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Dress-Up for Masturbation

Sunday, June 12th, 2011

Does the idea of sensual dress arouse you? Does it excite you to put on your loveliest, sexiest pair of panties, wear a garter, stockings and cute bra in anticipation of sex? How about when you’re alone? Does it feel erotic to wear lingerie when engaging in masturbation?

The mental connection between dressing sexy and feeling sexy has been established by psychologists and doctors in the study of human sexuality.

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Many a cross-dresser will spend the time to throw on thigh highs, favorite g-string or boyshort panties and a cute top all just for the sake of fantasy and pleasing myself. Sure it takes a few more moments to get ready for something that normally happens in the nude.

From a mental perspective, the feel of those clothes serves as a reminder that we’re doing something special, often for someone else. But why not do something special for ourselves? Why not take the time to treat our bodies as the loving temples of sex we are?

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For many, normal masturbation can quickly grow into a routine. This is why erotic fantasies phone sex and other trends in sexual entertainment are so popular. Yet they tend to be expensive and near addiction status for many which can be a danger. Instead of starting immediately with the mundane and routine, we can now engage in our secret, sacred sexuality without fear of being caught. If a partner is inclined to join in the fun, all the better. The various types of clothing worn for lingerie serve a purpose and that sole purpose is to remind humanity of its sexuality.

Masturbation is healthy for us and if we’ve dedicated the entire month of May to it, why not spice things up by putting on our sexy lingerie that we spent good money on while we play just for ourselves? There is even an entire month dedicated to Masturbation! Why not spice it up with lingerie?

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The clothes are great inspiration for writing too! And as an erotic romance author they’re a tax write off for research purposes.

If clothes make the man, then lingerie can be the icing on the cake of a great sexual experience starting from the inside out; even if that experience only involves the solo explorations of those insides and outs.

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Male Chastity Play

Tuesday, June 7th, 2011

Male chastity devices are very popular among people in the BDSM scene, especially female dominants who enjoy humiliation play and cock and ball torture (or CBT). While the chastity devices don’t really provide a lot of immediate pain under normal circumstances the way CBT does, they can provide plenty of discomfort over time as men experience partial erections and sexual arousal while wearing them. They also are great for humiliation play and providing a submissive male with a really good mind fuck as they devices are usually designed for longer term wear, usually several weeks at a time.

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They are designed to allow men to urinate and wash without removing them. Most often they are locked and the dominant has control of the key. While a male chastity device is effective in preventing men from masturbating and having sex, most dominant females would agree that a good submissive shouldn’t require such measures and should willingly abide by the orders of his Domme when it comes to masturbation, sex and orgasms. They can be very useful items for training purposes with an inexperienced submissive though, and they are wonderful for use as a means of prolonged play because they will constantly remind the submissive that he is owned and that even his most natural and uncontrollable urges can be controlled by the woman who owns him.

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Some male submissives enjoy being denied the ability and opportunity to orgasm, and they really enjoy the idea that their orgasms are a gift from their Domme and given only when she sees fit. They crave the denial and the discomfort that the chastity device provides. They enjoy being made to beg for release. The Dommes usually enjoy being able to tease the submissive by getting them aroused and they enjoy the discomfort that their sub experiences when his cock begins to get hard inside the device. Even when the sub isn’t in their physical presence, the Domme can tease from afar with a phone call, e-mail or text message. It’s a great way to remind the sub of their role in the relationship. For men who enjoy this type of play, being able to experience this for days, or even weeks, is very enjoyable to them even when it is extremely uncomfortable.

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Health and Sexual Activity

Monday, June 6th, 2011

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It is important to look your best for a perspective partner and we all do try. It is equally important to feel your best. It is not necessary to run right out and join a gym to get fit for sex. Just take a walk every day and change small habits. Avoid elevators if you can. Walk to local shopping. Breath and circulation are the kings of sex fallowed by flexibility. You don’t have to go whole hog and in a yoga class. Just stretch in the morning for twenty minutes before you get in the shower. If you have a little extra weight and you don’t feel sexy that way cut back on sugar and bread. That is all it really takes, most times we do not even notice how much we take in. Stretch with your lover before sex.

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However you want to weather you do athletic partner stretching or you go whole hog and dig the twister game out of the closet. In old black and white movies the only way you could tell a couple had even had sex was the fact that they where smoking a cigarette together with a breathless look. Breathless is right, even if you do smoke hold off. It looks totally sexy in black and white but in reality it smells and taste bad and starves you of the air you need to get going in bed. All of these simple practices will keep you cramp free and full of energy. The best practice is practice masturbate for health it brings your heart rate up and helps your circulation. The fact that it floods you with feel-good hormones and helps you sleep better is a bonus. Also you make all of the muscles that are involved with orgasm stronger weather you are male or female.

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Last Resort

Tuesday, May 31st, 2011

Many religion think of masturbation as safe sex although they do not normally condone it. In fact many even outwardly state that it is not natural or acceptable for a young person to practice. This tilted view on what is natural is very unnatural. Babies who know nothing of sex and society and rules or what is proper or not know that playing with their private parts is pleasurable. They may not experience an Orgasm but they know it feels nice. Sexual pleasure between consenting adults or through self pleasuring should be a man recognized God given right. With the rise of pre-martial sex, and teen pregnancies everyone is looking to place blame and instill fear.

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But fear rarely deters an action. It just makes it harder to accomplish and adds an element of excitement. Recently Abstinence clubs for teens have begun to spring up. These clubs are suppose to preach the goodness of waiting. They do not talk about what the obligations are for those entering into a sexual relationship. They don’t give options of birth control or masturbation techniques. They feel that birth control Is not something that will stop the rise of unwed mothers on the society welfare lines and that learning about masturbation should be left to watching internet porn. The topic if talked about it all should be regulated to gym locker rooms and hopefully it might be something parents may discuss with tier children. But there are no classes for parents outlining how to have the talk. In fact few adults actually had the talk from their own parents so the belief that they have anything to share or can pass on is not there.

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Truly if the government, parents and religious institutions want to stem the tide they need to agree what the objective is and how to get kids to listen. Any parent will tell you threatening a child with punishment of things that might happen is not effective. It quickly goes in one ear and out the other.

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O yes

Wednesday, May 18th, 2011

What makes a person want to cum is as individual as the foods they like and don’t like. What about power? Power is sexy in many ways. The tamest lover can feel a rush of triumph when their partner explodes in to Orgasm. Power mixed with tenderness others take it a little further.

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Using rope to restrain the hands and so that self pleasuring is not and option. simulating and teasing to make sure that when the tied partner had a release there is no doubt who gave it. That is the power in giving pleasure and for many it is way better the receiving. This is a more common form of sex play then is widely thought. Step beyond this into orgasm torture and there is no avoiding that power is the turn on for both people involved. The pure cross over into bondage and dominance has arrived.

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Orgasm torture is the act of over loading or denying orgasmic pleasure until the recipient is moved to tears and evasion tactics that are thwarted. The top puts themselves in the control position and gets joy from keeping them wanting. The bottom gets the gift of being able to let go and have no choice but to take it. The high is the same for both. Power both the having of it and the surrendering of it. Not all people take love play to such extremes but it is true that on some level all people play with power during sex.

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Some partners get off on having there yes won in bed. If they say not until I tell you yes and then hang on to that yes until you are about to explode that’s a very common form of play. In a milder form then even that is when your partner asks you to tell them that you want them. Power again. Why not the power in your partner is what makes the sparks fly.

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The Power is in Your Hands

Saturday, May 14th, 2011

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There was a time when incredible numbers of women didn’t even know how to make themselves come. Today, lots of women buy sex toys and masturbate in any way they’d like when they are alone, but the minute they get in bed with someone else, it is as if they are at that partner’s mercy. Men and women alike should learn to be more vocal about their orgasm during partner sex.

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Some myth busting is always in good order when talking about masturbation and communication during sex. Some people seem to feel that telling a lover what makes them feel good in bed is like saying that they don’t know what they’re doing. In truth, most lovers want to know, and some are even especially turned on to hear their partner tell them. You can try it in a matter-of-fact way, or by talking dirty, which could be where extra excitement lies. However you try it, the communication and honesty that it takes to talk about what hurts or makes you uncomfortable, what gets you almost there, and what sends you cascading over the edge into pure pleasure can help make good relationships better and great relationships awesome.

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There also ought to be no shame in showing a partner exactly how you like it. It could be done in a way that explicitly asks them to touch you in a certain way, or it could be by the act of masturbation during the sexual encounter of its own accord. Again, grasping and stroking your cock or diddling your clit in the middle of having sex with another person is no insult to their prowess. It is simply acknowledging that stimulation in that certain spot would be perfect at that moment. A lover can learn from what you do. He or she could take over the action, or be fabulously excited watching their hot sex partner jack off to wild oblivion.

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At the end of the day, what you want to have are satisfied bodies and a healthy relationship based on trust and positive intention. Holding back and not cumming because you are trying to be polite does not move toward those goals. Partners should take the power into their own hands for extra joy.

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In Praise of Porn

Wednesday, May 11th, 2011

Even though many people put down other people who enjoy looking at erotic images or read sexually explicit books and such the fact is that erotica or pornography can actually be a way of enhancing your sex life in many new and imaginative ways. A good way of looking at this approach is to view erotica or pornography as a kind of sexual or erotic catalog: a way of seeing what else is out there in the world to try or simply to think about and fantasize about while masturbating. Pornography, by itself, is relatively harmless as long as the people involved in it are of-age and what they are doing is not harmful and they are all consenting adults. But even so it is essential to remember that fantasies are just that and even though something might be erotic to look at or read about there is no reason it needs to be done in real-life.

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By viewing or reading porn men and women can be exposed to new and potentially interesting new forms of erotica. The way to do this is either to “spin off” what you normally enjoy looking at or reading or simply try a jump in a totally new direction. For example if you enjoy looking at pictures, say, of women with large breasts try finding images you find sexually arousing with pictures of women with smaller breasts or even in a new direction by looking at random pictures of such. Many men as well as women have found whole new avenues of sexuality and arousal by simply taking a bit of time and cruising the web aimlessly or renting a video they normally would not look at. The sheer availability of the stuff simply makes all this porn so a healthy deep well to explore.

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So while, yes, erotica and pornography may make some people uncomfortable – or that they are simply uncomfortable with the erotic and sexual thoughts or feelings erotica and pornography may bring up in them- we need to keep in mind that pornography can actually be a good and best of all healthy way of expanding your sexual horizons. Alone, with a lover or sharing with friends, porn opens doors in ways no other way of communicating about sex ever can.

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The Vibrator Store

Saturday, May 7th, 2011

Sex toys come in so many incredible shapes and sizes, and women are fortunate today that there are so many choices. Also just as wonderful is the fact that there is so much less stigma around buying toys for the pussy that some stores have opened up that are very consciously un-sleazy and women-friendly. Often woman-owned and managed, this new attitude makes matter-of-fact conversation about masturbation, partner sex, and what the best toys for the job may be.

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Most stores have plenty of examples of the basic dong. That is a false dick make of rubber, silicone, or another material good for sticking it inside where it counts. The cleaning instructions are a little different for each kind of material, and any better toy store will have personnel who can instruct on the use of their products. Basic dongs vary by size, color, and theme. Some women prefer dolphins or other shapes rather than have it look too much like the male appendage. For the women who would like to work together at orgasmic bliss, the double dong allows for fucking action while both women get to take an end of the dildo inside.

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Add a shake and a shimmy apparatus to the basic dong, and you have a vibrator- often the favorite toy in any arsenal of fun. Vibrators may be made of hard or softer materials, and again, they vary in size so that a whether a woman prefers huge or tiny, she can find what turns her on

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Vibrators can get extra interesting, as most stores carry many other styles besides those that look as though they are meant for penetration. Some are small and cupped to fit perfectly over a horny clit, others are tiny yet pack a wallop of vibration action.

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Some vibrators in the past have been considered rather exotic but lucky for today’s women, they are becoming more and more talked about. The toys in question are the vibrating butt plug and the G-spot vibe. The extent to which some women enjoy anal penetration is part of fairly regular sexual conversation. And the more people discuss it, the less elusive the G-spot and the curved toys made specifically to reach it. A good vibe store attendant can help find the perfect toy.

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Finding Real Orgasms

Thursday, May 5th, 2011

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One of the worst things about most porn is that the woman fakes her orgasm. Because so many sex videos were originally marketed toward men and it was thought they didn’t care about or notice such things, we have the current state of porn with terribly fake, overly theatrical orgasms which no one believes are a real cum. Not only do these turn off many women who would otherwise enjoy pornography, but men find them a drag too now that they realize what is going on.

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The Internet is full of free sex videos but where to find the good ones? It can help to know what to search for. Amateur porn is one of the most popular growing categories of x-rated movie because it shows genuine people and genuine sex. It is often possible to find videos of women masturbating or couples having sex where both the man and the girl cums. Amateur porn has become so popular that some studios have started to fake it, creating films with professional porn stars that are pretending to be amateurs, using low production values like hand held cameras. Other movies have come out with porn stars allowed to pick who they sleep with and having self-directed sex with each other, choosing how to fuck and in what positions or whether to perform oral sex, blowjobs or money shots or just take the cum deep inside like the rest of us would. With Internet porn stars the line between amateur and professional in adult video has blurred to the point of meaninglessness but the point is that one can now find many sex videos with genuine orgasms in them.

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Porn films for women are a genre that sometimes has real orgasms because women are concerned with seeing their pleasure reflected on screen just as they imagine it to look when they come. Female ejaculation videos offer a unique take on the adult orgasmic moment as the woman shows genuine squirting evidence of her pleasure.

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Positions

Thursday, April 28th, 2011

Often times a person can be watching a movie with a great sex scene. It looks hot. It makes you curious and in the course of things you many begin to wonder about how you would put into practice. There are quite a few sexual positions in porn movies that only a gymnast could do. others look appealing but it is a clear case of theory versus practice until once you actually try it for yourself. Unfortunately the porn actors are professionals. They make sex positions look easy; hey doesn’t everyone enjoy un-lubricated anal sex? Keep in mind that, a good portion of sex positions in porn videos are chosen because they give the camera man a great shot of a cock entering some hole, mouth, ass or pussy.

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The actors may not be enjoying the sex at all and because they are paid to make it look hot they will just have to make the noises that are associated with hot orgasms. Some of the basics are the best for getting off quickly and hard, that is why positions like doggy style have lasted. It also happens to be one of the top most popular and favorite positions by women. This is largely because of the penetration factor and pleasure that they receive from their partners cock hitting the G-spot inside and having the man’s balls hit their clit from the outside. Every person is very different in their tastes and desires so you will have to experiment with your partner to determine which is your and their favorite. If you both have differing kinds then you should try bouncing back and forth to vary things. The best thing to do is get your partner away from their favorite position and then get them to craving it, and finally spring it on them suddenly. There is also the pleasure in taking their favorite position and varying it slightly with just a little twist. This could even give them a brand new favorite. It is also very important to let them know what yours are and to not be afraid to express yourself. You might discover that they have something very similar if not the same thing after all.

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