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Finding Kinky Friends

Thursday, May 12th, 2011

BDSM parties are a great way to meet other kinky people who are looking for fun. People can search adult personals, but it’s not always easy to find other kinky people to play with because a lot of people don’t advertise that they’re into BDSM even on . Some people get worried that someone they know may see them, and they worry that it could hurt their job or cause problems in their personal life in some way. It is a valid concern, because a lot of mainstream people tend to judge others negatively for the private things that go on in their bedrooms. It doesn’t make any sense because having an enjoyable sex life doesn’t mean that a person has no morals, and it doesn’t mean that they’re a bad person. Liking something different doesn’t make them bad people, it only makes them different. Unfortunately some people don’t see it that way.

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Looking for other adults on kinky dating sites or through kinky personals at least ensures that most people on the site are actually kinky. It doesn’t necessarily guarantee how kinky or if they’re really into BDSM, but it’s a start. Of course there are some curious vanilla people that stumble across these types of sites and put up ads and profiles, but they are in the minority, and they either develop a true interest in being kinky or they get freaked out and take their ad down. Either way, they usually don’t really cause any trouble. They want information and possibly to seriously consider whether their deepest darkest fantasies are actually something that they want to try in real life.

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Parties and get-togethers are great ways to meet people because the majority of the time the people that are there already are aware of the fact that they’re kinky and they’re okay with it. They’re pretty clear about what they like and they’re comfortable with themselves. It can save a lot of aggravation to meet people that way and not have to take the chance of bringing up BDSM to someone that might not be entirely comfortable talking about it. Even when vanilla people seem open minded they can sometimes see kink as deviant sexual behavior, and it can freak them out.

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Stuff that Makes You Wanna Do It

Tuesday, May 10th, 2011

Do you know the stuff that makes you wanna do it? Most people know some things like the fact that they have a penchant for blonde hair, dark skin, or big tits. There are other kinds of factors besides obvious body types and styles that can be a real turn-on. It could be as simple as a fragrance or as strange a fetish trigger as anyone could imagine.

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Many people realize that a certain scent can remind them of being home for the holidays or their grandmother’s attic. Just as often, a scent can make a person want to fuck like crazy. It could be the smell of funnel cake, that a guy happened to smell the first time he felt up a girl at a state fair or amusement park. It could be the scent of the ocean that makes a woman want to spread her legs because somewhere in her subconscious she still remembers feeling insanely horny the summer she stayed on the shore and was going through puberty.

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For others, a certain sound could have imprinted and stayed relevant to the sexual response. The wild web of associations in the human brain are so complex that it could be the sound of spanking, a hair clipper, a matronly woman’s voice, or Steely Dan. There is really no telling what may trip the trigger. Interestingly enough, it may not only be the basic desire to screw that is awakened. For some, a fetish behavior could be triggered and the individual may feel an overwhelming desire to be an exhibitionist and get naked in public, for example, or to cum on the next door neighbor’s high-heeled shoes.

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We are fortunate that at least most of us have some control over our sexual impulses. These behavioral triggers are so strong that they do compel us to act, but if suddenly confronted with the triggering sound, sight, scent, or what have you in an inappropriate moment, we can choose to wait until a more appropriate moment to display the behavior. Those who do feel that they can’t help themselves but to expose themselves, jerk off in public, or perform other public sex acts do take their chances. Whatever our choices, we are deeply influenced by such triggers.

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All Creatures Great and Horny

Monday, May 9th, 2011

There have been often told tales of lovers who go off into the woods to supposedly watch certain animals in their natural habitat and wind-up fucking themselves. More than one marshal art is based on the movements of animals and when we are horny more often the not we regard our baser, animalistic passions coming to the fore.

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In the U.K. recently horny birdwatchers were caught by park rangers using secluded bird watching huts for their late night love-making. The hunt and chase of the supposed civilized fix hunt brings men’s cocks round to erection as they ride their horses, and many a woman is both repelled by animal blood on her man’s hunting jacket as grows aroused when she prepares the meat of animal he has killed.

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Ironically almost all bird species are monogamous, in fact many animals exhibit mating behavior that would do well on a dating site but we, as the most intelligent animal-arguably-retain the right to root and scurry in our basest basements for debasement of our lovers.

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We might not be following our feathered friends or scurry brothers, we might indeed by leading the charge in our animalist sense when it comes to sex.

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Then there are the aberrations to heterosexual sex we indulge in that seem to be seen in other mammal’s behaviors to; black swans have been known for some homosexual pairings and almost all species have been seen masturbating. We do though seem to have kinks and fetishes pretty much sown up as far as truly non vanilla sexual practices are concerned!

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The truth is that no animal is above the other in how refined their sexual practices might be. When it comes to these incredibly complicated yet base urges we all pretty much are taken over by a blood fever, want to get off, with our without a partner.

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It a thing lives it pretty much poops and eats and if that thing wants to continue to propagate its own species it pretty much, for the most part, most procreate with another of its species to do so. The urge to spawn, to rub up against, to feel pleasure is as strong for the salmon as it is for a homosexual teenager looking for his first blowjob.

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Acceptance Of Kink

Monday, May 9th, 2011

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There are a few fetishes that make people feel a little bit squeamish because they’re a little edgy or seem kind of gross to some people. Kinky people usually try very hard to respected each other and not judge someone’s else’s kink, but sometimes when something seems really disturbing it can be a little bit difficult to be open-minded. One thing to remember is that there are people that would find our kink disturbing, even if it seems like a rather mild kink to us. There is always someone more vanilla or more mainstream who may judge us because what we like may seem extreme to them. When we remember that, it can sometimes make it easier for us to treat other people with respect and be less judgmental toward other people, especially when we stop and remember how it makes us feel when it happens to us.

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The good thing is that mainstream vanilla people seem to be getting more accepting of kink, fetish and alternative lifestyles. It’s becoming more visible, and not always in a bad way. There are still crime shows where someone gets killed and further investigation ends up showing that it was either a murder in a dungeon or an accident in a dungeon and the show goes on to examine the slimy underbelly of society that is BDSM clubs, or at least that’s how the vanilla writers like to portray the kink community. There are other outlets though, like music videos by various artists that clearly show BDSM as attractive and sexy. Mainstream vanilla people may not be getting more accepting of BDSM, but they are at least probably getting a little bit desensitized to it. That’s not an entirely bad thing. If they see something kinky and don’t bat an eyelash over it, they will probably leave kinky people alone a little bit more and accept kink as some normal part of life for some people and not a bad or dangerous thing.

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While most kinky people really don’t want any vanilla people nosing about in their business, most would also agree that it wouldn’t hurt for the BDSM crowd to be more accepted and less judged by people who live a more mainstream lifestyle. That what most people in the world want; to be accepted for who they are and not judged.

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Bondage, sex and erotic love

Friday, May 6th, 2011

Bondage, to put it simply, is the sex and erotic play and pleasure that can come from someone either being restrained or by restraining someone else. But while bondage is a simple concept there are a lot of things that everyone needs to know in order to do it safely and without putting either person at risk. Anytime we restrict or tie down someone or ask to be ourselves, we better be damn sure we are playing with someone we trust!

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One of the most important things to remember about bondage is that it is something that should not be done without some research, classes, reading or hands-on instruction. While there are way of doing bondage that are simple all it takes to seriously hurt someone is for a rope to be tied too tight or have a mouth or nose blocked. Because of this you should never have anything covering the mouth or nose the person being restrained, part of this is to allow the person being restrained to breathe without hindrance but also because it will allow the person being restrained to be able to communicate at all times, which is extremely important. While some people do role playing while they are in bondage for beginner kink lovers it is better not to do such and instead keep communication simple and direct so the person being restrained can simply say if something is too tight or if they are hurting or simply uncomfortable.

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Bondage, too, while it can be done with simple things really does require the use of specially designed equipment as homemade or crude or too-simple equipment can lead to injuries and accidents. Cheap handcuffs, for example, should never be used as they can seriously harm wrists and ankles. Scarves also should never be used as they can knot up and cut off circulation and then be hard to get off. Rope is okay but never tied too tightly. The bottom line, however, is always play safe and cautiously and never take unnecessary risks especially around something that is supposed to be sexy and playful and fun. So if you want to play with bondage read a few books and take a lot of classes and play safe so you can play for a long, long time.

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Future Wanking

Thursday, May 5th, 2011

Once the only ways to get off were one’s imagination of what could be. Then along came porn and it changed everything. Now humanity could share it’s most lusty sex fantasies with each other through a number of mediums. There was written erotica almost as soon as the printing press was invented — right after the bible. Then came adult video and adult x-rated magazines along with photography, the camera and camcorder being invented. Sex came with technology quickly.

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Now thanks to the Internet we have a wealth of free porn. It began with just downloading images over our modems but now one has infinite options, ranging from live free sex video chats to custom made videos featuring any one of a million fetishes from footjobs to whips and chains. One could spend 24 hours a day looking at adult movies and never run out of more to watch even if one could stick to just a single favorite fetish like female ejaculation. There is enough for all.

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But this is just the beginning. Imagine taking a male masturbator or sex sleeve and hooking it up to one’s sex videos. It could squeeze and move to simulate the blowjob being given on screen. For anal sex it could tighten up and know the feeling’s it should give you to help you imagine rear entry fucking. When the porn star on screen is riding the man, the toy could move up and down and contract at the same time as her cumming pussy as she has an orgasm.

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In the future distances may be bridged not with teleportation but by the ultimate in enhanced cybersex. Forget texting sex or sexting. Forget webcam sex or phone sex. Teledildonics, which is from telephony and dildo, With this you will reach out and touch someone for real, every stroke being transmitted, to her dildo and to the sleeve around you so that it will be liking while apart, cyber sex and fucking machines combined.

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Bisexual Porn Search

Monday, May 2nd, 2011

Science and the media may be confused about whether there are bisexual men as well as bisexual women but judging by the love of bisexual porn the desire to cross gender lines and sexual orientation is going strong. Of course the bisexual who is looking at pornography and x-rated movies has some special advantages because there is just so much more available.

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The Internet is full of free sex videos and never is that more true for the man or women who can receive orgasm by fantasizing about an gender! Of course one can enjoy the pleasures of simple lesbian x-rated movies or straight movies with men fucking women, or horny men ass fucking each other and all male orgies, blow jobs and circle jerks caught on film. These sex videos will be enjoyable but probably not as good as the truly bi porn movies which now exist.

A thriving subgenre of adult video depicts threesomes and bisexual hook ups and sex scenes. These films feature two men and a woman who engage in any number of fun sexual combinations, sex positions and orgasmic sex. Just oral sex alone allows for a number of fun scenarios. For example the two men could rub cocks together which is sometimes known as frottage while simultaneously getting a blow job from the woman. One man can be assfucked by the other man while the woman sits on his face and receives cunnilingus and the two on top can even kiss and have her nipples pinched by the man as he fucks and thrusts hard and between them the bottom squirts his jism all over their bodies.

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Some movies depict men who are having their first times or pretending too. That is they have always been bi-curious but take the encouragement of their girlfriends and the man she has brought home to encourage him to take that step into free bisexual sex fun.

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Technology Has Changed The Whole World

Saturday, April 23rd, 2011

It’s hard now to imagine or remember what life was like before we had the internet and had so much information at our fingertips all the time. Some of us can remember what life was like before, but we’ve grown so accustomed to the convenience and ease of doing everything on our computers that it seems like the time before the computer was an extremely long time ago, when really it was less than 20 years. It’s amazing how many things have changed now though, and how difficult it would be to live without the internet and all of our technology now that we’re used to it. Twenty years ago when the very rich and important few had a ‘mobile phone’, it was a huge clunky thing that required a case the size of a briefcase. Nobody then could imagine that twenty years later, we’d have iPhones that would house everything in our entire lives, from our calendar to our contacts to all of our music. We can even date now on our smart phones, as most of the larger dating websites have phone applications. It might actually be possible at this point to fall in love using nothing more than our smart phone, because we can do everything from getting on the dating site to making a reservation for a first date to texting and talking on the phone. One device does it all. There probably weren’t too many people who saw this coming. One o the biggest changes that the internet has made in people’s lives is the easy accessibility of sexual information.

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In the past, people would have to brave potentially dangerous situations in order to learn more or explore the own sexuality. BDSM and fetish was a whole underground world that was frightening and sometimes dangerous because nefarious people knew they could take advantage of desperate people who were looking for ways to explore their fantasies. These days people can find out anything they want right from the safety of their own home. They can interact with people before venturing out to a dungeon or party, so they feel a little more secure. We have a world where information is vast and easy to access for everyone, and that is a great thing for everyone in the world.

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Too Far To Dom/Sub

Friday, April 22nd, 2011

As sex addiction is bandied around these days as an almost cause célčbre malady, it is as prevalent for men and women to become addicted to the roles they play in the bedroom, even the roles they play in the everyday action of their marriage. A man who becomes every much the typical pussy-whipped hubby can assume a submissive pose when having sex with his wife as when cleaning the kitchen. The put-upon woman afraid to confront her husband’s consistent disapproval might just do all she can to accommodate her man as much in bed as out.

Guys and girls who enjoy some sort of kink play, can even see their specific actions and mindset follow them out of a play space or scene, often to just as insidious results. They might begin to live their kink as part of their life or simply want that kink to be their life

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For most, the fun of kink is that it is not real, that both partners know it is fantasy, and that, for the most part, a couple takes a break from their everyday lives and whatever their roles might be in those lives to either accentuate certain parts of their personalities or completely flip their experience for something they never encounter in real life. If one maintains the kink life beyond playing, if roles we are in real life become very much the role we play at in a kink scene, we do run the risk of not knowing where the kink stops and real life begins.

Complete immersion in what we want sexually, during even the moments of our lives when we aren’t exercising our lusts, can be exhausting to say the least!

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But a good many kinksters are not looking to make a distinction, to delineate between what they do in kink and what they do in life. For many couples there is no separation. These men and women employ a Herculean effort keeping their kink alive all the time. The slightest slip from the pose threatens not only the loss of erotica for the partners it also means a loss of self, of who one is as much as what one wants.

Identity for these kinksters is part and parcel with their play.

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The Ultimate Heat

Thursday, April 21st, 2011

Temperature play as a form of erotic stimulation is a dangerous yet exceptionally fun fetish for a number of kinky players. Temperature play involves using substances and objects to stimulate the body’s neuroreceptors for heat and cold for sensual effect.

Substances include oil, water, alcohol, molten wax and chocolate syrup. The last one is a favorite among novice players and those who are kinky but not fetish oriented. It’s widely available and relatively tasty compared to some of the flavored oils, carries none of the dangers of alcohol or molten wax and can be easily cleaned up.

Objects for temperature play include metal sharps, such as knives, dildos, chains, necklaces and other things that can be submerged in water or frozen with rapid results.

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Light bondage and blindfolds-aka sensory deprivation-can enhance the experience as the body shuts down those resources and diverts energy into the direct stimuli.

Typical fire play involves setting something with 50-70% rubbing alcohol on fire, than applying it on or over the skin. Scarring can occur if negotiated and allowed by both parties. Skill here is imperative so ensure the safety of both parties.

Wax is often used as a tool in temperature play because it’s easy to vary the level of pain or intensity of heat involved. Simply by holding dripping wax farther up from the skin, or closer to the body can one induce longer sensations.

Proper precautions for this type of sexual stimulation include water, cotton swabs, bandages and band aids, gauze, as any typical first aid kit should include. If bondage of any sort is involved, then sharp scissors should be included in the event that something goes wrong.

Several well-written articles have been published at various sites online such as The Frugal Domme, Wikipedia and there are a number of BDSM resources for those looking to explore temperature play.

Ice play is the opposite extreme from fire play. Using ice cubes, ice shaped dildos and other methods of freezing water into hardened substances; the body is exposed to cold temperatures. This form of stimulation often produces arousal in women when rubbing ice cubes across or around their nipples. Dangers include frostbite if the objects are too cold or left in place for too long. The danger point is way before what seems like a real problem, so monitoring a partner’s body and observing closely are good ideas.

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