Many couples today are interested in making porn together. There is the thrill of exhibitionism, because we can look at ourselves at a time when normally our attentions are drawn inwards to sensations. When we are fucking, we imagine we might see our true, uninhibited selves that we never get to see except peeking out in the mirror. With the Internet, there is also the added thrill of potentially sharing what we create on a free porn site where we can imagine others getting off to what we’ve shared.
However, if we have decided to create adult videos with a lover, there need to be ground rules set about the disposition of anything we make. For example, what happens if the relationship breaks up — who gets to keep the sex tape and should it be destroyed? Even in happier times, what rules does one set with one’s lover for how the video gets shared? Can it be sent to friends or to strangers? The answers might be different and surprising, after all a friend knows one and can spread rumors in one’s social circles. On the other hand, a stranger is just a person who is beating off to one’s photos!
Identity is also an important issue. When taking photos consider whether to include one’s faces. on the one hand, this is more erotic as facial expressions are pleasing, but they also run the risk of creating an identity issue where others can tell who is fucking. This is especially important if one works in a line of work where it could jeopardize one’s well being. Some people compromise by taking full photos and then editing the face in some way using a program like Photoshop. Another option for photos or movies is to wear a mask, which both obscures and creates a sexy air of mystery which might not be present otherwise.