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Optimum Positioning

Tuesday, May 17th, 2011

If it is true that at the most only ten percent of women reach orgasm through intercourse, then how are the rest getting-off;and are they even? In most cases women need clitoral stimulation as much as or more so then vaginal and if their lover doesn’t know this, the woman continues on here merry sexual way unsatisfied; as a lot of women are.
Straight fucking is just not going to cut it for most ladies.

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Some sexual positions, if done with enough clitoral stimulation in mind, will make it easier for a lady to get off;for various reasons.
The classic missionary position allows the woman to use a man’s weight atop her to good advantage. Her pressed breasts between a man’s chest-for the most part-pinned down receiving a good hip thurst-ing, many women as much grow aroused from the physical sensation of this position as much as the idea of being overcome by the man. Intimacy is also high in this position as both partners face one another and if the man is positioned correctly he can rub his public bone atop his lady’s clitoral mound while inside her.
Many women report that running the fuck, generally being on top sitting on their man’s cock, arouses them to an extreme degree. In this position, whether a woman is sitting facing her man, or with her back to him-the classic reverse cowgirl she can play with her breasts with no hindrance of the man pressing down on her and grind her pelvis in the exact way she needs to connect her vagina and her clit to the man spearing her.

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Lastly, in the three basic positions of love-making, the man can take the woman from behind. Bending her or positioning his lady on all fours, the man enters the woman’s vagina standing or kneeling behind her spread hind quarters, in effect pushing up under and into her. This position allows for deeper penetration for most couples, and both the man and woman can alter the rhythm by how much the man moves forward and the woman back. A woman or man can also reach under and stimulate the clitoris and though the less intimate of the basic positions sometimes men and women take advantage of a more animalistic routing as fucking from behind certain has some deep attachments to our more prehistoric ancestry.

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Degrade and Humiliate

Tuesday, May 17th, 2011

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Some male submissives really receiving degradation and humiliation play from their dominant partners. Degradation and humiliation is a subject that can be a little bit controversial in BDSM circles. Done carelessly, it can cause quite a bit of emotional distress to the receiver. The dominant partner, who is responsible for the physical and emotional well-being of his or her submissive partner, should use caution and common sense wit this type of play. They should also take the time to get to know their partner for a variety of reasons.

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One of the most important reasons that it’s important for the partners to be familiar is the effectiveness of the play. If the submissive partner enjoys some degradation and humiliation, it’s important to know what type is effective with that person. Everyone is different, and to create an effective scene it is important to know what makes the submissive tick. Degradation doesn’t work if it doesn’t make the submissive feel degraded in any way. One must know what specific things will work with the submissive without making them feel overly emotional and get them to the point that they are no longer enjoying the scene. Making fun of a man’s cock may be perfect for one submissive but might really distress another. A man who loves wearing women’s panties may not feel any degradation or humiliation no matter what the Dominant says to them, while other men who are embarrassed to admit that they enjoy may really get off on being forced to wear them and made fun of for having them on. Degradation and humiliation is not a one size fits all fetish. It must be tailored to the specific submissive, and extensive negotiation should precede this type of play in order to assess just what the submissive can handle.

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In addition, care must be taken to build the submissive back up at the end of this type of scene. Compliments on their behavior or on how well they handled everything that happened during the scene will help bolster them back up and reassure the submissive that they are cared for by their Dominant. Extra aftercare may be needed after particularly intense scenes. Done with care, degradation and humiliation can be really hot, but the Dominant should be really aware of the submissive’s state of mind throughout the scene.

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The High Priced Love Of A Woman

Sunday, May 15th, 2011

As much as they might be trying to convince themselves otherwise, men buy sex dolls for one purpose and one purpose only. Sure the higher-end dolls produced today cost so much that their price is pejorative for the common guy-or girl-to purchase and there are plenty of collectors of unusual sexual items and toys and even more erotic photographers who would indeed benefit from a pose-able fake girl who would never charge for a photo shoot or stop a session for a pre break, but a sex doll at any price is mostly bought to fuck.

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If one is moving way from masturbating with their hand, off of a vibrator or even one of the more popular vagina replicas fitted into cans or the end of flashlights, graduating from stroking themselves with a jelly-like mold or even away from their lubed baseball mitt or sock, one might want to consider the reason one would ever want a life-seized replica of a woman when one could certainly spend better money and time on dating. A high-priced call girl will consider the most hideous man and at least that man will be experience the pleasures of a flesh-and-blood woman.

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What drives a man-or woman, since some of these new fangled dolls can be outfitted transsexual with attachable penises-to seek the attentions of an intimate object that for all intents and purposes he imagines not intimate might simply be more than a need to rub against the heated innards of a synthetic material built for that purpose. The customer in question might have a fetish for having sex with objects or simply and attraction to dolls, Agalmatophilia as it is called in psychological terms that must be realized in order to be satiated. For sure there are hundreds of sites on line that cater to any of a number of kinks and non-vanilla sexual practice; wanting sex with a doll is no more unusual then so many others.

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As with most things driven by a consumer base, the population of people who want to buy high-priced sex dolls makes them lucrative for someone to produce. And as with any other sexual aid we use to increase our intimacy, aid our sex life, or just help us to get off faster, the dolls range in price and in materials used in their construction.

It’s just our reasons for using them that don’t change all that much.

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The Power is in Your Hands

Saturday, May 14th, 2011

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There was a time when incredible numbers of women didn’t even know how to make themselves come. Today, lots of women buy sex toys and masturbate in any way they’d like when they are alone, but the minute they get in bed with someone else, it is as if they are at that partner’s mercy. Men and women alike should learn to be more vocal about their orgasm during partner sex.

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Some myth busting is always in good order when talking about masturbation and communication during sex. Some people seem to feel that telling a lover what makes them feel good in bed is like saying that they don’t know what they’re doing. In truth, most lovers want to know, and some are even especially turned on to hear their partner tell them. You can try it in a matter-of-fact way, or by talking dirty, which could be where extra excitement lies. However you try it, the communication and honesty that it takes to talk about what hurts or makes you uncomfortable, what gets you almost there, and what sends you cascading over the edge into pure pleasure can help make good relationships better and great relationships awesome.

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There also ought to be no shame in showing a partner exactly how you like it. It could be done in a way that explicitly asks them to touch you in a certain way, or it could be by the act of masturbation during the sexual encounter of its own accord. Again, grasping and stroking your cock or diddling your clit in the middle of having sex with another person is no insult to their prowess. It is simply acknowledging that stimulation in that certain spot would be perfect at that moment. A lover can learn from what you do. He or she could take over the action, or be fabulously excited watching their hot sex partner jack off to wild oblivion.

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At the end of the day, what you want to have are satisfied bodies and a healthy relationship based on trust and positive intention. Holding back and not cumming because you are trying to be polite does not move toward those goals. Partners should take the power into their own hands for extra joy.

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What’s Fare At The Faire

Friday, May 13th, 2011

Any large group of adults gathering to play or party in a certain theme for a weekend invites as much over indulgence in the theme for the two days as it does the possibility for sex. This might be true at kink conventions for sure, where the reason for the gathering is sex and all its permutations but at Sci-fi gatherings or other social outings where adults are dressed, acting or speaking with stilted specific speech or mannerisms the role-play can, and usually does, take on a certain sexual overtone.

A Renaissance Faire is one such animal!

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The medieval theme welcomes busty lasses and young virile guys, both audience and workers and hastily built tent villages built in the mud and summer sun of some infrequently used field. Very much like a circus come to town, a Ren faire usually stays for a time so social gatherings between the works and locals are frequent and usually bawdy.

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At night when the make-shift shops are closed, the workers party, and with no place to go and lots of room, the debauchery can reach epic proportions. Already wearing sexy outfits; corsets and tight bodices, the men sporting codpieces and tight leather jerkins, the mood is naughty to begin with and as drink is passed-and there is always plenty of drink to be passed-all manner of sexy trouble is soon brewing between whomever wishes to be brewed. Playing in the guise of minstrels, wizards and drinking wenches all guilt can be assuaged and any manner of coupling can happen for a night or the season.

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There are usually no sexual restrictions in this group. It is a more hedonistic approach to life when you live in a tent for a summer and take your pleasures and bath when you can. Sexual preferences can usually be dashed, at least for a few months, and gay men and women become straight, or bi and heterosexual sex is pretty much a thing of the past for most, both the faire workers or those from town lucky enough to be invited into the inner social circle. These days the net makes socializing better, as one faire can hook-up with another close by for a massive gathering of tribes or invites can go out to Facebook friends who want to stop up for a weekend of sex and fun.

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Why We Love Smut

Friday, May 13th, 2011

Since the dawn of time, mankind has been obsessed with sex, real and depicted. Culture and society have been sexually active since Biblical times when Adam and Eve discovered the joys of lovemaking until they were cursed with birthing the human race.

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With the early Indian cultures we were given the Kama Sutra or series of scripts on the entire ordeal behind courtship, relationships and sex, complete with an entire ten sections dedicated to the 64 different sexual acts used to entice, seduce and persuade a woman to a man’s bed and heart. The Kama Sutra governs practices of sexual ritual all the way from courting and making advances to dealing with the duties of the wife once marriage is established. The book’s thirty-six chapters also delve into sexual practices governing coitus, oral sex, biting, scratching and moaning by the woman in order to be mated to the male.

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Sexuality permeates society in all that we have done. Not just the written word, but storytelling of bawdy limericks and tales not fit for proper society’s ears came from man’s exploits. Sculptures of the various positions and combinations have been found in ancient ruins ranging from India to the Greek and Italian islands in the Mediterranean. African cultures sculpted phallic objects as symbols of potency. The ruins of Pompeii were painted with erotic artwork giving humankind some of the earliest images of gay behavior often associated with the Greek and Roman cultures. As society grew, others painted, sculpted or wrote erotic artwork, much of which is famous today and on display in many prominent museums. Erotica was produced during the Renaissance period for the amusement of the aristocracy. By the twentieth century, erotic photography became the main and most interesting media for erotic art.

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The large debate has rolled on as to whether the works of art are erotic or pornographic such to the point that the Supreme Court became involved in an attempt to explain the difference, but even that venerable institution couldn’t define it properly/ Justice Potter Stewart wrote one of the most famous lines in history concerning the great debate over obscenity; I shall not today attempt further to define the kinds of material I understand to be embraced; but I know it when I see it.

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Worshipping the Goddess

Thursday, May 12th, 2011

Worshipping the divine in the form of the Goddess can be done in a temple with golden statues and all kinds of universal images. It can also be done in your own home, and in the bedroom to be exact. The goddess doesn’t have to be sought after any farther than in the eyes ‘ and more ‘ of a female love.

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In order to touch the goddess, it is important to be in a positive, totally loving state of mind. Each partner bathing before coming together in a tub where the intention is made to wash away all negativity and worries aside from the manner at hand is a good way to begin. When worshipping the Goddess in a formal sexual way, the woman to receive the adoration is seen and experienced as the Goddess Herself as much as possible. She can simply lie back and enjoy whatever her partner wishes to do. Hopefully he or she will have a good deal of previous experience as to how to please a woman.

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A little massage that turns erotic is a good choice of a way to begin turning on a goddess. An all over body massage can easily lead to a good working over of the breasts. A light massage is apropos unless the Goddess requests a heavy touch. From the massage, suckling is a powerful, simple ritual. As The Goddess lies back, the partner can lie adjacent to her and begin suckling. Sucking tits can be a fun, yet mundane sexual act. In this context, the partner should imagine him or herself suckling from Mother Earth herself, and should remember this most sacred source and sustainer of life.

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The Goddess’ body is an amazing playground in both the macrocosm and the microcosm. On the microcosm that is a particular woman’s body who is channeling the Goddess, the worshipper’s hands may roam freely, giving her pleasure. After the suckling and more general rubbing, it is time to move to the chalice or cauldron of the body, the pussy.

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Licking pussy for the Goddess is a treat that cannot be equaled. The taste and smell of her generates feelings of love and reverence. She may imagine herself being the giver of life through her sweet pussy juices.

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Finding Kinky Friends

Thursday, May 12th, 2011

BDSM parties are a great way to meet other kinky people who are looking for fun. People can search adult personals, but it’s not always easy to find other kinky people to play with because a lot of people don’t advertise that they’re into BDSM even on . Some people get worried that someone they know may see them, and they worry that it could hurt their job or cause problems in their personal life in some way. It is a valid concern, because a lot of mainstream people tend to judge others negatively for the private things that go on in their bedrooms. It doesn’t make any sense because having an enjoyable sex life doesn’t mean that a person has no morals, and it doesn’t mean that they’re a bad person. Liking something different doesn’t make them bad people, it only makes them different. Unfortunately some people don’t see it that way.

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Looking for other adults on kinky dating sites or through kinky personals at least ensures that most people on the site are actually kinky. It doesn’t necessarily guarantee how kinky or if they’re really into BDSM, but it’s a start. Of course there are some curious vanilla people that stumble across these types of sites and put up ads and profiles, but they are in the minority, and they either develop a true interest in being kinky or they get freaked out and take their ad down. Either way, they usually don’t really cause any trouble. They want information and possibly to seriously consider whether their deepest darkest fantasies are actually something that they want to try in real life.

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Parties and get-togethers are great ways to meet people because the majority of the time the people that are there already are aware of the fact that they’re kinky and they’re okay with it. They’re pretty clear about what they like and they’re comfortable with themselves. It can save a lot of aggravation to meet people that way and not have to take the chance of bringing up BDSM to someone that might not be entirely comfortable talking about it. Even when vanilla people seem open minded they can sometimes see kink as deviant sexual behavior, and it can freak them out.

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In Praise of Porn

Wednesday, May 11th, 2011

Even though many people put down other people who enjoy looking at erotic images or read sexually explicit books and such the fact is that erotica or pornography can actually be a way of enhancing your sex life in many new and imaginative ways. A good way of looking at this approach is to view erotica or pornography as a kind of sexual or erotic catalog: a way of seeing what else is out there in the world to try or simply to think about and fantasize about while masturbating. Pornography, by itself, is relatively harmless as long as the people involved in it are of-age and what they are doing is not harmful and they are all consenting adults. But even so it is essential to remember that fantasies are just that and even though something might be erotic to look at or read about there is no reason it needs to be done in real-life.

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By viewing or reading porn men and women can be exposed to new and potentially interesting new forms of erotica. The way to do this is either to “spin off” what you normally enjoy looking at or reading or simply try a jump in a totally new direction. For example if you enjoy looking at pictures, say, of women with large breasts try finding images you find sexually arousing with pictures of women with smaller breasts or even in a new direction by looking at random pictures of such. Many men as well as women have found whole new avenues of sexuality and arousal by simply taking a bit of time and cruising the web aimlessly or renting a video they normally would not look at. The sheer availability of the stuff simply makes all this porn so a healthy deep well to explore.

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So while, yes, erotica and pornography may make some people uncomfortable – or that they are simply uncomfortable with the erotic and sexual thoughts or feelings erotica and pornography may bring up in them- we need to keep in mind that pornography can actually be a good and best of all healthy way of expanding your sexual horizons. Alone, with a lover or sharing with friends, porn opens doors in ways no other way of communicating about sex ever can.

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In Praise Of Masturbation

Wednesday, May 11th, 2011

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Even though this is a world now of smart phones, computers, and the internet far too many men and women still have the erroneous thoughts and beliefs that masturbation is somehow either wrong or not as ‘good’ as sex. But nothing could be farther from the truth: time and time again scientists, doctors, and sex researchers have proven that nothing, at all, negative can come from masturbation. It will not ruin anyone for intercourse, it will not make anyone gay, it is not wrong in any way shape or form.
The church might condemn it, but they do so only knowing it feels so good!

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While people can believe what they want, by stigmatizing people who masturbate or by telling young adults and kids that it is wrong all that is happening if keeping them from having a happy and healthy sex life when they are older or, even, by telling adults that it is wrong as well. Medically there is absolutely nothing negative that can happen from a man or a woman masturbating. None at all. In fact, scientists and doctors have found that people who say that they do not masturbate or who put themselves or others down for masturbating often suffer both emotional as well as even physical effects because of it. The emotional problems are obvious as these people feel bad about something they simply cannot control and so deny themselves pleasure because of some misinformed opinion but there are also physical effects as well as it has been proven that men, for instance, who do not masturbate regularly sometimes develop prostate problems and can even have problems such as premature ejaculation simply because they are not used to any kind of erotic stimulus. Many men, in fact, who do suffer from premature ejaculation are told to practice masturbating to learn how their body responds to sexual and erotic stimulation.

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So if you masturbate and feel bad about it try to remember that masturbation is a simple and safe and best of all healthy form of sexuality and that there is absolutely nothing wrong with taking ourselves in hand, solo or with a lover watching. Releasing sexual animus, not to mention fluid makes the body work better and makes for a more peaceful mind.

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