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Outdoor Grouping

Thursday, June 16th, 2011

A great outdoor space where it is private enough to have sex is a great find. If the culture there is also permissive of multiple partnering, a group sex party might be welcome. In that case, a truly special place has been found. Luckily, such a place is destined to be shared with lucky friends and like-minded people.

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Any outdoor space that will host sex party action should be carefully secured as not to upset any neighbors. Permanent or temporary fencing is an option, as is allowing what foliage there is to grow up and become a natural barrier. Oftentimes as much natural coverage as can be achieved is desirable since part of the appeal is to be out in nature. That said, there should also be some light canopies or something similar to provide protection from the sun or any precipitation.

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Though it is possible to have a great outdoor orgy with nothing but some blankets, the sunshine, and a nice backyard, a pool and a hot tub is a serious bonus. Just as people who seek out hotel rooms with Jacuzzis, just as many sexual adventurers would want to do it in and around water in a group setting. There is something amazing about finding a woman with a great set of tits or a guy with a good, stiff dick in the pool, kissing and fondling, then heading out to a mattress or blanket to fuck hardcore to hearts’ content. Some may even get into it so much that a strong-fisted hand job leaves a little DNA behind in the hot tub. If there are no house rules against it, it’s fair game.

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Fucking in a group can be a truly amazing experience outside. The breeze is caressing wet bodies as they tumble. Fingers find their pleasure spots and tongues lick new and old lovers to orgasm. It is as if the whole glorious scene is blessed by mother nature, just as all creatures do it freely outdoors for other creatures to see. We humans have the benefit of condoms, personal lubrication, and sex toys. Other than those wonderful sex aids, it is an outdoor party hearkening to basic nature. People desire each other to give and receive pleasure. Why not go natural?

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It’s 2011, Let’s Accept The Sluts

Thursday, June 16th, 2011

Most men seem to be pretty clueless when it comes to dating. They get on a computer and find the online personals and forget any sense of manners or decorum, and then they seem surprised when the women seem to be largely disinterested at best and hostile at worst. They often seem to want to jump right in to talking about sex and then start having sex really quickly, totally skipping the getting to know you part that most women are expecting. Men seem to use sex as a way to determine if there is compatibility, but women often feel that they don’t want to have sex unless they feel there is compatibility. It’s a perfect example of the whole Mars vs. Venus thing that we’ve heard so much about for years now.

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Dating is always kind of confusing for everybody, but it sometimes seems especially difficult for people of opposite genders simply because they communicate completely differently and they think and reason completely differently, so what makes sense to one doesn’t make any sense whatsoever to the other. Sometimes it seems like a miracle that anyone is ever able to get together. Some of the dating websites offer articles and quizzes specifically designed to help people identify better relationship matches for themselves by matching personality types and explaining some of what’s going on in each gender’s heads to help them achieve better, clearer communication.

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One of the problems with the man’s approach of jumping straight into discussing sexual topics is that women still have to worry because there still a double standard regarding sex. Men are still expected to have sex whenever possible, and women are still viewed as sluts if they have sex too soon. Unfortunately, there are still men out there that will dump a woman that has sex with them too quickly in spite of the fact that they’ve been pressuring the woman for sex the entire time and trying to seduce her. When they succeed too quickly they decide that the woman is a slut and they end the budding relationship immediately. It’s pretty confusing for most women, and it doesn’t help women feel any better about men and their motives when dating. It’s time for everyone to grow up a bit and start being more open and honest and stop judging each other.

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Holding Passive

Wednesday, June 15th, 2011

One of the tactics best used by the man or woman wanting to get laid is to hold themselves passive. This will work only in certain situations and one must know how and when to work action through inactions, a certain suave demeanor of inertness, but hiding one’s libido in plain sight, not revealing our lusts or need does serve us well in circumstances where we come face to face with the object of our affection and need to be cool about what we want from them; is what we want is mainly sex.

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Some single people are just more naturally assertive, sexual and flirty then others. These folks can sometimes use this naughty style to their advantage; more often than not they are dating more than anyone else and enjoying the fruits of their seductions. But reputation more than any real attractiveness sees us through many a situation and there will come a time we need to remain cool to get hot.

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None of us are porn stars so we should not truly think we need to act like one to get close to someone we adore. There is a fine line between seduction and desperation and once one crosses over into the other one has a hard time getting back! What we should employ more often than not, whether talking to an intended paramour or emailing someone across a dating site is our style as it fits us but does not put off anyone else. We can be sexy without being sexual, flirting and fun without being creepy and most of all let someone know we are interested in them without coming across so horny that we simply can’t wait until we get them into bed.

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No one wants to be perused to the exclusion of all other interactions but at the same time we all want to feel wanted. The petard we often swing from is giving too much too soon or not enough over a long period of time, either exhausting our lover with our need or boring them with inattention. It is hard indeed lying in wait as much as it is pouncing, finding the right balance between being on and turning off, revealing our need and seeming indifference. Being passive is just as much effort as being aggressive.

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Have More Sex

Wednesday, June 15th, 2011

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A lot of people don’t realize that having sex has a lot of health benefits, and the vast majority of people don’t realize that fucking and having an orgasm can boost people’s immune system quite a bit and make them much more healthy and resistant to illnesses that are going around like the common cold and flu. Studies have shown that just having sex once or twice a week will increase the body’s production of a lot of healthy antibodies and hormones that boost people moods, immune systems and well-being.

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Frequent sex has a lot of health benefits, including burning calories which helps to lose weight or maintain a healthy body weight. In addition to that, it is an aerobic exercise, which is good for the cardiovascular system. It’s also a great stress reliever, and it boosts self-esteem. Unfortunately for the ladies who may use this excuse, sex can actually help get rid of headaches. It helps reduce pain, and the release of endorphins can help temporarily relieve cold and allergy symptoms like stuffy noses. Certain hormones that are released during orgasm actually help people to sleep better and reduce insomnia.

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The same hormone that makes people fall asleep after sex is also the hormone that makes people feel attached to others and more intimate and trusting, and it’s often referred to as the ‘Love Hormone’. Those increased feelings of intimacy are very beneficial for happiness and feeling centered. A lot of people probably think that the feelings of intimacy come solely from touching another person, because what’s more intimate than touching someones boobs or genitals? What can be more intimate than a long, deep kiss? Well, science has proven that even though touching does produce emotional feelings of intimacy, there is actually a hormone that is released in our bodies during orgasm which causes those feelings as well. Feeling intimately connected to another human being is very beneficial to a person’s mental health and well-being, because most humans want to feel connected to others, to feel as if they belong and are a part of some sort of community. Feelings of intimacy with another provide all those things. Because of this, a healthy sex life can also help to alleviate feelings of depression and sadness.

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Expanding Yours Sexual Horizons With Role Play

Tuesday, June 14th, 2011

Even though there’s various techniques for men and women to expand their sexual horizons, from experimenting with new types of erotic stimulation or playing with new and unique sex toys, one of the simplest and most powerful technique is called role playing. Role play, basically, is where a person, or a couple, put on a new personality to become a whole new and totally different kind of sexual person. It’s basically like the game kids play: let’s pretend. But instead of cowboys and Indians or cops and crooks these games can be a lot more adult and explicit. One mistake that people make, though, is to make the games too complicated. Instead of thinking elaborate or dark with role play a better idea is to keep the games and the roles being used as simple and almost funny as possible. Instead of something like serial killer and cop, which can bring up a lot of dangerous possibilities, it is much better to do something like housewife and pool boy, businessman and call girl, student and teacher, or similar.

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For a lot of men and women who role play open huge doors of erotic possibility: chances for couples to put on simple or even eventually complicated scenes that can also lead to play such as dominance and submission: where one partner will be a slave or servant to the other ; though that is a whole new world of exploration that has its own rules and difficulties as well as new possible benefits.

Role-play doesn’t necessarily lead one to kink nor kink needs role-play it is just that possibilities exist for all the great things we might get into

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Role playing also has plenty of opportunities for expanded play by doing things like buying whole outfits and costumes so the people who are pretending to be other people for sexual play can have not just a new personality but also a whole new wardrobe that can help with the play in all kinds of new and fun ways. Some couples also go as far as to take their new personalities out for a date or even on vacation: pretending to be other people in hotels, restaurants and so forth.

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So think about role playing if you are interested in expanding your sexual horizons in new and possibly stimulating ways.

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Does Beer Make Better Lovers?

Tuesday, June 14th, 2011

Beer is not generally considered an aphrodisiac, but according to some men, it helps the cause of great lovemaking. A few seem to believe that it simply relaxes them and allows them to be more romantic and at ease. Others actually believe that it gives them better performance and staying power. Anecdotal evidence seems to indicate that women generally do not agree with this assessment: Consumption of large amounts of beer does not make great lovers.

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First of all, too much beer can make it more likely that a guy can’t get there at all. It can change the personality enough that a guy is mostly unappealing to the opposite sex. If he is loud and annoying, how close is he going to get to the pussy? If he drinks too much and can’t manage to show up for his date, he’s SOL for that, too. It may be helpful if both parties have been drinking. That way, whether there’s good sex, bad, sex, or no sex may matter less overall.

One can’t vouch for the physiology of every individual, so it could be possible that for some man out there, beer does help him to stay hard longer. Smoking pot may also make some drummer in the world a better player, but reports from most bands still seem to hold that this is mostly in the mind of the pothead drummer who says it. For the beer-drinking guys, they may manage to keep it up, but they are just as likely to fall victim to the ailment affectionately known as ‘whiskey dick.’ Whiskey is not the only beverage that can keep a guy flaccid rather than at the ready.

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Guys should remember that it isn’t only a handsome face, a nice ass, or a big, stiff dick that is going to attract a woman or keep her around. Personality does count. A little social drinking here and there is fine and well within the realm of reason. The idea that drinking multiple pints every time a guy gets ready to do the wild thing doesn’t make such sense. A guy who drinks too much can dull his personality. Not very interesting, let alone rude or intoxicated, is not going to get a guy laid.

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Dress-Up for Masturbation

Sunday, June 12th, 2011

Does the idea of sensual dress arouse you? Does it excite you to put on your loveliest, sexiest pair of panties, wear a garter, stockings and cute bra in anticipation of sex? How about when you’re alone? Does it feel erotic to wear lingerie when engaging in masturbation?

The mental connection between dressing sexy and feeling sexy has been established by psychologists and doctors in the study of human sexuality.

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Many a cross-dresser will spend the time to throw on thigh highs, favorite g-string or boyshort panties and a cute top all just for the sake of fantasy and pleasing myself. Sure it takes a few more moments to get ready for something that normally happens in the nude.

From a mental perspective, the feel of those clothes serves as a reminder that we’re doing something special, often for someone else. But why not do something special for ourselves? Why not take the time to treat our bodies as the loving temples of sex we are?

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For many, normal masturbation can quickly grow into a routine. This is why erotic fantasies phone sex and other trends in sexual entertainment are so popular. Yet they tend to be expensive and near addiction status for many which can be a danger. Instead of starting immediately with the mundane and routine, we can now engage in our secret, sacred sexuality without fear of being caught. If a partner is inclined to join in the fun, all the better. The various types of clothing worn for lingerie serve a purpose and that sole purpose is to remind humanity of its sexuality.

Masturbation is healthy for us and if we’ve dedicated the entire month of May to it, why not spice things up by putting on our sexy lingerie that we spent good money on while we play just for ourselves? There is even an entire month dedicated to Masturbation! Why not spice it up with lingerie?

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The clothes are great inspiration for writing too! And as an erotic romance author they’re a tax write off for research purposes.

If clothes make the man, then lingerie can be the icing on the cake of a great sexual experience starting from the inside out; even if that experience only involves the solo explorations of those insides and outs.

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Dominant versus Alpha

Saturday, June 11th, 2011

One of the biggest discussions among those who read sexy novels is the difference between alpha males and Dominant men. For those who do not read kinky romance novels, the difference is often misunderstood and confused. Some women see the overbearing dominant male as sexists, crude and downright useless.

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Others crave his powerful sexual appeal. It’s raw, it’s exciting and it’s arousing when the man comes in swinging his cock as though it were the biggest dick his mate or partner has ever seen. The thrill can be exhilarating for a woman who loves the ultra-dominant act. But for many women, that action stops at the bedroom and in the real world she is his equal.

Both men have to take charge of situations. Both men feel the need to control and the underlying reasons behind this need for control is generally the same. A belief that his way can guide his heroine into safety feeds his need to be a leader.

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Often times both men will be in powerful positions either as corporate CEOs or highly trained military experts, these men are used to getting their way. The alpha male will continue that power trip at home while the Dominant male will use it as a role in the bedroom for sexual arousal that has been negotiated upon beforehand.

In the real life bedroom similarities exist too. Whether he’s using ropes and handcuffs, spankings and scarves, or just good old fashion strength to make his point, he’s still on top. His goal is pretty much the same, drag something from the woman that she wants to give but doesn’t know how. She’s generally afraid to ask and that fear is often masked as stubbornness or anger. Sometimes it’s blatant fear. In erotic romance novels, sex is used as a weapon to uncover the key issue and develop the plot as well as draw out the conflict.

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His ability to see past her defenses as an alpha male or Dominant is what spurs him on to guiding her. It’s not until he’s learned to grow through the plot that he realizes he’s guiding her as she’s guiding him, but that’s another article. In the end, the two types of men are really one and the same. Labels are just for publisher and reader convenience as they help readers define the characters for the appropriate markets.

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Does Size Matter Anymore?

Friday, June 10th, 2011

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There seems to be a shift happening with attraction to BBWs and large men. It may be simply that people are getting bigger and heavier, and the percentages of the population that is overweight or obese in nearly every country is increasing every year so everyone is getting more accepting of a variety of sizes because it’s is rapidly becoming the norm in our society and people are getting adjusted to it. In the past, men would hesitate to openly date larger women, no matter how attracted they might have been to them. It was silly for a guy to deny his true desires and interests because of societal pressures to like something different, but that seems to be what was happening. Many larger women will tell stories of men who wanted to sleep with them on the down low but wouldn’t openly date them. A lot of bigger ladies have crazy stories about married men that practically stalked them and begged them for sex, complaining that their wives were skinny little things and that’s never what they were really attracted to. These days there are all kinds of online personals specifically for BBWs and the people that love them. There are BBW sex hookup sites and BBW sex parties. The voluptuous ladies are being recognized as the sex goddesses that they are, and men are no longer hiding their interest and attraction.

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It’s sad that people have to hide their true desires, but it’s even sadder that our society makes it necessary to put down one body type in order to uplift another. The joke used to be about the fat chicks but now all the jokes seem to be switching to the skinny chicks. None of it should be acceptable. Yes, there are health issues with both over and underweight people, and that should be a concern of each individual and their loved ones. Other than that, why can’t we all just live and let live? Let people be who they want to be and who they were born to be. No one size is perfectly right all the time, and most people, regardless of their body size are not entirely happy with themselves. We all need to learn to love ourselves and work on being the best healthiest people we can be without being judged.

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Cybersex Is Like Writing Erotica

Friday, June 10th, 2011

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One of the advantages of technology and computers is the ability to have anonymous sexual encounters with no physical participation between the participants. There couldn’t be sex any safer than that, but it still allows people to live out their wildest sexual fantasies with another human being instead of simply watching porn or relying solely on their own imaginations. Cybersex is a pretty interesting concept, because all it is really is an enhanced form of masturbation. There is another person involved via the computer, and that can be with or without a webcam so sometimes it’s just text via instant messaging or chatrooms. Each participant is by themselves (presumably) in front of a computer screen, sharing a fantasy.

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Basically what they’re doing is writing an erotic story together by role playing the characters actions, discussion and reactions. It can be very enjoyable though, and many people feel that it’s better than jerking off alone, and since the chat transcripts can be saved, both parties can keep a copy of the story to jerk off to in the future if they so choose. With the addition of a webcam, they dynamic changes a bit because the visual is added, so it becomes a little bit less like an erotic novel. Without a camera though, we could be anyone speaking to anyone.

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The anonymity of it allows people to create a persona for themselves; they can be anything or anyone they want. It could be a guy pretending to be a female and lesbian. It could be a teenager pretending to be a 45-year-old rich man that wants to eventually meet in person. Lonely or unhappy people can sometimes start to feel an emotional attachment to their cybering buddy, and are quite often very disappointed when it never moves into real life or when they find out the person hasn’t been completely honest about who they are, but if we all keep our wits about us and don’t get overly attached to a fantasy person, it can be a lot of fun and a great outlet for sexual fantasies that we might want to explore in this realm before attempting it in real life for whatever reasons. It gives people a way to have sexual release with the feeling of having someone else involved, even though the other person or people aren’t physically present.

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