Archive for the ‘Fetishes’ Category

Positions for Spanking Sex

Saturday, August 20th, 2011

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Many people today are interested in sharing spanking as a kind of fun erotic play on its own or as a spicy addition to sex with their lovers. The ass has many nerves and is very sensitive to touch or to slapping with bare hands or deliciously painful paddles. In addition to the pleasure pain connection found in other parts of the body, which can release powerful endorphins in the brain, the proximity to the genitals of both men and women is not to be ignored. When someone is spanked, blood naturally flows to the point of impact, but blood flowing to the area is also a major factor in sexual arousal, leading to a woman’s flush and lubrication and a man’s throbbing erections. It is natural perhaps that the nerves cross over when we play.

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Of course many people have experimented with adding spanking to their more fun and free sex encounters, but many people enjoy it as a foreplay to the main fucking as well. For many people, over the knee spankings, also known as OTK spanking, are an extremely popular position because of the vulnerability they lend people like in this video where a 19 year old gets spanked with a spatula and wooden spoon. They are also enjoyable for the spanker, because their consensual victim is laid across their lap, squirming and moving in a most pleasurable way with each impact.

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Many spankees will enjoy positions for spanking similar to doggy style sex, on all fours on the bed or with head down and their ass up in the air while one works their posterior over with hands or toys. Another position is simply to bend the one getting spanked over the edge of a bed or mattress. Other people greatly enjoy doing this anywhere one is, for example bending the sub over the couch, making them lean over with their arms on a chair, or even over the hood of a car for adding an exciting public element to the game.

Modern Bisexuality

Friday, August 19th, 2011

Bisexuals often have trouble being accepted. It wasn’t so long ago that any sexuality about from heterosexual missionary position sex designed to procreate was considered an aberration. Though put against the whole of human history, it is obvious that open sexual behaviors were common before modern repressive civilizations, we still think of the modern marriage as the normal way of relating. Is this really the most normal and natural human arrangement?

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Bisexuality has been popular at various times in the past. In some societies with less rigid definitions and therefore more free sex behaviors, bisexuality was the norm, or sex roles were defined in completely other ways such as the Native American two spirit or the Romans who defined it based on who received penetration and who gave it, regardless of the gender of the people practicing the actions — though a woman in a strap on would certainly have raised some eyebrows. In modern times it saw a brief popularity among the glam rock world, infamous for mythic liaisons between the likes of David Bowie and Iggy Pop. Perhaps human sexuality is more fluid than we thought.

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In modern times the confusing behavior of celebrities like Tila Tequila could be argued to back this up. She became infamous for having a reality television relationship show except that she was having both men and women compete for her affections. This went for two seasons of this behavior before she declared in 2009 that she was completely lesbian. Does this mean that she was lying all along? Instead it may suggest that human sexuality is fluid and may change over a person’s life, though the degree to which gender affects the expression of these kinds of queerness is still open for debate in some circles.

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Whatever the case it is clear we cannot simply define sexual behavior as a binary either or, with people clearly being straight or completely gay and remaining so all their lives. For many the truth is somewhere in between.

Abduction Porn & Fantasy

Tuesday, August 16th, 2011

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It is a fact of life that many people have taboo fantasies. There are countless women out there with a craving for extreme rough sex, just as men out there want to give it to them. The porn industry is booming all over, but nowhere so much as where it deals with darker and taboo fantasies. Kinky sex videos are everywhere, letting us watch men and women beaten, bound, and brutally fucked. There are even instructional films coming out now to show one how to have better rough sex, and how it win the hearts of kinky lovers everywhere by doing it.

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Why would we want to watch porn stars forcing themselves on someone else? Why would a woman have a fantasy of being raped? These things may seem perplexing until we realize that much of sexual arousal is based on symbolism. While a real brutal assault might leave someone scarred for life from the trauma it causes, the roleplay or fantasy is another thing entirely. When someone fantasized about being raped, what they are really imagining is that someone wants them so terribly much that they will stop at nothing to have their way. It isn’t really about violence — we’re not watching a real assault in any adult video after all — but about desire so strong it will overcome anything. In a society where women are taught that their desires are shameful, having what they secretly want forced on them seems like a natural outcome.

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Taking it a step further we find those who fantasize about being abducted and turned into sex slaves. This forces the fantasy woman into a lifestyle of liscentious ease, where they need only lay back and be pleasured by the universe and have it come to them. THis fantasy has been around as long as humans have been fantasizing, it seems, and it is no wonder it has made its way into free porn as well.

Big Girl Porn and Fetish

Tuesday, August 16th, 2011

Today the human cultural ideal seems well known — on fashion runways and on the covers of magazines and in Hollywood movies, we see almost nothing but skinny women. Some of them are so thin they practically looking like starving children from an African charity commercial. And while humans naturally come in all shapes and sizes, the proportion of them which look like that is vanishingly small. There are not many who look this way in any part of the world, yet they are all over our media. It can feel like this is the only kind of desirable person everywhere. How is a BBW to find relationships and free sex?

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One merely has to take a look at a porn site to realize that the human sexual interest is a lot more varied. There one will find plenty of sex videos the usual super skinny girls there will also be lots of adult videos with bigger girls. Many of these even make a fetish of the woman’s larger size, unless she is performing for other reasons. For example, one of the most well known female ejaculation porn stars is a big beautiful woman, prized for her special squirty talent as well as her curvy beautiful looks.

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One of the nice things about online dating sites is that one can put it all on the line. Photos will make it clear what one looks like. If people want you then they want you, and there are many men out there who have a desire for bigger girls. They love grabbing hold of their ample asses or feeling them pillowing beneath them while fucking, and lover their huge chests and yes, even their soft plump stomachs. And sexual chemistry has no idea what size a person is, reacting to them regardless. Embrace the size one is and those who will love one for it! Happiness awaits.

Doing the Voodoo That We Always Do

Thursday, August 11th, 2011

It is said that we set our sexual interests very early in our lives, sometimes well before we are even aware of our sexual feelings. Fetishes are typically birthed somewhere in childhood and of course our sexual preferences are burned into our DNA. The same can be said about or choices for porn. We might be introduced to an adult video quite early in our teen years, something we certainly did not go out and buy for ourselves, so the choice of material will not always be individualistic. But what we see those first few times viewing dirty movies will influence all our future viewing, good or bad, and make us seek out or avoid certain things.

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We might get a hint of some double penetration and yearn to see more, or it might repel us on first viewing and we avoid it. might be our thing from the second we see it on screen, a specific Lesbian sexfetish that we might never want to try might though turn us on greatly when we see it enacted in an adult video. All manner of actions, lofty and silly patter, body types and costumes might as much turn us on as cool our libido when we first see them in a dirty movie and affect how we view them all as we march into the future downloading our porn.

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Of course or tastes can change as we grow older and things we found so fascinating and arousing as a teenager might simply grow staid and routine the more we see it played out on adult video or experience for real. As quite often happens with the visual representation of sex, when we finally can experience some of what we are seeing for real, the mystery is muted a bit or we simply enjoy the reality of all this salacious stuff more than a movie of it we find we don’t need the movie all that much.

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The Fantasy

Saturday, August 6th, 2011

Reality can sometimes be a bit harsh for all of us. Whether we do it consciously or not, we all need to indulge in a little bit of fantasy from time to time to keep from going bonkers in this crazy world that we live in. Some of us enjoy the free Porn on the Internet, some of us sit and meditate, and some of us just daydream away from our office desks.

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Plain, stark reality served cold can be an unappetizing dish for most of us. We all face tremendous pressures and expectations in our work lives and our home lives to make ends meet, to be productive, to be efficient, to be competent, to be dependable, to be reliable, to be financial secure, to be kind, to be loving, to be sensitive, to be available, and to be morally upstanding. No wonder we are all exhausted and ready to run off screaming into the night a lot of the time. How can we possibly keep up with all of these things and fulfill all of these requirements on a daily basis? Most of us just do the best we can and maybe throw in a little bit of fantasy to take the edge off of things every now and again.

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Some of us enjoy surfing the various sex and adult entertainment websites that are available to us in abundance on the Internet for a bit of fantasy and escape of the sexual kind. Others of us may venture off into a pleasant daydream about that hot electrician wandering around in our office, and still others of us may seek out the mountains or the ocean to try to clear our heads and disconnect from all the pressures of life for a bit.

Whatever your fantasy happens to be, it is perfectly ok to disconnect every once in a while and indulge in it, your secret is safe.

Bondage Sex is Fun Sex

Thursday, July 28th, 2011

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We need to have variety to fully enjoy our sex lives. With too much of the same old thing it can easy to grow bored with a partner or even fucking itself. Well, maybe not fucking, but one reason that people’s attentions start to stray is when the sexual spark starts to wane amongst people who are dating. Adding new kinds of sexual fun to the mix will revive this spark for many people and may lead to new kinds of intimacy that have never been felt before. Bondage is one kind of sexual play that many lovers enjoy adding to their repertoire of bedroom games.

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Since we’ve all presumably enjoyed free sex where we could move our bodies as we pleased, it may seem odd that it would also be possible to enjoy being tied up like Taylor Rain in this video. However many people find a great deal of pleasure in this act and finding themselves unable to move can be a huge turn on. This can be for many reasons. For one thing, we feel vulnerable when we cannot freely move and this kind of vulnerability can be exciting when shared with a lover or fuck friend. We are open to them yet cannot perhaps touch them back. This creates a new focus on the person who is tied down, letting them enjoy the sensations and not worry about reciprocating for now, while the one who is free can enjoy whatever access to one’s body they desire.

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Many couples experiment with simple bondage using silk ties or scarves, but sometimes rope provides a fun and even sometimes safer option. Also used are chains or even a special vinyl plastic which sticks to itself but does not stick to skin in the manner of duct tape. It can be wrapped around and around a person’s limbs or even around both wrists and ankles for a simple hogtie.

Blindfolds and Sensation

Tuesday, July 26th, 2011

The idea of using blindfolds to change how one perceives the world is an ancient one, experimented even in religion. The image of justice with her eyes blinded suggests that this may have been part of ancient rituals, or at least that the symbolism of it carries down to us through the ages. One can also see in free sex videos or heard other friends talk about the fun of adding blindfolds to their sexual practices and wondered what the big deal is.

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Certainly blindfolds can provide a thrill for those engaged in practices of dominance and submission, or D and S, which is where they are most often seen in porno films. The reason that porn stars

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Even without BDSM, many people enjoy the addition of blindfolds to their open and free sex lives. Outside of BDSM this is sometimes referred to as sensation play. The removal of one sense makes others more acute feeling, so touch is extremely appealing when one cannot see, along with smell and sound and others like taste. Two lovers can even both wear blind folds when playing together, so that both are on equal footing and must explore each other blindly with their hands and other body parts. Blindfolds can be fun for anyone adventurous.

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The Visual Feast Fantasy

Saturday, July 23rd, 2011

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A heterosexual guy cannot as much turn away from porn movies as he can kick a woman out of his bed…if he ever gets the time to turn away from porn movies to go out and look for a woman to take to his bed. A Guy’s sexual responses are so very visually led. How many men have been accused time and again by his mate for obsessing over just one of her body parts or indeed watching porn movies too often? But for a man and his movies, it’s the fantasy he seeks to fill both his mind’s eye and his visual senses, and that visual feast fantasy is what porn movies are about for guys.

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This is what women do not really understand about porn and men. Sure, a guy might be getting off on watching the perfect bodies of the porn girls reacting before him, just as a girl can get off on male porn stars swinging ever-erect huge penises, but really what a guy likes about this visual beyond the naked female flesh is that it is a fantasy. For the guy’s real woman, his wife or girlfriend, to recreate, care to or fret over the fact that she can’t replicate this fantasy leads to many a boyfriend/girlfriend argument over porn, but women need to realize they are fighting a battle that can’t be won. They cannot provide their man with this fantasy sex, shouldn’t fret that they can’t and in the end, their man doesn’t want porn movie sex from them.

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No matter how seemingly addicted to porn a guy might seem, how much he might seem to need and want it for his stimulation or even as constant masturbatory fodder, he doesn’t want porn movies as his real sex life. Guys certainly know the difference between fantasy porn sex scenes and the real one’s they share with a lover. And while one might influence the other and while a guy could spend more time watching porn then ever being with his woman, the twain of the fantasy and the reality cannot meet…nor would a guy watch porn movies less if they ever did!

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The Caucasion View

Friday, July 22nd, 2011

Though porn makers will tell us that their audience these days represents a cross-section of men and women-straight, gay and everything in-between, the truth of the matter is that white straight guys make and watch porn more than any other group. Porn reflects their fantasies with a copious amount of girl on girl action, a fair amount of femdom scenes and more than a little classic, if not outright role playing of ethnic stereotypes, certainly with groups of females far from the Caucasian experience.

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This is why Asian porn often looks very much alike from move to movie.

When we do not understand the actions or customs of a group we either grow to fear that group or we invent our own specifications for understanding. Quite quickly Asian woman were perceived as either demure lotus-flower-like damsels who were ever-subservient to their men or dark dangerous seductresses; roles that were easy to understand if not so very accurate. The truth is that, while our ethnicity does color our worldview men and women are complex creatures whose personalities are made-up of many factors, not just where they were born. But these stereotypes last and seep into modern culture and the art that that culture produces. We got and still get some stunted but often repeated ethnic stereotypes of Asian girls, from popular mainstream movies all the way to Asian porn…fueled by a less-then studied Caucasian view.

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Luckily with the net we are exposed to every corner of the globe and come to learn that all men and women aren’t really all that much different than one another. There is a mixing of cultures in the modern world because of how we react to one another, reflected in some breaking-down of the blonde-haired, blue-eyed, big-busted typical porn girl type and some lessening of specific Asian girl stereotypes.

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But the ideals we created so long ago have a tenacious hold and we still see many modern day porn DVD’s being produced and released that show those two typical Caucasian Asian porn stereotypes.