner being who we are not reciting anyone else’s lines or acting in any way that is not our way.

What Porn Teaches Us

Wednesday, August 3rd, 2011

Sure porn teaches us some useful sex techniques or at least can introduce us to positions we have yet to try, but there is more to learn from porn then just the obvious. Beyond seeing what a bleached asshole looks like we also get to see how the other half lives, how porn stars act-or don’t act so well-when getting drilled or doing the drilling, how a plot does or does not play into the action and maybe what we might, in the end, not really be turned-on to.

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That’s the good thing of what porn teaches us, sometimes more of what we don’t want then what we do. As any sane adult realizes quick when they watch dirty movies porn is first and foremost entertainment, and fantasy entertainment at that. Guys and girls acting in a porn film are doing just that…acting…they can be and are being paid good money to be as raunchy as they can. We all know this kind of acting and talk seems sexy but imagine this attitude from your lover 24/7?

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Then too are the fetishes and kinks we see in porn. This is another great example of the fine line between reality and what we might want to try and the fantasy of what looks great but we know we will never have the courage, strength and in the end care to even try to attempt.

Once again porn teaches us.

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By the time a couple has come to porn they pretty much know what they do and don’t like in bed. They might get an idea or two to spark their imagination, a bee in their bonnet to try something they see in the porn movie, but for the most part there’s nothing really new under the sun for a couple enjoying a good intimacy. Those men and women watching porn alone might indeed get a skewed view of what sex with someone is like, but then again, if this is the only real contact with sex they have, it could be worse than watching an entertaining dirty movie.

The Person-to-Person

Monday, July 25th, 2011

Any one of us who has ever taken the time to watch a porn movie, even a snippet of one, would understand the fascination about them. Even if watching a visual representation of sex is not your cup-of-tea it’s not a stretch to imagine it is for so many people. But there are very few adults who watch porn on a regular basis who would ever say they prefer it to real face-to-face intimacy with another person. They might opine that there is less work to be had sitting in front of one’s P.C. screen and jacking or jilling-off to a ten second clip, or that an entire cornucopia of fantasies can attend one when alone watching a dirty movie, fantasies that could just as easily get ripped out of one’s play possibilities when with a partner who does not want to entertain fantasies. But the actual sensations, anticipations and wonder we have when in the embrace and care of another person can never be matched by porn.

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But we need to be up for being intimate. What is true about porn and how it is better than face-to-face sex is when we are not up for or interested in intimacy. Then porn could very well replace all the great sensations we get rubbing up against another human being. When all we want is quiet, to stay within our own heads, to imagine those fantasies we might never make reality to their fullest extreme…this is when porn might very well beat real-life humping hands-down.

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It’s really where our minds are at, more than our bodies, that makes porn good, better and best. As with everything else, desire is the key and have we a desire to be close, to open our hearts and imaginations to another, to let someone see our vulnerable side then being with someone is what we will gravitate towards. Have we a desire to stay within ourselves, safe and completely immersed in fantasy, then porn works fine.

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Two Sides of The Same Dirty Coin?

Monday, July 25th, 2011

We are all interested, sometimes fear, what we don’t understand. That interest can lead to great cultures coming together, the mixing of ideas; fear will lead to war, prejudice and stereotypes. But during both the attempt to understand or in the trying to quell fear groups often jump to quick conclusions about one another, too quickly sometimes to dispel half-truths that are too steadfastly created.

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From our politics to our porn stereotypes can form and long-lasting assumptions can be made.

Asian adults can be as much misled by what they perceive the west is about, as can white guys simply assuming every Asian girl will be a quiet lotus blossom-like slave to her man. As we come to regard people in life we will create them in our art and from paintings to literature to the dirty movies we make the stereotypes the creator carries fall into his or her creation.

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But do Asian adults have as many stereotypes of Caucasian guys and girls as Caucasian guys and girls have of them? Is a Japanese guy watching American- produced porn hoping to get his fill of blonde-haired porn actresses with big tits because that is what he expects, what his stereotypes have led him to believe just have to be present in American porn? Or are Americans the only one’s living with these stereotypes firmly planted in their brains and because Americans-and white heterosexual American men-make a good percentage of the porn does it reflect their sensibilities more often than not?

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Whatever the real answer-if it could even really ever be determined-no matter what ethnic group you are associated with you will probably always hold at least a passing interest in people that you do not come into contact with often. Asian adults living far away from the western hemisphere will most likely hold some interest in the west, how much of same determined by individual taste, as much as whether you are a Caucasian guy with a penchant for Bukkake porn or simply a passing interest in the Ti-Chi.

The Visual Feast Fantasy

Saturday, July 23rd, 2011

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A heterosexual guy cannot as much turn away from porn movies as he can kick a woman out of his bed…if he ever gets the time to turn away from porn movies to go out and look for a woman to take to his bed. A Guy’s sexual responses are so very visually led. How many men have been accused time and again by his mate for obsessing over just one of her body parts or indeed watching porn movies too often? But for a man and his movies, it’s the fantasy he seeks to fill both his mind’s eye and his visual senses, and that visual feast fantasy is what porn movies are about for guys.

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This is what women do not really understand about porn and men. Sure, a guy might be getting off on watching the perfect bodies of the porn girls reacting before him, just as a girl can get off on male porn stars swinging ever-erect huge penises, but really what a guy likes about this visual beyond the naked female flesh is that it is a fantasy. For the guy’s real woman, his wife or girlfriend, to recreate, care to or fret over the fact that she can’t replicate this fantasy leads to many a boyfriend/girlfriend argument over porn, but women need to realize they are fighting a battle that can’t be won. They cannot provide their man with this fantasy sex, shouldn’t fret that they can’t and in the end, their man doesn’t want porn movie sex from them.

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No matter how seemingly addicted to porn a guy might seem, how much he might seem to need and want it for his stimulation or even as constant masturbatory fodder, he doesn’t want porn movies as his real sex life. Guys certainly know the difference between fantasy porn sex scenes and the real one’s they share with a lover. And while one might influence the other and while a guy could spend more time watching porn then ever being with his woman, the twain of the fantasy and the reality cannot meet…nor would a guy watch porn movies less if they ever did!

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The Caucasion View

Friday, July 22nd, 2011

Though porn makers will tell us that their audience these days represents a cross-section of men and women-straight, gay and everything in-between, the truth of the matter is that white straight guys make and watch porn more than any other group. Porn reflects their fantasies with a copious amount of girl on girl action, a fair amount of femdom scenes and more than a little classic, if not outright role playing of ethnic stereotypes, certainly with groups of females far from the Caucasian experience.

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This is why Asian porn often looks very much alike from move to movie.

When we do not understand the actions or customs of a group we either grow to fear that group or we invent our own specifications for understanding. Quite quickly Asian woman were perceived as either demure lotus-flower-like damsels who were ever-subservient to their men or dark dangerous seductresses; roles that were easy to understand if not so very accurate. The truth is that, while our ethnicity does color our worldview men and women are complex creatures whose personalities are made-up of many factors, not just where they were born. But these stereotypes last and seep into modern culture and the art that that culture produces. We got and still get some stunted but often repeated ethnic stereotypes of Asian girls, from popular mainstream movies all the way to Asian porn…fueled by a less-then studied Caucasian view.

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Luckily with the net we are exposed to every corner of the globe and come to learn that all men and women aren’t really all that much different than one another. There is a mixing of cultures in the modern world because of how we react to one another, reflected in some breaking-down of the blonde-haired, blue-eyed, big-busted typical porn girl type and some lessening of specific Asian girl stereotypes.

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But the ideals we created so long ago have a tenacious hold and we still see many modern day porn DVD’s being produced and released that show those two typical Caucasian Asian porn stereotypes.

Myths

Friday, July 22nd, 2011

People have been told that being married is better for you and being single is bad. This comes from a study done in 1858 that track the mortality rates of married, widowed and celibate people. The findings showed that the married people lived longer healthier lives. But recent studies being done at Ohio State University’s College of Medicine have included those in committed relationships and gay relationships to the mix. What These researchers are studying is the effects of psychological stress like marital discord, and the affect on the immune system. Marital stress can be a source of chronic stress. Three studies showed that women in unhappy relationships or still emotionally hung up on the past had weaker immune systems. Happier women single or married had much stronger immune systems. Newlyweds exhibiting the hostile behavior had the largest declines in the immune system.

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Lastly men in women in their 50s and 60s who found themselves single again had a noticeable decline in physical health that they never fully recovered from. So being this belief has been proven to be a myth. Happy and financially secure is the key to longevity. So for many people happiness is shown in sexual ways. For many of those people both single and attached it not only means sex but it also means surfing the internet for Free porn. Free porn is thought to be evil. Many believe it is the root of failed marriages and abuse towards women. A scientist at the University of Hawaii performed studies to see just how bad the effects of pornography were on society at large study is entirely data-driven. He found that porn is not the cause of those evils those that have had a strict, repressive religious upbringing. Are more likely to be abusers and sex offenders. In fact he found no data that suggested a correlation between an increase in the availability of porn and an increase in sex crimes.

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He also found that, research suggests that women use pornography in far higher numbers than some might assume. This is substantiated by a study from Christian Internet monitoring group, that reported that 34 percent of female readers of Today’s Christian Women’s online newsletter admitted to intentionally accessing Internet pornography

Fantasies

Wednesday, July 20th, 2011

Have you ever wished some of your fantasies could come true? Sure, everyone has. The problem is that people don’t realize it always but fantasies about Free sex should usually stay that way. That’s because reality seldom lives up to a fantasy’s expectations. Things don’t always turn out the way they’re supposed to.

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Somebody has the fantasy of fucking their secretary and finds out that that Free sex wasn’t as good as they thought. Day in and day out they could see this secretary and think she’s hot and they believe that sex with her is going to incredibly exciting but when they finally step up to the plate and make it happen it turns out to be a whopping failure, if they’re lucky and don’t lose their jobs just for trying. Every person is different and there’s plenty of them out there who look like they are the hottest thing since toasted bread and then turn out to be anything but. On the other hand you might find some who don’t look like much but can sure deliver. This is when realities become fantasies. Take that cute librarian for instance. You might imagine she’d be mousy and unskilled at pleasing a man. Then something happens and you get a shot at it. Suddenly you find yourself with a handful of cock starved tigress who doesn’t give up until there’s nothing left of you.

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The differences in fantasy and reality are often times very confusing and disappointing and that’s why sometimes, fantasies should remain that way. Reality seldom lives up to the standards of fantasy and as long as you can get a firm hold on that you can discover that reality doesn’t always have to be the same. The reality of it all can be even better. Real life just happens to have a few tricks up it’s sleeve that even your wildest fantasies couldn’t keep pace with. That’s why to have a truly open mind, you should have some closed fantasies.

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Safe Net Sex

Monday, July 18th, 2011

It’s a fact proven by modern science that just about everyone loves porn. But the Internet is home to not just a plethora of adult video sites, it also is the home to a lot of ugly contagions like computer viruses, trojan horses and spam. What can one do to enjoy all the adult pleasures of the Internet while still keeping one’s computer safe from unsavory programs as well as prying eyes?

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The best thing to do is use a modern and up to date web browser. This will protect you from unintended hangers on with your free sex videos in some cases, though not all. Google Chrome, a very new browser growing in popularity, has far fewer of the security holes which plague online browsers like Internet Explorer. It has one feature which may be especially popular with those going to adult sites — one can choose to open a special incognito browser window. This can be selected from Chrome’s wrench menu or by holding down Ctrl Shift and N on the keyboard. The new browser will not record history and will clear all cookies as soon as it is closed, making one’s session much more private.

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Getting a porn download can be a little trickier at times. Some people use bittorrent and there are specialty torrent sites which cater to adult media. However, some of these have viruses either in the files or their advertising. Having an up to date virus checker is of utmost importance, as is having a secure firewall to keep out intruders. These programs run on a regular basis and also monitor the ongoing processes of one’s computer to look for unwanted software or attempts at intrusion by hackers or bad web sites. There is another class of program called a spy ware checker or anti-spyware software which is also important, getting rid of programs which can hurt one’s privacy or hijack the behavior of the computer and let spammers use it.

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