Over the long haul any relationship is bound to see some rocky times. Maintaining a love affair, not to mention a sex life is hard for even the horniest of us, not to mention men and women who have seen their partner naked hundreds of times! It is simply impossible to assume we will keep the same level of romance and attentiveness to sex that we had when we first began dating.
For some couples they find intimacies far afield then just the physical. The mature couple builds on the life they have, maybe the family they have nurtured, certainly more than just the physical. Some couples build their sex life from this, others have to introduce porn into their bedroom, while others allow a little swinging from time to time; any long term commitment requires compromise.
And some couples choose to live like roommates, with the occasion foray into one another’s bedroom when the urge just gets too much. Just because conventional wisdom dictates that partners involved in a love affair must indeed be making love to keep the love affair healthy, doesn’t truly mean all people have to act in lock-step to this edict.
Once we acquiesce to what we will have in our lives with another person-and what we won’t-then we can begin to try and live with the concessions. We might marry someone with no inclining or interest in kink so we will either have to live without, surf on-line fetish sites or find a partner to play with outside of a marriage. Over time our sexual preferences can just as much stay cemented as they can change, our partner will have to contend with this as well if they want to stay with us. Men and women both see their desire for fucking change over the years and simply one partner might stay more libidinous then the other who grows less so.
If a couple can come to a compromise with their sex life, maybe allow some outside dalliances, or agree to a once a month romp in bed, there might be nothing wrong in two people otherwise living like roommates.
Good or bad sex, having it or not-or wanting to have it-is certainly not a good enough reason to call a love affair quits or break-up a family.