Archive for March, 2011

Great Sex

Thursday, March 24th, 2011

tumblr_lgubd8upeQ1qb4reeo1_500The moments after sex can be a really great time to set yoruself up for an even better time later. If couples take the time to really get close and talk to one another about their sexual fantasies , before, during, but mostly after, sex and pay attention, they might just have the best sexual opportunity they have ever had. Why wait and let the moment go to waste when lovers can put in the effort now for a greater time later?
Couples can really get into a great discussion about what one liked and didn’t like so much about the encounter, go back over points, even share a giggle or two over missed opportunities and foreplay that fell short. When partners talk about how a cock was sucked or how a pussy was licked, they might discover what they can do better the next time. Considering everything a learning experience and a chance to improve your game only makes you better at the game. Not only will the couple be investing in a good opportunity for sex, they will also send a clear message to one another that they truly care about their intimacy and the sex life they are building.
If two people truly listen, allow a give and take,  and establish great communication, nothing can go wrong. Any doubts or even slight problems are easily overcome as any recriminations, suspicions and assumptions are discussed in the full light of confession. The lovers will definitely put themselves ahead of the game and assure an even better orgasm the next time they make love. It is a perfect time to really get those good questions out there that might not have been asked or touched upon before.

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We all want to please a partner and be pleased back; in the end, we’’d all like even better sex than we are already having, even if the sex we are already having is wonderful. There are always more things to know about a lover, more avenues to explore, even kinks to talk over and try. What better time to even consider your next time in bed then when your are still in bed? The warmth of a good orgasm, the calm that descends on both parties, and the openness we feel sharing our sexuality with another human being, can only lead to an honest exploration of the future.

Exploring Kinky Threesomes

Thursday, March 24th, 2011

Exploring kinky sex usually starts at home. Sharing a fantasy or trying role play or doing something they saw in a porn with a lover can begin a new level of sexual adventure. Common practices may include light bondage or spanking. Many couples experiment with many types of BDSM scenes, ideas, props and clothes, and it adds excitement to lovemaking.

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Loving couples practice many types of kinky sex together. While exploring new fantasies and desires, many lovers will keep their kinky desires in the bedroom. Sometimes the fantasies may expand. Light role play, the acting out of sexual fantasies, might include the use of props. The privacy of fantasies and the intimate nature of kinky sextumblr_l92g66RlmP1qzkcgao1_500may be enough for lovers. A boyfriend might visit a sex shop for a dildo or a sex toy for nipple play, and bring them home as a special surprise. A girlfriend might buy a new piece of silky lingerie to entice her lover or excite herself. More elaborate costumes, such as a French maid outfits or a pair of leather boots might add spice in the bedroom.
Over time, the couple may express an interest in adding a third person. Fantasizing about a threesome is considered kinky, whether or not bondage or spanking is part of the fantasy. A common threesome fantasy is two women and one man. The man can either be dominant or submissive. If a dominant man, ordering the two women to pleasure each other as a private sex show is fantastic. Especially if, after the women perform for him, they will then take turns sucking him off. If the man is submissive, the two women may tie him to the bed, and take turns sitting on his face or fucking. Being forced to please two women, licking pussy while kneeling and crawling back and forth between two dominant women is another way for a threesome to happen.
A threesome with two men and one woman is a very common fantasy. Cocksucking while having a man fuck her cunt, to feel filled from both ends is exciting. The woman can be dominant or submissive. As a slavegirl she might be tied down and blindfolded, her legs spread. The kinky fantasy of being forced to sexually please multiple men is exciting for many a submissive woman.

Asking for What You Want

Wednesday, March 23rd, 2011

Do you have a special desire that you are afraid to talk about? Do you think that what you would like in your relationship or in the bedroom is just too unconventional for your lover? Are you held back by a general shyness when it comes to emotions and sex? You are not alone. Many people experience these kinds of anxieties. Between taking the time to work on skills to allow you to be more expressive and meeting like-minded people who are a match for what you want out of life, the resources are out there to help you give and receive all you want out of love and life.
If you do believe that your sexual or relationship desires are non-mainstream, it may be a productive idea to seek others who are like-minded as you begin to seek serious partnership. Being with someone who holds similar ideals and who has compatible interests and kinks will prove many times more fruitful.  If you are polyamorous and like to make love outside on a secluded beach, does it make sense to try to forge a relationship with someone who is monogamous and expects to only do it behind closed doors? Those are just basic relationship factors that should be in sync. If you have more exotic tastes like costume play or diapers that even mainstream porn doesn’t always show us, there are groups for you to discover online and elsewhere to help you meet your special someone.

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Do you have a friend you can trust? If so, you may want to consider a role-playing game. It sounds corny at first, but try it. Say you want to tell your boyfriend or girlfriend that you want to try anal sex but you feel nervous. Go over it a few times with the friend you’ve already been confiding in about it. Say it a few different ways. The friend will be able to help you find the way that you think you’’ll be able to express it.
Ultimately, the goal is this: Trust your lover. Being in a relationship means existing together in a consciousness of love and trust. The ideal is to honor each other and all of your wants and needs. If it’s love, you will weather exploration and newness together.

Female Fetish

Wednesday, March 23rd, 2011

tumblr_lcnk7kYfe91qcoe22o1_500Some women ache to wear corsetry, lingerie and high heels in manner that goes beyond just wanting to dress-up and look pretty. Many a girl grows into her sexual awareness with more than just a passing fancy for the girdle she spied her older aunt wearing, or has more than just a passing thought for the leather of her handbag. These women, lesbians, straight or bi, might simply be fetishists.
Women, not just men, can have fetishes to. Some are medical-related fetishes, some are centered around clothes-though female fetishists don’t exactly mirror their male counterparts in getting wet for men in construction boots; while a guy might like to jerk-off to women in porn-ish high heels, some women simply grow aroused over objects that were linked to their budding sexuality. Even before she was fully aware of her libido, a woman might have tripped across some sort of sensual awareness linked to an object or activity, something not sexual at all, and, as is the case for all fetishes, one was created subconsciously. From that day onward, the women experienced sexual excitement over that object, stimulated in ways her waking mind was not even aware of. But the link colored her sexuality all the same.
Unlike male fetishists, women can easily take to complete dressing-up as a manifestation of their fetish. Both straight and gay ladies have been known to dress butch, as much as femmes enjoy the trappings of both modes of dress, to the point where it becomes their fetish, paralleling male transvestite’s fetishism for dressing in women’s clothing. Binding oneself in a corset and even inflicting self-cutting is seen as another form of female fetishism, with the latter being a most extreme case.

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And when a fetish does get extreme, or a woman cannot function without it, then therapy might be needed. An indulgent lover is one thing, amassing a big shoe collection another, but once a fetish becomes impossible for a woman to handle, then it might be time to put all the dressing-up and leather stroking into some sort of workable perspective.

It’s Almost Too Quiet

Tuesday, March 22nd, 2011

We tend to take to a facility as mercury does to a vessel. Men and women, no matter their age, will grow with and to something, use it to their fullest until it is no longer useful, filling, in effect, the vessel to its utmost limit. This is true of the Internet and all it provides. Speed, world-wide communication, free porn, anonymity, the culling of potential products, service and even people one wishes to date; we use the net as much as we can because it simply exists for our use. And while it makes our movements ‘quiet,’ in a sense, this doesn’t mean guys and girls are not moving across the web landscape any less. In fact, the actual reverse is true; because the net provides a virtually silent landscape and the ability to move freely about to any place and contact a wide group of people, men and women are using the net more.

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And they are using the net mostly to find one another. In feverish activity unmatched in our modern times, singles-as well as married people-are looking for and finding one another faster then ever before. On-line dating sites provide the facility for countless singles to find one another, leading to many more dates, hook-ups and new couples that want to indulge in their sexual festishes. Just because people are meeting less and less at the old church mixer doesn’t mean they are not meeting. Just because there are less love letters being sent doesn’t mean the texts couples send to one another aren’t hot.
And just because people are spending less time to get to know one another in person and spending more time on line to feel each other out, doesn’t mean that those same people are taking their time when they do meet to get into bed!
The art of seduction has become insidious because of on-line interactions, but it’s no less effective. These days a couple learns the rules well before even meeting, they can view a person’s pictures and interests, and they have a clear idea what they might or might not do even before they meet a potential date to see if chemistry exists between them.
It’s for this reason that sex, in all its form and permutations, can happen very quick for the on-line hook-up, and sexual sins are still being committed, in fact with more frequency and almost always between completely consenting adults.

The world is just as wild, but now begins on line.

Moving in Together

Monday, March 21st, 2011

So the work has been done: – online dating websites were joined and a million e-mails were sent.  Now, hundreds of false starts and bad dates later, two people have finally clicked and found each other and have forged a very successful romantic relationship. The next obvious step is moving in together, and both are ready to take the plunge.

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Moving in together can sometimes be a challenge for heterosexual couples because men and women really are from different planets. There are a lot of things that men and women don’t see eye –to-eye on, and often it’’s difficult to explain things to each other because the opposite gender always seems to not really get the explanation. For instance, men don’t really understand the whole concept of decorative towels that cannot be used. Towels are towels and they’re meant to dry off after washing. It seems silly to hang up towels that cannot be used, especially when they’’re hung on the most convenient rack in the entire bathroom. To men, this makes no sense. On the other hand, women do not usually understand exactly how a collection of baseball caps or Budweiser decorative beer steins could constitute appropriate decoration for the living room. To women, these are casual items and not the appropriate knick-knacks and decorative items for a living room. The family room or bar area, maybe, but the living room tends to be kind of sacred to most women. She might have said they were cute when she visited your place, guys, but either she didn’t mean it or the thinly veiled sarcasm was not noticed due to your extreme desire to make porn with her. Bottom line is, she’s not going to want them in the new, shared living room.

It’’s really not worth it to fight over silly things like this. Find a happy compromise and don’t ruin the excitement of moving in together and starting a new chapter in this relationship. Focus on having romance and awesome sex and building a life together. Make love, not war! There will be plenty of other growing pains as two people begin to blend their lives, and some much more important than silly decorating disputes. The important thing to do is to remember that falling in love brought things to this point, and it should be a happy time to be celebrated.

Life Changing Technology

Monday, March 21st, 2011

The internet and all of our modern technology have really changed people’s lives significantly. The internet provides an incredible resource for people to find information on nearly any topic they could possible imagine, and technology provides it to us quickly, wirelessly and while we are on the go. Ten years ago many people could not have imagined using their telephone to access limitless amounts of information while in their car or walking through a park.

Some of the most significant changes that the internet has made in our lives is how we meet people and date, and how we get our porn. Internet dating has become commonplace at this point, so has free porn. Online datinghot-nude-modelswebsites offer opportunities to meet people we would never come in contact with in real life. People have romantic relationships with other people who are in other states, across the country and sometimes even the other side of the world. The internet has allowed people to get to know each other and form strong bonds of friendship and even love without having ever met in person. The technology available allows us to communicate instantly and at an incredibly low cost with instant messaging and Skype, and most cell phone packages offer free long distance within one’’s home country.

Another huge difference the internet has made is the availability of sexual information and pornography. If there is a kink or fetish a person is curious about, it’s safe and easy to look it up on the computer. People can even find photos and videos for any kink that their interested in so they can actually see whatever it is without having to sneak off to some dark, secret sex club to see whatever it is that they’re interested in. Before the internet, that was often the only viable option for finding out more about kinky sex, and quite often the place didn’t seem safe or clean. Women who were kinky had few options for safe venues in which they could explore their sexuality and curiosity. With the secret clubs of the past, people were often put off a bit by the neighborhoods these places were in, and a lot of people didn’t feel safe. For newcomers, it must have been a particularly nerve-wracking experience to go to some of these places, especially as a single.

Safer Sex

Friday, March 18th, 2011

There’s no denying it — everybody who’s tried it enjoys the feel of unprotected fucking — of nothing between one and the body of their lover but their wetness or favorite sex lube. A naked cock and a naked cunt or, perhaps, a naked ass-fucking. One loves to share this kind of intimacy with the right lover, one with whom one is committed and knows to be safe, and one loves to see it in porn.

And yet how often is one in this situation? There are many times — indeed most times — when the best kind of sex is safe sex. Perhaps one picked up that smoking hottie at the local gay bar or the singles meat market. Maybe one has tried to put up a profile on an online adult dating site. One has met that sexy online date and is ready to take it back to the bedroom. Whether you’re gay or straight, a lesbian, a queer. If one is into bondage and domination or a swinger, one can learn to enjoy safer sex. Of course if one already has a latex fetish, lucky you!

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Of course condoms are the safer sex suppliers one encounters most often. One can find all kinds of condoms nowadays. One can find huge condoms for huge dicks and smaller ones for smaller cocks. One can use a condom on one’s favorite dildo or sex toy for sharing it with others. One can find flavored cocks for a tasty sweet blowjob. There are even condoms made from polyisoprene now, which are just as tight as latex condom but safe for those with allergies. They also smell better and don’t leave that condom taste on your cock or cunt — a big help for cunnilingus and fellatio during a long fuck time.

Of course safe sex doesn’t stop there. One can use gloves to protect hands during sexy play. This is great for anal fingering when it keeps things clean and makes one’s fingers extra smooth and slippery when one adds lubricant. There are dental dams for oral sex — great with a little flavored lube and hear her moan.

Don’t let the need for hygiene and protected sex turn one off. Instead look at it as a way to enjoy new kinds of fun with more new people.

Getting Started in Online Chat Rooms

Friday, March 18th, 2011

Practicing our conversation skill in an on-line chat room makes not only for good practice for a date conversation, but a better time in chatrooms as we go about meeting and flirting with singles just like us.
Making up an online name can be as simple as choosing a variation on a real name. But a great way to start flirting is to choose a name that reflects an action or porn desire. It helps set the right mood for the conversation.sex-vs-computer-games01
A way to be noticed in on line chat rooms is to speak up. Even a simple hello can work. But getting the conversation going needs more than a hello, and asking people how everyone is doing. One of the reasons to be in a chat room is to get away from mundane conversations. Before logging in, think of something sexy to say. Open ended conversations or questions are good. Sharing an image of lying in bed and then asking people what might happen next is an invitation to flirt and share some on line sex. Talking about wanting to try something new and then asking for feedback can spark a conversation as well.
There can be a lot of action in on-line chat rooms. Sometimes it can feel overwhelming, especially if the text is moving across the screen very quickly. Other times, it seems like no one is saying anything. This is common in the land of on-line communication. Just like how there are people who dominate conversations in person, there are people who can do that on-line as well. A way to keep that from happening is to keep on-line comments to only one or two sentences at a time. And the reader can just skip over and look for familiar on-line names to chat with, which is like ignoring the loud guy at the party.
Most on-line chat rooms offer a chance to whisper to someone else in the room, allowing for a private conversation to take place. This is a great way to flirt one-on-one, and can lead to a potential online fuck. And the privacy a chat allows is unparrelled. If something happens on-line that is embarrassing, it’s easy to stop. Log off. Change the on-line name and start over, or go to another on-line chat site. The advantage of on-line chatting is that it is anonymous.

Take The Long Way

Thursday, March 17th, 2011

Sex on the run can have a lot of entertainment value, and can bring people closer by virtue of experiencing something fun and possibly extra naughty and risky together. Sometimes just the opposite experience is in order, however. Protracted, slow-moving lovemaking that takes all day can be a beautiful thing.tantric-sex-2
It is hard for some to imagine sex without a goal in mind. According to the way many or even most Westerners have learned to have sex, the idea is to get to orgasm as fast as possible. For others, it is to cum as much as possible, or even to conceive a child. Those interested in Tantric sex aim to unite the Divine Masculine with the Divine Feminine to deepen spiritual consciousness and connection. It is a different experience entirely to approach the sexual experience without expectation.
To experience sex in this way, try it on an evening where your schedule is entirely clear. If there is to be no agenda for the sex, there also shouldn’’t be an impending deadline or activity needed in another arena of life. Try drawing a hot bath and relaxing. This could be done with your lover or each separately, meeting each other after both have relaxed well and released all outside worries. Once together, choose a fragrant oil and massage each other deeply. Pay close attention to all parts of the body: —feet, hands, shoulders, back, belly, and the rest. Too often, erotic touch focuses only on the tits, ass, and genitals. Touch those places as you may, but in conjunction with the rest of the body.
Then, simply allow the massage to merge into more. A gentle touch on the lower back becomes an embrace around the belly, becomes hands moving slowly down to the penis. As he becomes fully erect and she gets more excited, allow kisses to progress to kissing and sucking on those special places. More massage will be sexier, as slow-burning love intensifies. When it is time for entry, both will know and the orgasm that follows is sure to be amazing.

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Fucking in any position is fine, but the first sex position should allow for full eye contact. Look into each other’s’ eyes, come together only when that energy arises all on its own after long, slow motions.