The act of being submissive for many involves a lot of high intensity pain and restraints of the heaviest leathers and iron cold manacles. Torture is a key staple in their lives as they crave punishment. They’re begging for attention in a variety of ways that usually end up with a well-deserved ass beating.
There are people who crave something different, something sexual, sensual and still involving the rush of erotic power exchange in their relationships. Sensual Domination can be inclusive of all the fun things such as bondage and hardcore role play. The difference usually lies in tone of commands issued by the dominant and use of different tactics such as restraints with softer materials more often thought of as sensual.
Silk and satin are great starters here as well as any fabric that is sleek, soft and leaves no marks.
Harsh commands need not be given to the person submitting as those are usually ineffective or less effective than the honey-like come hither of a Marilyn Monroe impression. The way a dominant moves in sensual domination involves graceful movements. With an air of playfulness, rather than outright control, the Sensual Dominant excites, titillates and teases their pray with sex toys such as vibrators, feathers, even their own fingernails. There can be an element of danger but trust is still the key component of allowing oneself to be dominated. The submissive still gets off on the power exchange dynamic yet the subtleties make all the difference.
Punishment doesn’t have to revolve around harsh and obscure tortures that require a myriad of devices that existed only in the middle ages. Rather, the threat of denial can work wonders.
With trust being the key issue here, the terms and actions of any event going forward are still negotiated and discussed so both parties get the amount of satisfaction they desire. Sometimes things happen that make the scenes even better than both partners imagine.
In public, displays of hidden dominance can be just as slight regardless of the style of play. Clothes can become symbols with meaning only to those who know and understand the BDSM lifestyle while those who are not kinky (or deny their kink) can remain in the dark.