Firm grip masturbation can often lead to a lack of enjoyment with sex and blow jobs. Many men have misguidedly grown accustomed to a firm grip when jerking off, leaving a high bar for any partner to reach with her mouth, hand and pussy. You may feel like you just don’t enjoy oral sex or hand jobs; after all, no one’s ever done it as well as you. If you are willing to put effort into easing up on the squeeze, this should be manageable for you. If you’ve got a willing partner you can communicate well with, you’re laughing.
What may be required going forward is to take a hands-free approach until you are able to resolve this. You need to work on retraining this poor, battered cock of yours. Here are a few tips:
1) No more hard firm grip, go cold turkey. This is going to take some discipline, but with help from your partner it should be manageable.
2) Use a gentle grip for the same amount of time it would normally take to come, and even if you don’t come, stop.
3) If you have a partner, show and tell her what you like. You can ask her to use more pressure as you wean yourself off of your grip and onto hers. Use this sparingly if you can, as you still want to be able to take care of yourself without resorting to old bad habits.
4) Use clear direction and regular progress reports. This allows you to make sure you keep her in the loop, as well as learning verbalize what you want.
5) Don’t feel badly. Understand this is reciprocal as well. Most women need direct clitoral stimulation and only 25% of us can climax with vaginal intercourse alone. Take your time and be patient.
Think of how good you feel when you get someone else off, and how much better she will feel when she, too, has that power; especially where so many women before her have failed. Then you’ll be busting a nut like a porn star!
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