Not that many men would truly make the distinction of quality if they are feeling friction, but there is a difference between a blow-job and a hand-job and much more than just the sensations a partner’s mouth can give as opposed to their hand. There are considerations of intent and intimacy, positioning and communication inherent in either act, as are inherent in any other sex act that we might not be considering in the throes of all those sensations.
In this day and age, certainly the hand job is the safer of the two activities but as all of us can pretty much masturbate, use our hand or sex toys with them when we like, having someone’s mouth on our genitals is infinitely more thrillin, for most women and men. Our lips, tongues, even teeth-gently-can provide a cornucopia of sensations our fingers and hand simply cannot, not to mention just the sheer fantastic sensation of wetness covering our dicks or pussies. For men there is the added satisfaction of being able to literally fuck the mouth of their lover, barbaric though it might seem. And any oral sex really does garner feelings of intimacy between partners as, for the most part, when performed with proficiency and caring a blow-job is a loving intimate act performed on a man from his partner, very much as a man eating pussy is.
The hand-job though is not to be denigrated. Sure it might not be further down on the infamous hierarchy of sexual bases but it still rates up there as a sexual act; the man having his genitals manually manipulated by someone other than himself
With a hand-job the giver certainly is free to talk through any manner of naughty little scenarios, issue promises-or threats-and basically tease the erection-addled guy lying there with his entire life literally in his partner’s hands. Eye-to-eye contact can be maintained if couples wish it and many partners claim they can determine when their man is about to come with a cock in their hand better than they ever can the same cock in their mouth.
Stimulating our lover unselfishly, completely in mind of making them orgasm, not receiving any pleasure in return other then knowledge of a job well done, both a blow-job and a hand-job speaks to how much one partner looks to give pleasure to another; or wants to give a little something out to get the same in return.
Either way, the man getting his genitals sucked, licked or touched, is the winner in the end.
Some women ache to wear corsetry, lingerie and high heels in manner that goes beyond just wanting to dress-up and look pretty. Many a girl grows into her sexual awareness with more than just a passing fancy for the girdle she spied her older aunt wearing, or has more than just a passing thought for the leather of her handbag. These women, lesbians, straight or bi, might simply be fetishists.