Sex on the run can have a lot of entertainment value, and can bring people closer by virtue of experiencing something fun and possibly extra naughty and risky together. Sometimes just the opposite experience is in order, however. Protracted, slow-moving lovemaking that takes all day can be a beautiful thing.
It is hard for some to imagine sex without a goal in mind. According to the way many or even most Westerners have learned to have sex, the idea is to get to orgasm as fast as possible. For others, it is to cum as much as possible, or even to conceive a child. Those interested in Tantric sex aim to unite the Divine Masculine with the Divine Feminine to deepen spiritual consciousness and connection. It is a different experience entirely to approach the sexual experience without expectation.
To experience sex in this way, try it on an evening where your schedule is entirely clear. If there is to be no agenda for the sex, there also shouldn’t be an impending deadline or activity needed in another arena of life. Try drawing a hot bath and relaxing. This could be done with your lover or each separately, meeting each other after both have relaxed well and released all outside worries. Once together, choose a fragrant oil and massage each other deeply. Pay close attention to all parts of the body: feet, hands, shoulders, back, belly, and the rest. Too often, erotic touch focuses only on the tits, ass, and genitals. Touch those places as you may, but in conjunction with the rest of the body.
Then, simply allow the massage to merge into more. A gentle touch on the lower back becomes an embrace around the belly, becomes hands moving slowly down to the penis. As he becomes fully erect and she gets more excited, allow kisses to progress to kissing and sucking on those special places. More massage will be sexier, as slow-burning love intensifies. When it is time for entry, both will know and the orgasm that follows is sure to be amazing.
Fucking in any position is fine, but the first sex position should allow for full eye contact. Look into each other’s eyes, come together only when that energy arises all on its own after long, slow motions.